dannykeyz831 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I wasn't sure if this was the right place to post this but here it goes anyway. Why is it that when women call us and for some reason we don't pickup, Its the end of the god damn world? But when we call and they don't pick up, its not that big of a deal? God forbid we have a life and not be away from our phones for more than a minute in case they decide to call us. I got blown off by 2 girls in these past three weeks because of that. The first girl blew me off after not having responded to two of her calls and three of her text messages. She basically said that me not communicating with her off the bat was a sure sign that she shouldn't continue with me any further. The second girl blew me off because I didn't respond to her for a whole day after she had texted me "good morning hun" the day before. I had barely met these girls too. Unbelievable! 1
Taramere Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'll be blunt. If that's you in the pic, then they're probably assuming that you're delaying calling/failing to respond to texts as some sort of petty power play/strategy. Reason being, the image you're projecting is very pimp-like....and I guarantee you that women are liable to see you as a whole lot less genuine as a result. I know it's an insulting comment, and you probably feel "hey, this is my style, it's just how I like to dress etc". Or maybe it's not you in the pic and you yourself dress nothing like that...if if it is you, I'm just trying to provide an honest female perception. I don't think that image projects "genuine, authentic sort of guy" so much as it projects "pimp on the take".
Author dannykeyz831 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 I'll be blunt. If that's you in the pic, then they're probably assuming that you're delaying calling/failing to respond to texts as some sort of petty power play/strategy. Reason being, the image you're projecting is very pimp-like....and I guarantee you that women are liable to see you as a whole lot less genuine as a result. I know it's an insulting comment, and you probably feel "hey, this is my style, it's just how I like to dress etc". Or maybe it's not you in the pic and you yourself dress nothing like that...if if it is you, I'm just trying to provide an honest female perception. I don't think that image projects "genuine, authentic sort of guy" so much as it projects "pimp on the take". Whoa whoa whoa!!! are you serious??? you shouldn't be quick to assume things because of some "image" online. That picture was taken from some photoshoot that I did for a friend's clothing store. I don't treat women as objects whatsoever. I have 4 older sister's who I look up to and I know better than to mistreat a women. You shouldn't have been so quick to judge. You are a perfect example of how defensive a woman gets when you know were right lol You didn't even respond to my question and immediately went into a rant haha.
Taramere Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Whoa whoa whoa!!! are you serious??? you shouldn't be quick to assume things because of some "image" online. That picture was taken from some photoshoot that I did for a friend's clothing store. I don't treat women as objects whatsoever. I have 4 older sister's who I look up to and I know better than to mistreat a women. You shouldn't have been so quick to judge. You are a perfect example of how defensive a woman gets when you know were right lol You didn't even respond to my question and immediately went into a rant haha. I'm not ranting. Like I say, you can dress how you want. I'm just giving you one female perspective of how that image came across to me - and how it might come across to others. As for being quick to judge...what loss is there to me personally in quickly judging the image of a complete stranger? I'm here to swap opinions and perspectives, not to make soulmates of strangers or to tell people only what I think they want to hear. My comment to you was intended as genuine advice about why you might elicit a certain kind of reaction from women. You can take it or leave it.
TaraMaiden Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Actually, we need nytrogen more, as it makes up 78% of the air we breathe, together with other gases such as argon and carbon dioxide. We only tell you you're wrong, because you are. If you got things a bit more accurate, you'd have more friends here, and fewer people ignoring you most of the time. sweetie. 5
Jamesblame Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Haha, funny posts. Anyhow... I think some people are more neurotic than others. And lots of guys feel the same way, as you pointed out, but are more ashamed to admit it. After all, is there anything worse than being considered clingy? Actually let's do this. Most guys go out of their way to show themselves that they don't need a certain person if that person hasn't returned a message. We often go into a "f *** them" mode, and go out to the bars with friends, or flirt with other girls (if we were't seriously dating this non-responder). Women are a bit more mature and direct about their neurotic behavior. They'll call and ask if something's wrong. Now....I feel for you because lots of women have done that to me too. Have you tried turning down sex with a woman? Unless you look like Liberachi they're usually devastated. Though...they turn us down for sex left and right. It's just one of those cultural/gender things. I just take it as a sign of their immature/neurotic behavior. It's definitely not attractive. 2
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Here, watch. Women need oxygen to stay alive. Guaranteed a woman will come in here to tell me im wrong. Why must you make such sweeping generalizations?
