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Why does the thought of my ex wife sleeping with someone else bother me so much?

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paperboy48 Established Member

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It doesn't really bother me to think of her hanging around with another guy, like having dinner or watching a movie but the thought of her in bed with another guy, kills me

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Do you want her back?

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Well.. no guy likes to think about the one they still consider their wife with some other guy's penis inside of her. Nothing wrong with that.. That would be why it bothers you, probably.

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Do you want her back?

 

I would give my right harm to have her back...

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Well.. no guy likes to think about the one they still consider their wife with some other guy's penis inside of her. Nothing wrong with that.. That would be why it bothers you, probably.

 

I'm guessing no woman would like they thought of another woman's mouth around their husband penis either...

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I would give my right harm to have her back...

 

What happened then to make you guys end your marriage if you care so much about her? You should tell her how you feel and fight for your family.

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I'm guessing no woman would like they thought of another woman's mouth around their husband penis either...

 

You asked for an answer, you got it.

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You asked for an answer, you got it.

 

 

I know...I appreciate your bluntness. No problem!

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What happened then to make you guys end your marriage if you care so much about her? You should tell her how you feel and fight for your family.

 

All of a sudden she started focusing on all of my negatives and stopped focusing on my positives which led me to be more negative and to not want to be around her as much, she then felt neglected from me.

 

I have tried numerous numerous times to reconcile, she didn't want it! Sucks!

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All of a sudden she started focusing on all of my negatives and stopped focusing on my positives which led me to be more negative and to not want to be around her as much, she then felt neglected from me.

 

I have tried numerous numerous times to reconcile, she didn't want it! Sucks!

 

Then you have to rise above it. Why spend all your time wanting someone who doesn't want you? That's a lot of wasted energy that you could be using to focus on being the best you can be. For yourself and for your kids.

 

Forget thinking about her and worrying what she's doing. She's out of the equation now.

 

You can find ways of being happy without her in your life. Do things that you love doing.

 

But the more thought you give to her the more you are robbing yourself of your own happiness.

 

Also as long as you're in the weakened position, the more she will be able to get from you in the divorce cause you're likely to cave. So be strong, do for you and you'll get past this.

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Then you have to rise above it. Why spend all your time wanting someone who doesn't want you? That's a lot of wasted energy that you could be using to focus on being the best you can be. For yourself and for your kids.

 

Forget thinking about her and worrying what she's doing. She's out of the equation now.

 

You can find ways of being happy without her in your life. Do things that you love doing.

 

But the more thought you give to her the more you are robbing yourself of your own happiness.

 

Also as long as you're in the weakened position, the more she will be able to get from you in the divorce cause you're likely to cave. So be strong, do for you and you'll get past this.

 

I've received a lot of advise today from a lot of people and that's the best advise I have received all day. Thank you! ;)

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I've received a lot of advise today from a lot of people and that's the best advise I have received all day. Thank you! ;)

 

You are welcome. :)

 

Just realize that every time you think of her she's getting the best of you and she doesn't deserve that. Not now. Not anymore.

 

You deserve the best of you. Your children deserve the best of you. But not her. She had it once. She walked away. She gets it no more.

 

Also with the pending divorce you may want to document every lack of parental judgment she makes. You are their father and it's not only your right but your obligation to protect them.

 

If she does something wrong write it down. You want to look like the good guy in court.

 

I have a question though. If your wife slept with your daughter on the camping trip, was that guy alone with your son? Please tell me no.

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You are welcome. :)

 

I have a question though. If your wife slept with your daughter on the camping trip, was that guy alone with your son? Please tell me no.

 

No, no...my son was in his bunk bed by himself

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No, no...my son was in his bunk bed by himself

 

Whew...okay good. :)

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