love of my life left me after 6 years

[Coyoteloco]

Hey, im new here, and im going through this break up with my love here is the story:

 

So i met this girl when i was 15 and she was 14, one day i found out i was feeling something for her that i didnt feel before for someone, so i went and told her that and she became my girlfriend. She was my first everything, i wasnt her first kiss but yes the other things. Our love was beautiful and unique, she alwasy told me how she wanted to marry me have kids, and i was everything to her, even though i always told her i didnt wana get married. I was the happiest man on earth, and my life was pretty much perfect, until 2 weeks ago.

 

This is what happened, she started working in a cinema, it was a one month job, everything was like usual, even though maybe we were fighting a lil bit more because i got jealous. But she said she loved me so much and that i was perfect and all of that. So one day she calls me in her work break, and i sense that she is talking to me in a weird way, and i tell her this, and then she tells me, come home tonight and we talk. So i pretty much had an idea of what was gona happen next, and it did. She told me she felt like it wasnt like it used to be, and that maybe she would like to try other people and finally she told me she was feeling something for a guy that worked with her. She also said that i was the one she really loved and that she was afraid this could be the worst mistake in her life. So as soon as she told me this i told her i wanted to break up, and that i couldnt go on like this, it was a great shock because i had an idea that this moment could happen one day, but that day seemed so far, but i came. So the week after that talk we kept talking and we both cryed and she said she wasnt sure of what she really wanted, and even tryed to kiss me a few times, but i didnt let her. So the last time i saw her i gave her a gift with flowers, pictures of us, and a poem and told her it was a goodbye gift, she cryed and told me maybe it was a welcome gift, and she tryed to kiss me but i didnt let her, and she also told me she still loved me. So after that i went no contact. So we are in week 2 now, and after not texting no nothing for 3 days she sends me an email and later on a text message saying "how are you?" so i answear the text later that day telling her i was feeling fine, then she sends me a few more texts and i try to answear as short as possible. Then the next day her mother sends me a text message. So i go on with the no contact and after 3 days (today) she sends me another text which i dont answear, but i accidentaly dialed her number, as soon as i realised i hung up. But she then calls me, and i tell her it was a mistake that i miss dialed, she then tells me she sees im so much better, and tells me that if i ever want to talk to her or hung out with her that i should tell her.

 

So should i wait and see if she wants to come back with me? or should i just call it off forever and forget her? Its been 2 weeks since we are not boyfriend and girlfriend, and i can tell you it sucks. Im trying to focus on myself and im hanging out more with friends, and im starting a new sport tomorrow, but as soon as i hear her voice or if i answear her texts i start crying.

 

Please give me some feedback cause i feel like im loosing the love of my life and that i wont be able to love someone again, which i dont really want because i still love her. Please answear

[Coyoteloco]

anyone answear? lol

[Sav]

you said it was a 6 year relationship since she was 14? Ahh, she's probably bored or the routine life. She is 20 now and wants to try new things in life that she did not have the chance to due to being in a relationship. You got to understand I guess. Getting together at the age of 14 would make her feel like she's missing out on alot of things. Well, from what I think, it's not she doesnt love you, she's just bored. :\ tough luck mate. Best to give her space.

 

P.S (It takes time for people to read and reply )

[weallfalldown]

hang in there dude...........if it's over, you'll be ok, your still very young, you'll be surprised how quickly you'll bounce back..take care.

[Chi townD]

Stop answering her texts! Dude, she's the one that decided that she wanted to be with someone else. I guarantee you that she IS with this guy. She's feeling guilty and she's looking to you to ease her guilt. That's why she's trying desperately to get you in the "friend zone" Is she can say to herself, " We broke up and I have a new guy in my life and LOOK! Me and the Ex are still REALLY GOOD FRIENDS! I guess it was for the best!"

 

Look, she ended it because she thought the other guy was better (but don't you believe it) that was her choice; not yours. Therefore, she's going to have to live with the consquences of her actions.

