Nancy B Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 So I met a guy I really connected with over the weekend. Hes my friends husbands friend. I have three weeks left at home, before I move back to my foreign residence. I texted him today to tell him I'd be in his hometown this Friday if he wanted to meet up. He said 'Oh no I wont be around Friday.' We texted a lil bit, just joking away. Then I said 'Look, I havnt got much time left so excuse my forwardness. I like you and want to see you again. How do you feel?' Now Im waiting on a text back. I'm never usually so forward but I kind of cant read him and at least if I know how he feels I can move on. Was it crazy or reasonable?
Imajerk17 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 It was fine. Very nice actually. I hope he steps up.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I think he'll get the message! If he doesn't reply then he's really not interested, I doubt he wouldn't though.
Author Nancy B Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 He replied. He said now's not a great time for him and that the fact I'm leaving so soon would mean there was no real future for us. I'm dissapointed as I would liked to have had the chance of a date and some fun. Still though, it's the first time I've been so direct. I was worried he might think I'm crazy but he said he understood it and is open to the idea maybe in the future. We texted a little bit more then I bowed out and the conversation ended friendly. I've been out of this dating game for a while now. Not sure I'm going to have the patience for the non-direct approach.
RedRobin Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 He replied. He said now's not a great time for him and that the fact I'm leaving so soon would mean there was no real future for us. I'm dissapointed as I would liked to have had the chance of a date and some fun. Still though, it's the first time I've been so direct. I was worried he might think I'm crazy but he said he understood it and is open to the idea maybe in the future. We texted a little bit more then I bowed out and the conversation ended friendly. I've been out of this dating game for a while now. Not sure I'm going to have the patience for the non-direct approach. Cheer up. If he were the kind of guy who was interested in booty calls, he would have jumped on the chance. I don't see how you are out at all.... except the opportunity to have someone pay for your fun(?)... If you were going to pay your own way, then maybe. Did you tell him you'd go dutch? Or were you expecting him to pay? Not every guy is jumping at the chance to get easy sex or (alternatively) wants to pay for someone's good time... especially if there is no future there.
Author Nancy B Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Red Robin, your post has really confused me. I made no reference to money. I don't always think you need cash to have a date. I was just hoping to meet him again.
RedRobin Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Red Robin, your post has really confused me. I made no reference to money. I don't always think you need cash to have a date. I was just hoping to meet him again. I agree with you about not needing cash for a date. I always offer to pay my share and always suggest fun things to do that don't involve $$.... But alot of women still think 'date' = guy pays... and alot of men assume this as well. Even the best intentioned and decent men may have a hard time justifying paying for a date for someone they aren't going to see again or there is no future with... and if it isn't talked about, he is likely going to assume he's expected to pay. If this situation arises again and you are the one making the first move, I'd offer ideas of free/inexpensive things to do so he doesn't get the idea you are just looking for someone to pay for your fun. That's all.
Author Nancy B Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 That's really interesting. I had never thought of it like that before. I hope he didnt think I was expecting him to pay! This is useful for future reference, thanks.
RedRobin Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 That's really interesting. I had never thought of it like that before. I hope he didnt think I was expecting him to pay! This is useful for future reference, thanks. No problemo... Good luck!!
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