Shotputter Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 So i met my ex girlfriend during The October of 2011 at some friend's fire and I asked her to be my girlfriend around the end of October. I was a junior in High school and she was a senior. She was only older than me by 7 months. I never thought i could get this lucky, I had no idea how it had happened because I never thought i could date a girl like this. She was absolutely gorgeous to me. This was the first relationship for both of us. No one thought we could ever break up and we were basically the envy of all of our friends. They all dreamed to have the happiness that we displayed with each other. We had our occasional meaningless fights, which didn't even show up until about 5 months had passed. She was a big weed smoker and i didn't particularly enjoy it so she knew it angered me when she did it everyday. But it was nothing i couldn't accept. She was also a big partier and there were a few occasions when she went to parties without me but i trusted her 100% and knew she wasn't cheating or doing anything bad. But like any normal guy it did make a bit a jealous. We told each other we loved one another basically every day and we always talked about how we would make her going to college work. (I was going into my senior year of high school and she was going into her freshmen year of college). She would only be an hour away from me and we said we were going to visit and that it would work. There was a huge physical attraction for the both of us. So a weekend in may comes by and she hadn't responded to my texts for a day. This has never happened before so i knew something was wrong. I ask her whats wrong and why is she not answering me. She invites me over her house and we stay in my car and talk. She hands me a note that says she wants a break. "shes not sure why and im the best person ever and i treated her just right but she feels like she needs a break". This was the week before prom I go to prom with her and my night is absolutley miserable. Everything i thought i knew about her was wrong. She ignores me, doesn't dance/ talk to me. For the next month and a half i go on and off No contact. She makes it clear that she doesn't want a relationship and even goes as far as saying " I never want to date you again" I pushed her to this point as i constantly bothered her about getting back together by writing letters or texting her. I once even confronted her with her friends about it. Anyone i woke up today 2 months after the BU feeling absolutley miserable. I loved this girl more than life itself and i thought i was doing pretty good in terms of recovery but i randomly got these feelings of depression today for no reason and even considered breaking no contact after stumbling upon a picture of her that i didnt realize i even had. IT was so hard. I cried for a while and then looked at all the cards she gave me and sobbed even more. Her birthday is coming up in about 20 days and i was wondering if it should break NC to wish her a quick happy birthday. There has been times when she had broke NC to talk to me before and apparntley she asks her friends all the time "why im not texting her" cause you broke my heart obviously haha. Anyway i was wondering if you LS people think its a good idea. Any general advice over how to get over this would also be appreciated. Do you guys really think she never wants to be in a relationship again or do you think it was a spur of the moment thing cause i was frustrating her ( I was in complete shock over the breakup). Do you think theres a chance for us in the future if i just wait it out like lets say till next summer? We were eachothers first and we dated for 7 months. Saw each other nearly every single day. -thanks
Fitnerd Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 Honestly, I cld say my story is similar to yours (except we never rly dated, you can check my posts for the background) and there's only one thing you can do now. Stay NC. There isn't another solution... She obviously doesn't want to be with you (and trust me, I KNOW how much that hurts to hear, i came back early from vacation for her and this is how she greets me). You shouldn't be hoping at all even... Move on... it sucks, it hurts, you don't want to hear it but it's over. We "broke up" last week and this Tuesday, I'm going on a rly long vacation before college starts. I tried to talk to her for 3 days after the BU but just went NC after. And strangely enough, her birthday is 25 days away, I was thinking about wishing her happy birthday but that just me wanting an excuse to talk to her, I decided not to do it and you shouldn't also.
Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Don't feel bad, she is the one missing out on a good person. Honestly, just text her "Happy birthday", be very subtle, so you won't have to go down the road of wondering "what if". Just don't have no conversations with her.
weallfalldown Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 don't send the text...........does she worry about you?......think man think!...
Car10e Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 You're still pretty young. It seems like she is not as mature as you are. Let her do her own thing for now. As for no contact, you're doing the right thing. It's okay to wish her a happy birthday, but if she responds back, dont. Theres always a chance you could get back together. Theres also a chance you might move on and not want to be with her. But don't put your life on hold for now, hoping she will come back. Thats really not fair to you.
CaliBabe Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Be strong, don't send the text. If you don't get the response back that your looking for, you will be hurt.
Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Fear is what holds people back, just saying to be the bigger person, it doesn't matter what she says back or if she responds at all. Just get that out of the way and resume NC. You are young, you might get over her sooner then you think.
RogerWallace111 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Tower Of Power - You're Still A Young Man - YouTube
blotter Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Dude forget about this little slit, she's going to be in college next year, surrounded by guys that are going to be hounding her ass. She broke up with you cause she wants to spread it around campus when she gets there. Go NC and forget about her cause she aint thinking about you when she's going to be out drinking with dudes.
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