kyle77 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 So its definitely time for me to start dating more girls after my ex broke up with me 10 months ago....so I think without a doubt considering I'm 19 I should be trying to have as much fun as possible and meet as many people as possible! With that said I can't really get myself to do it....I have hooked up with a girl during that ten months but I can't bring myself to consider anyone for a relationship, just a fling or something. Clearly thats not healthy, so does anyone have any advice as to how they started dating other girls after a bad break-up? How do I start to consider girls as relationship material.....or do I just have to wait for the right girl to come along?
january2011 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 First, get over your ex. Judging by the number of threads you've posted very recently about your ex, you are not over her. You still reference her and when you do, she still has emotional resonance in your life. Get into a happy place first and then start dating. Otherwise, if you are still giving head and heartspace to your ex, you're going to sabotage your attempts to date, which creates a poor foundation for a relationship (as you've discovered). Focus on meeting people but don't date or hook-up. Focus on filling your life with other things, like school, work, hobbies, exercise. Rebuild your life so that you are whole again before attempting to share it with someone else. And make sure that you cut off all channels of communication with your ex (as per my advice in one of your previous threads).
Author kyle77 Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 ya im no longer replying to my ex's occasional texts and I'm looking for a way to block her on twitter....as that is how i know so much about her life still :S Thanks january that really helps! A new school year is about to start so I hope I can really meet a lot of new people and have fun even though me and my ex go to the same university.
january2011 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 (edited) No worries. I don't know how big your university is, but if there is an active social scene and numerous societies and activities, it should be fairly easy to keep yourself busy and away from her. To block someone on Twitter, click on their Twitter username. In the pop-up window, click on the little grey button that looks like a chess piece with a downward arrow to the right of it. Choose "Block @[your ex-gf's username]" from the list of options. I can't remember if the system also automatically unfollows that person when you choose that option. If not, you need to manually unfollow as well. That should do it. Edited August 8, 2012 by january2011
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