[Canadian731]

This sounds so much like my situation, was with the ex for 4 years since we were both 16, everything was going great until we moved in together and I think it shocked both of us how we were practically turning into an old married couple. 3 months later she tells me she doesn't know what she wants anymore, I find out from jabbing it out of her that she kissed her friend (a guy who she hung out with once or twice) so I kicked her out. She wanted to see what else was out there I suppose, after 2 months I realize now I could be with someone a lot more compatible with me, and if I were still with her my chances of missing out on that person are pretty good. Look at this in a positive way man, you are both young and by the sounds of it not even sure what you want out of life yet, obviously not ready for an adult relationship.

[Blastoplast]

Sounds like you are in a similar situation as me. Don't take her back. As much as you may want it, it's better for BOTH of you. Take some time apart, live your life a little bit -- you can even casually date some women if you'd like. If it was meant to be, you'll find each other again.

 

Me? Turns out this girl I've had a crush on for over a decade might be interested in me. I had 3 of her friends asking about me at this party over the weekend, but I think she's apprehensive since we BOTH just got out of serious long term relationships. However, I look forward to chit chatting with her a little bit. EVERYTHING has a silver lining, always look at the positives if you can!

[Car10e]

I'm kinda in a similar situation. I just broke up with my first love, and still have feelings for him. I wish i didn't, it would make things so much easier. But anyways, I was with him for 4 1/2 years and things got pretty boring and routine. It sounds like your ex gf wants to see what else is out there. She may come back after she has experienced other people, but then she may not. Only time will tell.

[Coyoteloco]

thanks for the answear. Ok to the guy saying the other guy is better, well the other guy is a ****in loser, all he does is work in that cinema, while me, im studying engineering and getting top 5 grades on the hardest subjects, and i also sell my music across the world. So i can guarantee you that she doesnt think the other guy is better unless she is mentaly retarded. But also i wont take her back after what she did to me she broke my heart, and if she ever texts me again im gona tell her to go **** off and leave me alone because she is slut. lol Im already feeling alot better, and im even happy that we broke up, because i was blinded by my "love" for her, and i let her do **** that hurt me, and i people always told me im like saint to be with that girl. I dont know if she is already with that guy, i guess maybe not, i asked her to give me atleast 1 or 2 months for me to heal before she went out with other dudes, she said no problem, but who knows right? I really think she will regret this in the future, i wish the best for her but knowing the way she is i know things wont work out so great to her.

 

thanks for the answears, and i think its time for me to move on, and find the real love of my life.

[Chi townD]

thanks for the answear. Ok to the guy saying the other guy is better, well the other guy is a ****in loser, all he does is work in that cinema, while me, im studying engineering and getting top 5 grades on the hardest subjects, and i also sell my music across the world. So i can guarantee you that she doesnt think the other guy is better unless she is mentaly retarded. But also i wont take her back after what she did to me she broke my heart, and if she ever texts me again im gona tell her to go **** off and leave me alone because she is slut. lol Im already feeling alot better, and im even happy that we broke up, because i was blinded by my "love" for her, and i let her do **** that hurt me, and i people always told me im like saint to be with that girl. I dont know if she is already with that guy, i guess maybe not, i asked her to give me atleast 1 or 2 months for me to heal before she went out with other dudes, she said no problem, but who knows right? I really think she will regret this in the future, i wish the best for her but knowing the way she is i know things wont work out so great to her.

 

thanks for the answears, and i think its time for me to move on, and find the real love of my life.

 

I never said he was better than you, for whatever reason, she thought he was, and do you know what? One day, she's going to realize that this guy isn't going anywhere. Then, she'll start to realize what she threw away.

 

If she texts you again. Ignore it! DO NOT respond back with f*ck off! The only thing you're going to achieve is justifying in her head that dumping you was the right choice because you're being a douche rocket.

 

Silence speaks volumes! You give her nothing. You leave her guessing and you never let her know where your heads at. That will drive her nuts rather than telling her to f*ck off.

