thatgothicchick Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 So...I have a guy-friend who I've developed feelings for...(I'm not entirely sure which category to put this in, because he is taken, and I've made it clear to him that I have no intention of trying to break them up, and we have remained friends...so I GUESS it's kind of a friendship/complicated romantic thing) Anyways...after he asked me whether or not I liked him, he told me it was okay and that he understood and that we would still be friends...we talked, texted, hung out quite a bit...and then he just stopped. He vaguely told me he was upset about something, but nothing more...I've tried to break the ice a few times, but I have not been badgering him or making him feel like he is obligated to me or anything...I DID tell him he could talk to me about it if he wanted, but has said nothing to me at all ever since. What the heck?! We were getting along so well. It just sort of...happened. One day we were hanging out, and then he just stopped all contact with me. I really miss him. =( I never put any "moves" on him unless we were jokingly flirting with each other...but I do that with a lot of my platonic guy friends...I honestly don't think there was anything I did wrong, but perhaps some of you might have experienced something similar? Please tell me what would cause this kind of behavior...
whichwayisup Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I don't think he's given this much thought. He seems much more important to you than you are to him. Sorry to be blunt there, its just that he is with someone and more than likely doesn't want to hurt his gf by becoming too close with you, even more so now that you told him you liked him. Don't take it so personally (aka, letting your feelings get in the way) and don't over think this and make it complicated. Bottomline is, you like him and he has a gf. He doesn't want a close friendship with you, he doesn't want to confide in you about his personal life. Maybe it's time to change your focus and let go of him for a while. Date others and be with your women friends, hangout and have fun.
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