Dblock10 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 well not yet, but i'm caving. its been 4 weeks nc, i didn't reply to my ex's last message mainly because she didn't ask anything and was just apologising for not being able to Skype me. anyway she asked how i was and how my festival was over the weekend. i do want to reply, but then i am scared to see her profile pic on my phone.. how weak is that.. as much as i want to reply i wouldn't want to know what she is up to incase its something i don't want to hear. i.e she has a new bf or something. maybe i should man up and get on with it, then if i hear she has, at least that would be the best grounds for nc from then on 1
Floored Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 well not yet, but i'm caving. its been 4 weeks nc, i didn't reply to my ex's last message mainly because she didn't ask anything and was just apologising for not being able to Skype me. anyway she asked how i was and how my festival was over the weekend. i do want to reply, but then i am scared to see her profile pic on my phone.. how weak is that.. as much as i want to reply i wouldn't want to know what she is up to incase its something i don't want to hear. i.e she has a new bf or something. maybe i should man up and get on with it, then if i hear she has, at least that would be the best grounds for nc from then on Give it a day at least. Maybe tomorrow you won't feel so much like talking. Just made it through a round of NC willies myself, don't give in. I too had fears of her telling me about a new man, or a new mistake she's made. Even if she's coming around to actually missing you and what you two had, don't you think she should at least see it from your angle? If she doesn't get to this soul-crushing low of aloneness that we're all at, how can she ever appreciate you again? If she never registers on LS, has she really hit rock-bottom. It's practically a game, and a stupid one at that, but that's what has to happen at this point. You've made it four weeks, don't fall off the wagon just yet. I can't wait for my four weeks of NC. I've got a party planned already.
Exit Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 If you are not interested in any type of agreement to just be friends and if it would hurt you to have to end your response with "what's new with you" and hear something bad about her life (new bf etc) then just stick with NC. You've been doing good with it. I don't see breaking NC as a "man up" choice, I think respecting yourself enough to not get strung along by an ex is the better thing.
Author Dblock10 Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 yeah i hear you guys, and that does make sense. i have given it a day, in fact its been 5 days since she sent that msg. . . floored, she isn't even in the same country as me anymore she moved away. i doubt i would hear she is coming back any time soon either. this is so hard
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