[Car10e]

thanks for the answear. Ok to the guy saying the other guy is better, well the other guy is a ****in loser, all he does is work in that cinema, while me, im studying engineering and getting top 5 grades on the hardest subjects, and i also sell my music across the world. So i can guarantee you that she doesnt think the other guy is better unless she is mentaly retarded. But also i wont take her back after what she did to me she broke my heart, and if she ever texts me again im gona tell her to go **** off and leave me alone because she is slut. lol Im already feeling alot better, and im even happy that we broke up, because i was blinded by my "love" for her, and i let her do **** that hurt me, and i people always told me im like saint to be with that girl. I dont know if she is already with that guy, i guess maybe not, i asked her to give me atleast 1 or 2 months for me to heal before she went out with other dudes, she said no problem, but who knows right? I really think she will regret this in the future, i wish the best for her but knowing the way she is i know things wont work out so great to her.

 

thanks for the answears, and i think its time for me to move on, and find the real love of my life.

 

I know how you feel. My ex bf's new girl is 19, while he is 25. I feel the same way as you. I am better than her. I keep asking myself, "What does she have to offer, that I don't?" And then I remember how exciting a new relationship is. Right now they may be happy, but who knows, maybe in a few months they will get tired of it. The best thing is to not contact her at all. Show her that you are doing fine without her.

[Coyoteloco]

lol so i wasnt literally going to text her "**** off". But i guess not answearing will do. She told me she might regret all of this and come begging to me to take her back, which i might do if she doesnt kiss any other guy and if she works hard to get it. So far single life hasnt been that bad, there are already other girls interested in me, but im not ready for nothing right now. And i even feel like i was reborn . And that im taking a fresh new start in life. Even though i really miss having some1 special in my life, and well ofcourse im missing the sex like crazy!!!! Ill just ignore her and keep my life moving.

[sage1320]

Listen, I've am going through a same situation, I met my ex fiancee at age 15 and she was 14...Our relationship sounds exactly like yours..We were dating on and off.. This happen many years ago but on one of the times we broke up was because she was hanging out with some guy..I called her and turns out she was in his car with his friend driving to go eat somewhere..well it made me angry..I felt they were getting to close..so I told her why is she driving with him..etc..She got really angry and ended the relationship...Now, I really love this girl with all my heart..I've been there for her every time, but as I learned, this only make you her doormat..whenever something went wrong with her relationships, including family, Bam she would call me! and me been Mr. independable I would answer all the time..Sure, we did ended up back together again..and we were happy again, but a couple month later..she would break up the relationship again!

 

Now, I know 4 years is a long time and I bet you love this girl so much..but save yourself from a relationship like mine... I think your ex is thinking about going out with someone else because she hasn't experience another relationship..sounds like G.I.G.S..she wants to keep in contact with you in case her relationship goes sour with this new guy...Try not to answer her texts and phone calls..I know it's hard..Trust me I've been there..If she really wants to be with you then she would have no interest in this other guy..but since she keeps on texting , it seems she still cares about you..try to relax and do not think about the situation..One tip I can give you, If you do decide to forgive her and get back with her..HEAL FIRST..do not try to get back with her if you are still hurt..it will only bring problems..trust me...I hope this helps!! God Bless

[Coyoteloco]

thanks for you reply man, it does help, and knowing u went through the same thing. So now that i set some distance from her, i start to see that she isnt the sweetheart i thougth she was, and people warned me about this when i first got into a relationship with her, but i didnt listen. So yes i really love her and she broke my heart, and i dont know if i could ever forgive her, i love her but she hurt me too much. This sucks so i hope i learnt from this and that i wont go on a relationship with some1 like this again. So i did some bad things too, but atleast i wroked on making the realtionship work and i was always there for her and i was the only one that was there for her always. I just hope i can find a decent girl is theres even one out there, who just doesnt go around with every guy.