bunnyboileri Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Hello all. I love this site and it is giving me great comfort. So what happened to me. I have been diagnosed with a heart problem, this has slowed me down and I have put on a lot of weight. Feeling like I had a collection of encyclopedias on your chest and sometimes struggling for breath does not put you in the mood for sex. Feeling very fat doesnt either. My on off partner of eight years , we have a 6 year old child I am 48 he is 36 and a very stupid 36. was still entertained in the bedroom in other ways a couple of times a week but he was always pestering me and getting grumpy because I was not interested. He started mentioning a woman at work a lot and how she would love to hook up with him, and his phone would be getting texts at home at 11 o clock at night in bed. Anyway he went on a night out with work and a few days later did not come home all night but after work the next day. I asked him if he had spent the night with her and he said yes, He left me 2 days later and moved in with her. she is 50 with no kids big boobs and wears lots of make up, just his type. Until that point her relationship was with a turkish waiter she was planning on bringing over to the Uk, which makes her a very silly 50 year old in my eyes who probably is insecure. I dont want him back, after 8 years of him being an alcoholic now gone through the AA program. It was the hardest years of my life we split several times and at those times he was soon off with other women. I cant stop anylizing it. I feel lonely as although things were bad he was my best friend of course he was. I feel grief at my loss. Our child goes to theirs for the weekend and tells me all about how they have a big massive tv and how daddys always kissing her. I should want them to work really as everyone deserves happiness dont they, and I have freedom on a weekend. 3 weeks after he left I had a gastric band op and I am now 2 weeks post op. He couldnt wait for me to be better could he, after everything he put me through in our years together. I will get a heart op in time just waiting for it. Why am I so upset, he was a difficult person to live with as he was a lazy immature big kid. He doesnt have the time of day for me now doesnt have anything to say to me he just picks up the boy and drops him off. No texting or emails and he has ended our scrabble games on facebook, he has severed our ties and I am alone whle he is off any its all going great for him. I keep thinking where will we both be by christmas time, I will be much lighter and more attractive and what will he be doing. Is there much chance of his relationship working when they stupidly moved in together so quickly whilst engulfed by lust and infatuation. I would really welcome your replies.
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