tori0001 Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 she might be bi polar, which would explain a lot.
Author Johnny85 Posted August 26, 2012 Author Posted August 26, 2012 She is wild and doesn't know what she wants. She flip flops left and right, John Kerry and Mitt Romney style. Yet she continues to text me every single day....
The Way I Am Posted August 26, 2012 Posted August 26, 2012 I'm proud of you for finally standing up for yourself. From her pursuit in response, I'm wondering if now that she can't have you, you'll become the guy she's hung up on. Maybe she pulled the same thing with the last guy, and when she was with him, she was all hung up on a 3rd guy. I wonder if this other guy used to be in your shoes and she only got hung up on him after he decided not to take her sh*t anymore. Hell, maybe he is still in your shoes, and she's still doing the same thing to him. I wonder whether one day she's telling him she's in love with him and the next telling him to leave her alone because she's in a relationship. I think this girl only wants what she can't have. It's exhausting trying to have a relationship with someone like that -- as you've been finding out. The only way to keep someone like that around it is to turn into an ahole and treat them badly enough that they always wonder where they stand with you. That's a screwed up way to live your life. I wouldn't want to do it. Just ignore her and go NC. You'll be much happier in the long run.
Author Johnny85 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 Thanks The_Way_Am, Last Friday she called me and said she missed me, loved me, and that she meant it (this was after I didn't see her for a few days). She was gone over the weekend on a trip, so I didn't see her. She kindly asked if I would pick her up at the airport on Monday, which I did. Then she wanted us to sleep together and I just couldn't get over what she told me last wednesday (that she had talked to the other guy for two hours and she was having doubts about us).... We ended up talking last night (after I picked her up from the airport) for two hours. She told me that the reason why she was having doubts was because she felt that it should be so easy for another guy to come in between us, and that she deleted him from everything and that she wrote him a letter not to contact her again. Then she was back and forth again about us being in a relationship. She said she felt forced and that we should just date and see what happens. So now she is making me feel bad for trying to define whether we are in a relationship or not. She is not ok with me seeing other women but she has major doubts about us. We slept together and she help me close like no one has ever done before. Today she didn't text me like she usually does. When we said goodbye this morning she said I'll call you tonight or tomorrow. I feel really really sad right now.
the ill-made knight Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 I say this truly for your own good. Have you lost your ever loving mind???? It's obvious that she's hung up on this other guy that does not want her and wants to keep you around for comfort. Ditch her. Next her. Delete her. Whatever you want to call it, just stop speaking to her for goodness sakes. Change your number if you have just stop!
Author Johnny85 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 Is it common for women to keep guys around for their comfort?
veggirl Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 Is it common for women to keep guys around for their comfort? women who lack emotional health, yes. women who require attention/validation from men to fee good about themselves, yes. both of which I think would sum up your gal pal and why she hangs out with you and runs hot/cold. 2
The Way I Am Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 I feel really really sad right now. I feel bad for you, but do you realize you're doing it to yourself at this point? She's shown you her pattern, and you're well aware of it. But you keep going back. You're doing the same thing hoping for a different result. You've heard that's Einstein's definition of insanity right? Is it common for women to keep guys around for their comfort? veggirl nailed it. It is common for women who are emotionally unhealthy. There are a lot of posts on this forum from guys who've become bitter and think all women are like this because they received similar mistreatment from one or more unhealthy women and didn't have the backbone to walk away before those women ripped their hearts out. I hope you'll walk away before this experience turns you bitter, because it's much more difficult to find a healthy, loving woman when you're full of bitterness and resentment.
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