th1ds Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I had a falling out with someone about a year ago. We have briefly been in contact a few times since, because I initiated it. It didn't always require a response, but they chose to respond. I don't really know all that happened, or what I misunderstood in my friend's behavior, that led us to our falling out. I know that the relationship was important to me, to them it obviously was not. My friend recently got engaged, and since I still care about this person even though we are no longer friendly, I sent a gift without signing my name. I am very happy for them and wish them the best and hold no grudge over what happened. I knew there was the possibility the gift would be returned because it came from me and the cost was a little high, but I chose to send it anyway. It came from my heart, and I did what I thought was right. I'm not upset they chose not to accept it, either. The moment I sent it, it was theirs, and they were free to do whatever they wanted with it - including sending it back to me. My question, and something that puzzles me, is the length of time it took for them to return it. I can understand returning a gift immediately, but they chose to wait awhile before sending it back. Do you think they thought about keeping it? I felt the last time we talked things might be getting a little better, and I still hold out hope that some day we might get our friendship back on track because I miss it terribly. Or am I reading too much into something that clearly says they are returning something because they don't want my friendship anymore?
january2011 Posted August 5, 2012 Posted August 5, 2012 I think the present-return closed the door on your former friendship. It would have been the perfect time for your friend to reconnect with you, but they chose not to do this. You'll probably never find out what happened. All you can do is put this behind you. Take the return as a definitive answer. Move on from this former friendship now.
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