Jaf15 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Hey brahs, just venting. 4 months out of a 3 year relationship, was my first gf. I'm 20. Although for the most part I'm doing much better(lost 45 lbs toned up since breakup) I still have off moments where I get down like crazy. I am currently talking to two chicks who are better looking then the ex which is an ego boost. One I've went on a few dates with, and one in which I'm going to chill with next week. They both show lots of interest( initiating txts) sending me pics of them, and talk about wanting to do ga* stuff such as cuddling. Idk though, when I'm not talking to them I seem to get down. ( co dependency problem) maybe ?? Guess I'm down when I'm not with or chatting other girls which is bad. Thoughts or advice? Anyone know the feel? Thanks brahs
David84 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Hey buddy, Im very codependant as well. I always have been. im 28 and have had 4, 1.5, 1.5, 2 and 2 year relationships. Not a single one was easy to get over. In my experience it honestly takes half the time you were with them to completely get back to the feelings of them being a stranger. Anytime im not involving myself in other things I find myself thinking about what I had or thought i had in my case. This site helps me a ton to stay focused. Google things that your feeling and read about it, you need to get a system in place because its going to be a long road to recovery unfortunetly. It just is. So plan your routine and stick to it. Honestly working out with my ipod on has been the best medicine for me, i never used to work out before and for that hour I stop thinking and rage out and when your done you look in the mirror and it makes you feel good about yourself and **** her for leaving. Take the time to work on yourself so you can attract someone even BETTER!
Floored Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I know the feel. Lost some weight here too, toning up, chicks starting to talk and it's definitely nice. Don't just think you're going to get over her one day, it'll take some time; think of how much you've been working out, it was just crap when you first started right? And even though day to day it was hard to notice improvement, you could compare week to week and notice small victories; a whole month will show huge improvement. It's a day by day thing that doesn't feel any different, but I can assure you it's much better to be here than to be three months back. As far as the girls go, definitely don't tell them that they're hotter than your ex. Even if they are- and grats there- you set the tone for comparing them to your ex and will put them on guard. This is only from my experience. I thought I was complementing them in some fashion; unless they specifically ask "Am I way hotter than your ex", best to not bring any comparisons up.
Author Jaf15 Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 Thanks for the replies guys. I agree with you both completely. Just thought after 4 months, losing all the weight, talking to a few girls, and doing nc for 3 months i would be over this
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