yessy21 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 1. if you barely know her and she calls you 3 times in an hour, she's psycho. 2. if she calls you 3 times in a day and you dont answer...it just shows that your not really THAT interested. 3. if she texts you and you dont call back or text back in a whole day... it shows that your not really interested. its not them its you. i understand you might have a very busy life. but when your sitting down taking a pooper... or eating a piece of wheat toast with some warm nutella on top...mmmmmm, nutella.... just text ...something... anything really.....but only...and i mean ONLY if you are interested. 1
robaday Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Its ok for them to be insecure........but the minute you show it BAAAMMM theyre gone. 1
Shaun-Dro Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I wasn't sure if this was the right place to post this but here it goes anyway. Why is it that when women call us and for some reason we don't pickup, Its the end of the god damn world? But when we call and they don't pick up, its not that big of a deal? God forbid we have a life and not be away from our phones for more than a minute in case they decide to call us. I got blown off by 2 girls in these past three weeks because of that. The first girl blew me off after not having responded to two of her calls and three of her text messages. She basically said that me not communicating with her off the bat was a sure sign that she shouldn't continue with me any further. The second girl blew me off because I didn't respond to her for a whole day after she had texted me "good morning hun" the day before. I had barely met these girls too. Unbelievable! I'd normally bash women for wanting their cake and to eat it too, but here you did deserve the boot treatment, because I'd do the same if I were in their shoes.
Janesays Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 This could have been a great topic for discussion. However, it was phrased as YET ANOTHER woman bashing thread. I'm too tired of this junk to bother anymore. OP, you'd get better advice if you didn't alienate half the posters here because of their gender. Just a thought.
Emilia Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Now....I feel for you because lots of women have done that to me too. Have you tried turning down sex with a woman? Unless you look like Liberachi they're usually devastated. Though...they turn us down for sex left and right. It's just one of those cultural/gender things. I just take it as a sign of their immature/neurotic behavior. It's definitely not attractive. So your advice is to play games. Very mature
VodkaShots Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 (edited) This is purely from my female perspective about men. I am going to generalise, I know there's always exceptions bla bla bla and some are arguable or applicable to the opposite sex etc. I know that, but this is just how I feel from what I've seen in life.. - Many men I've met and seen have a sense of entitlement when it comes to women. They are fat, ugly or at best average, but think they are entitled to having the pretty / hot girl because they are men. Yes you like what you like, but don't expect what you can't or aren't willing to give yourself. It's rather pathetic. - The whole "nice guy" syndrome. It leads off from my first point. There's lots of men who are quite frankly manipulative when it comes to this whole "nice guy" thing. They go after women who are our of their league and they know it, when they're used as a shoulder to cry on and she goes out with someone else, he complains about how she is a "shallow bitch". Ironically, it's always the pretty girls these "nice guys" go for, rarely the "nice girls". - Men who complain about the "friend zone". Seriously, I am in this situation right now myself so I know it sucks, but there's more to a genuine friendship than the potential to date or ****. If you really care about someone as a friend, get over it, otherwise move on. I think what annoys me about both sexes, women in particular I admit, is how many holier-than-thou types deny or downplay the importance of physical appearance in a relationship when it's so obvious they're lying. There are some rare gems that genuinely mean this but most people do have physical standards. What I mean is "Mr. / Ms. I-Only-Care-About-Personality" who suspiciously only ever seems to have attractive or at least decently average boyfriends/girlfriends and always seem to be turning down the fat/ugly people that are interested in them. Now I'm not criticising physical preferences, I have them myself, but it annoys me how people can't be honest about this and try to make people who can admit to having physical appearance preferences as some kind of shallow and lesser beings. Edited August 9, 2012 by VodkaShots
Jamesblame Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 So your advice is to play games. Very mature I never said to play games. I just illustrated how neurotic men react when somebody doesn't reply to their message. I don't like games...because I have glasses and could never win.
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