Complicated1112 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Still on NC. I guess I'm lucky because my story is not as dramatic as others. It was an EA lasted for few months that also LD. I think we care about each other enough to not be present in each other life (the irony). I do miss the friendship we had for years and now I'm wondering when did we cross the line? When I decided to go NC he respected the decision and he said that he regretted our deepest feelings ruined our friendship. Anybody experienced losing best friends this way? What would you have done differently if you know the chemistry is there?
MourningLosses Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I'm going through this loss now. He was my whole world. I feel for you.
Author Complicated1112 Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 So I thought I was supposed to 'healed' already. Initiated NC, changed my phone number, then even moved to a different country. It wasn't even a long EA, I heard you should be able to forget someone half of the time you had the R. Well, not exactly the case with me. Then out of the blue, he sent me a message 'happy new year, a mutual friend said hi.' Why the mutual friend didn't say hi to me directly? Why does it make me feel so sad? We do have a lot of mutual friends, and work in the same niche industry. It won't be difficult to find each other if you really want to. Then on Social Media I still get the newsfeed from those mutual friends. When can I really be over him? Any advice to speed up the healing process?
missy268 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 You have to really go through the motions When they break NC its sort of a set back Don't rush yourself to be healed, just carry on with your life, and eventually it will come x
Author Complicated1112 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Thank you missy... I guess there is no magic pill.
movingon45 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I'm going through the same thing. That's what sucks after an affair - you also lose the friendship and the connection.
Cali408 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Been there, still have had no contact, hopefully you didn't reply. Everyone slips just keep moving forward
jwi71 Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 What is missing within yourself that contact with him fulfills?
Author Complicated1112 Posted January 5, 2013 Author Posted January 5, 2013 What is missing within yourself that contact with him fulfills? The contact doesn't fulfill anything, it was upsetting instead. It has been so long, but now I feel that I'm back in 'anger' stage again.
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