Author SJC2008 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 My point was that you should own up to what is holding you back and not hide behind other people's issues. Why does it matter what other men do? If you are not honest, you won't have an honest relationship. Your inexperience needn't hold you back. Conservative girls won't think that way I'm not "hiding" between other people's issues. You are dealing with an inexperienced man here and I know LS isn't the real world like I stated but from all the threads I have read I feel like when dating you got to make a sexual move fast that's all. I feel like if I tell a woman that "Yes sex is a great thing but I really want to know if a woman is right for me before we get down to it so it's not someting that I gun for right away" she'll think I'm some virgin loser or something and I'm not trying to sterotype women.
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I feel like if I tell a woman that "Yes sex is a great thing but I really want to know if a woman is right for me before we get down to it so it's not someting that I gun for right away" she'll think I'm some virgin loser or something and I'm not trying to sterotype women. I'm serious when I'm saying that a conservative girl won't be like that with you. Everyone needs to find the person right for them. I'm sure guys judge me for this or that, the only thing I can do is to find the one who is right for me.
fificremefarben Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I found that when I was younger (18-early twenties), I had much stronger views about waiting a considerable amount of time to have sex with a new guys, around 3-4 months (although I had my first boyfriend wait 1.5 years, haha!). I'm now 25, though, and, as I've gotten older, I find that I'm increasingly less stressed about waiting so long to have sex with a new guy. I'm not saying I do it on the first meeting or the the followings days and I'm not a fan of one-night stands (never have been, never will be), but I no longer see anything wrong with doing it sooner if it feels right, say after 3 weeks-1 month. I don't think timing is that important so long as you apply common sense to protect yourself physically and emotionally. 1
NoMagicBullet Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 ... I know LS isn't the real world like I stated but from all the threads I have read I feel like when dating you got to make a sexual move fast that's all. I feel like if I tell a woman that "Yes sex is a great thing but I really want to know if a woman is right for me before we get down to it so it's not someting that I gun for right away" she'll think I'm some virgin loser or something and I'm not trying to sterotype women. A woman just looking to get laid will move on. A woman who really wants to get to know you will probably find it refreshing that you want to get to know her before going to bed with her. Then again, she might be suspicious that it's some kind of line, and that you're just wanting for the right time to try to get her clothes off -- because, seriously, so many men try to get women into bed right away, most women looking for more than a ONS have their guard up. Bear in mind that there is a lot frustration and desperation running through the threads here on LS, as well as a PUA/player mentality among a significant subset of the LS users. This leads to a lot of the "You have to bang her quick before you end up in the friend zone, you wussy pansy-man!" attitude. Is your goal to have sex with a lot of women? Is your self-worth as a man and a person tied up with how many people you've slept with? If "yes" to both questions, then buy into that notion you have to sleep with a woman sooner rather than later or all hope is lost. Go ahead and drink that Kool-Aid. If not, then do what you feel in your gut is right for you. If holding off on sex until you get to know someone feels right for you, then there's no reason to feel like it's wrong. If a woman has a problem with it, likely she's not the kind of woman who's right for you. If at some point you feel that you want to have sex sooner rather than later, that's fine, too. Either way, respect that your date may have different ideas about it, and talk about what you both want before unspoken expectations lead to misunderstanding and disappointment. Bottom line: do what feels right to you. And maybe look at other articles or forums that coincide with your dating goals, not just LS. If you're looking for a relationship, the eHarmony forums may be useful. If you're just looking to score, there are plenty of PUA forums out there, too. 1
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