Author truth_seeker Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Hmmm... I'd try not to read too much into the 'friend' right now. You don't know what the nature of the 'friendship' is between them and you will cause yourself alot of unnecessary headaches. I'd suggest not responding to her for now. Take care of things first with the woman you are interested in. Get clarity on that. Then you can decide what to do later. According to the one I like, when speaking to her, she brought up her friend and mentioned the friend is part of her inner circle and single. I told the one I like how I felt about her and then she dropped her friend altogether and focused on me. It was like she was using her friend as a scapegoat but then suddenly decided she liked me and wanted to connect.
RedRobin Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 According to the one I like, when speaking to her, she brought up her friend and mentioned the friend is part of her inner circle and single. I told the one I like how I felt about her and then she dropped her friend altogether and focused on me. It was like she was using her friend as a scapegoat but then suddenly decided she liked me and wanted to connect. Huh... that's odd... When in doubt, it's always best to ask a direct question if you have concerns... respectfully of course.
Author truth_seeker Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Huh... that's odd... When in doubt, it's always best to ask a direct question if you have concerns... respectfully of course. Read your PM.
RedRobin Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Read your PM. I'm sorry... but I prefer not to have private conversations with LS folks right now. I've decided to keep communications out in the open for the time being unless it is absolutely necessary. Nothing personal. Good luck managing this situation.
Author truth_seeker Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 I'm sorry... but I prefer not to have private conversations with LS folks right now. I've decided to keep communications out in the open for the time being unless it is absolutely necessary. Nothing personal. Good luck managing this situation. - Cheers!
Author truth_seeker Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Haven't experienced that. IME, a rejection such as that has eliminated the entire social sub-circle. Now that's what I would think but I tend to think on the logical side.
McGuffin Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 (edited) If I weren't interested in a guy but my friend was, I wouldn't stop her from pursuing him. If she really liked the guy and I thought she might have a chance, I'd tell her to go ahead. 1-2 weeks is hardly enough time for either side to develop any serious feelings, so it's not like going after your friend's ex or anything. If she knew the guy was into me, then I wouldn't think it was smart of her, but it's not inappropriate. According to the one I like, when speaking to her, she brought up her friend and mentioned the friend is part of her inner circle and single. I told the one I like how I felt about her and then she dropped her friend altogether and focused on me. It was like she was using her friend as a scapegoat but then suddenly decided she liked me and wanted to connect. How do you know that girl #2 is aware of your interest in girl #1? Did you tell girl #2 or are you assuming girl #1 told girl #2 what you said? Sounds to me like she was trying to set you up with her friend from the start. Then you sprung the fact that you're into her instead. I think her friend liked you and may not know you're "scraps". (Terrible way to think of yourself or anybody btw.) If I were trying to set my friend up with a guy she liked, and he told me he liked me instead, I would discourage her from pursuing the guy. But I probably wouldn't tell her he liked me over her. It would be a pretty rough blow to her ego. Edited August 7, 2012 by McGuffin
Author truth_seeker Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 (edited) How do you know that girl #2 is aware of your interest in girl #1? Did you tell girl #2 or are you assuming girl #1 told girl #2 what you said? Sounds to me like she was trying to set you up with her friend from the start. Then you sprung the fact that you're into her instead. I think her friend liked you and may not know you're "scraps". (Terrible way to think of yourself or anybody btw.) If I were trying to set my friend up with a guy she liked, and he told me he liked me instead, I would discourage her from pursuing the guy. But I probably wouldn't tell her he liked me over her. It would be a pretty rough blow to her ego. Girls talk. They all do. Girl #1 told Girl #2 what was up. They're friends. I don't think I'm "scraps". Bad choice of words on my part. That's what I'm getting at. The blow to her ego. How could #2 even think I would have the slightest interest after what was said between me and #1? If #2 even suggested me and her, I would tell her how I'm into #1 and no thanks. She would only be setting herself up for getting hurt unless she is delusional. Too much was said between me and girl #1, too much was revealed. #1 even came clean just enough to show me that she liked me. Edited August 7, 2012 by truth_seeker
McGuffin Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Girls talk. They all do. Girl #1 told Girl #2 what was up. They're friends. Do you know that for a fact or are you assuming it? Did you hear that convo or did either one of them tell you they had it? Your interpretation of what happened is: 1. You tell girl #1 you like her. 2. Girl #1 tells girl #2 what you said. #1 seems to like you but encourages #2 to go after you. 3. Girl #2 goes after you even though she knows you like #1. That just doesn't make any sense.
Titania22 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 I don't know. But what I do know, is that when I met my last boyfriend, I was trying to get him and my girlfriend together. (I have never done that before, I just figured that he was just her type.) I didn't realise he was more interested in me.
Author truth_seeker Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 Do you know that for a fact or are you assuming it? Did you hear that convo or did either one of them tell you they had it? Your interpretation of what happened is: 1. You tell girl #1 you like her. 2. Girl #1 tells girl #2 what you said. #1 seems to like you but encourages #2 to go after you. 3. Girl #2 goes after you even though she knows you like #1. That just doesn't make any sense. I agree. So why then is #2 chatting me up all of a sudden?
Author truth_seeker Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 if you're annoying enough then yeah she'll probably get one of her ugly friends to dive on the grenade(you). If I were to go after a random girl and she gave me no signs at all, and I still pursued her, then your metaphor would make great sense.
irc333 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 One person's "scraps" is another person's "treasure", right?
Author truth_seeker Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 One person's "scraps" is another person's "treasure", right? We're not talking about items. We're talking about people.
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