lovehurts5 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 So my ex's brother who I was closest to out of all his siblings defriended me from facebook and added the girl my ex is now talking to... I feel like ****.
Matt145 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Yeah i know if there was no facebook people could get over there ex's so much easier.
Emilia Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 You shouldn't! It's a shame but he has no choice. Get rid of all your ex's friends and family, it's the only sensible road to go down on!
weallfalldown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 yea true,,,,,,,,,,,the root of all evil. Life hey!....delete your account...
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I deactivated mine about two weeks ago. Nothing you see on there is going to help you. I know you think you're curious but you really have to pull yourself away from your emotions and look at it for what it is; a source to cause you more pain. The feeling you have to want to know what he's up to is a phase. It's part of the denial stage. It's going to pass. There will come a time in your future when you won't even think to check it anymore. My advice to you is to deactive your account (which is temporary and you will not lose any of your information or friends from doing this) until you have completely moved on. Give yourself a few months or until you are ready to see all of this without it jabbing the knife in deeper so to speak. I'm sorry you're going through this, most of us on here can completely relate to what you're going through in some way. Hang in there. It gets better.
Ruby65 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I'm confused -- why delete your account? You don't have to give up Facebook. All you have to do is BLOCK your ex and all of his friends and family. When someone is blocked, they cease to exist on Facebook. You can't see them and they can't see you. Simple and effective. End of story.
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I'm confused -- why delete your account? You don't have to give up Facebook. All you have to do is BLOCK your ex and all of his friends and family. When someone is blocked, they cease to exist on Facebook. You can't see them and they can't see you. Simple and effective. End of story. I guess in my case there are just too many mutual friends that deleting them all would have been overboard.. Pictures, or status updates including him were starting to pop up and that's when my mind would go crazy. I didn't "delete" the account, I just deactivated it. Nothing is lost. I guess just not loggin in would be the same concept.
Ruby65 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 (edited) No need to "deactivate" your entire account. Just BLOCK your ex and all mutual friends..... not really a big deal. If you only deactivate your account.... your ex and all his friends will still be there when you reactivate it. If you just BLOCK them all, they're gone for good. Edited August 6, 2012 by Ruby65 1
flitzanu Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 i agree, no need to delete, just block. people seem to be confused that they have "mutual friends" during a breakup. you don't. there's your friends, and their friends.
edelveis Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I used to think othewise but in the end i have to admit you are right..facebook slows down everyone's healing proccess..
Author lovehurts5 Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 We were together for 4 years so if I went around blocking the amount of people we are mutually friends with it'd take me a decade. Blahhhh. It's all just so sucky.
Ruby65 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Really? A decade? You must have millions of friends if it would take you ten years to block them all. Seriously..... don't make excuses for keeping mutual friends on Facebook. It's not that big of a deal to block and/or delete people off your friends' list.
Samilia Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I agree.. that or make a new account. Deleting people is easy, click the X and voila. No need to prolonge the drama by keeping them on your page.
2muchlove Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I immediately deleted all her friends and family. Blocked her. Haven't ad any problems and it's been over a month. I definitely recommend just blocking or making a new account so you may stay more able to contact people about going out and having a good time to help recover. 1
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Everyone's situation is different. I've known my ex since middle school. Deleting all of our "mutual friends" would be impossible. There are exceptions.. but just do what works for you.
Author lovehurts5 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Clearly I was kidding it wouldn't actually take me a decade. It would,however, take me a while. I also don't feel its fair for me to have to not be friends with people on fb because they are a mutual friend. It's just a crappy situation.
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Clearly I was kidding it wouldn't actually take me a decade. It would,however, take me a while. I also don't feel its fair for me to have to not be friends with people on fb because they are a mutual friend. It's just a crappy situation. You can always unblock them at a later stage, it's not final. It's not like you are going to speak to them much at the moment
flitzanu Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Clearly I was kidding it wouldn't actually take me a decade. It would,however, take me a while. I also don't feel its fair for me to have to not be friends with people on fb because they are a mutual friend. It's just a crappy situation. no no, the point is, you need to delete HER friends. there are no "mutual" friends leftover. your friends are yours, you need to delete HER friends.
Dblock10 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 why do people say block them, no need to delete..... when you block someone you can only do so after deleting them. you cant say, just block them, that would mean deleting them also. but yeah i still think we should be strong enough to face reality. removing them from fb doesnt mean they die.
flitzanu Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 why do people say block them, no need to delete..... when you block someone you can only do so after deleting them. you cant say, just block them, that would mean deleting them also. but yeah i still think we should be strong enough to face reality. removing them from fb doesnt mean they die. huh? saying "deleting" them from your friends list doesn't work. you can still stalk them. you need to BLOCK them, so you can't see ANYTHING from them. you may be referring to "no need to delete" - as in, no need to delete YOUR PROFILE, but delete THEM.
Ruby65 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 huh? saying "deleting" them from your friends list doesn't work. you can still stalk them. you need to BLOCK them, so you can't see ANYTHING from them. you may be referring to "no need to delete" - as in, no need to delete YOUR PROFILE, but delete THEM. Yeah, that's the big difference. If you "deactivate" your entire account..... or simply "delete" someone from your friends' list.... you can STILL STALK THEM once you "reactivate" the account. But if you BLOCK someone -- they're gone. Unfriended, completely hidden. Their posts won't show up anywhere, not even on mutual friends' walls. You can't see them and they can't see you. If only there was a way to BLOCK exes in real life!
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