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I got stood up by a very nice girl :-(

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chphan Established Member

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What are you rambling about now? These nonsense chats with this woman has already landed you in the friend zone. I don't see why because it's so clear as day to me and everyone else!

 

 

Nah he's not even in the friend zone. Being in the friend zone implies that she at least want to hang out with him as a friend and do stuff. At least in that way maybe down the road something can develop as people have been in friend zone before and gone to have a relationship.

 

She made it clear to him that they can continue to text as friend and that's it. She don't even want to hang with him. He's a text buddy and that's it and to be brutally honest, she's only texting him because he's the one that's texting her. She's just being polite by texting back until she gets bored and then will fade out on texting back too.

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I know you are a nice guy and you try to give people the benefit of the doubt. But there is truth in "First impressions count". I've had this same thing happen to me and I would give the girl a million chances. In the mean time I did her homework for her, always answered all of her questions, stopped everything I was doing when she gave me a bit of attention...

 

The problem is nothing changed. Nothing will for you either. This girl likes knowing that there are guys out there interested in her. It doesn't cost her anything to string you along. But when it will cost her something (time) she is no where to be found. That means she doesn't value you enough to sacrifice anything, even a couple hours of time. Sending you a text or pics isn't sacrificing anything. She probably sent that pic to all the guys she's flirting with. You don't want to develop feelings for anyone that will treat you like that.

 

What happened is something or someone better came along. It's brutal but it's reality. The fact she blew off your second attempt, proves the first excuse she gave was a lie. Do you want to be with a liar?

 

I have had girlfriends and I have had flakes. For the women who eventually became my girlfriends, communication and finding ways to meet up with them was never a problem.

 

What you will find is that most women do not like to tell you they're not interested. They'd rather gnaw their arm off. What you have to do is interpret the actions. If she's blowing you off, making up excuses, and not willing to respect you time, she is telling you she's not interested. And having dealt with flakes myself, I can tell you she is doing you a big favor by showing you her true character upfront. Now you don't have to waste anymore time.

 

Part of being a man is just accepting that this women isn't interested (unless you're a natural ladies man this is going to happen a lot), pick yourself up, and move on. This will probably happen to you a million times, which is why you can't dwell on it or try to analyze/justify her actions. Her rejection says nothing about you as a man. How you react though is what defines your manhood. :) Good luck!

 

I read everything u wrote & it was really really good but she says I can be there to meet her when she gets off work in 30 mins so maybe something good can come out of this :). I'm not trying to prove people wrong no no, u all been a good help to me & very caring but I really like this girl & she really likes me & I'm gonna see her & talk to her ok? Wish me luck.

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Ohh...my..god...Kid, I really feel awful for you. You're gonna get crushed by this girl if you keep this up. She doesn't like you; at Mosr she likes the attention from you. In her mind, you are an emotional tampon/doormat that she can walk all over. You need to stop singling out a girl just because she will talk to you and meet other women.

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I read everything u wrote & it was really really good but she says I can be there to meet her when she gets off work in 30 mins so maybe something good can come out of this :). I'm not trying to prove people wrong no no, u all been a good help to me & very caring but I really like this girl & she really likes me & I'm gonna see her & talk to her ok? Wish me luck.

 

Can you please come back here ASAP so we can get an update about this woman. I'm very curious as to what happened when you went to meet her this evening and whether she stood you up again. You're not going to get it until she does it again. And trust me...she will.

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I dont wanna be that kinda guy. A couple times I started getting annoyed but thats about it. I hate to have a grudge on people. Its wrong u know. I went jogging & its so humid out. I could only run for 5 mins. I text her this afternoon & told her & she give me advice to take it slow by doing a quick walk & then do a little jogging later. Thats very nice of her 'cause I didn't even know if I was doing things right. And um..I asked her what kinds of food she likes & she likes the same food as me & we both laugh about it. I think I might have a chance but I gotta be cool about it like my friend say to do :).

 

Then they will constantly chew you up and spit you up.

 

And this goes also for the woman you will eventually convince to marry you.

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I read everything u wrote & it was really really good but she says I can be there to meet her when she gets off work in 30 mins so maybe something good can come out of this :). I'm not trying to prove people wrong no no, u all been a good help to me & very caring but I really like this girl & she really likes me & I'm gonna see her & talk to her ok? Wish me luck.

 

Sure bro, it's your life. :) You don't have to prove anything to us friend. You have to be true to yourself, that's it. Anyway, when it comes to matters of the heart, most people have to learn the hard way. I'm just trying to spare you some pain :)

 

I just think that it already got off on the wrong foot. She knows she can disrespect you and that you will just take it with no qualms. Despite what you read on these forums about women's looks, hair, etc, at the end of a day a man doesn't have to have everyone respect and like him. But for the love of God, his woman has to respect him.

 

Main thing I look for in a woman's character: will she respect me and have my back NO MATTER WHAT? Most other things are negotiable for a man. Look at quality couples you know. Do you think the man has to wonder if his woman will have his back? No. This woman doesn't respect you. I wouldn't waste any time getting to know her. I would be glad she showed it early on and be happy I didn't get distracted from my hobbies or other projects.

 

Also, the most obvious signals you'll get from a woman is when she's not interested. If you're having problems reading those signs, just wait until you get into a relationship :lmao: Read the signs bro, read the signs.

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Can you please come back here ASAP so we can get an update about this woman. I'm very curious as to what happened when you went to meet her this evening and whether she stood you up again. You're not going to get it until she does it again. And trust me...she will.

 

It happened again guys :sick:. I show up at the dentist's office & its closed & I look so stupid. All the people staring at me like a retarded freak. I send a text & a bunch more texts & she replies early this morning before she goes to work to say she had something to do so she left earlier. I ask her how come she forgets to tell me & she says sorry. Now I dont know what to do & what to think. I'm scared to even ask to see her 'cause she might be in a rush or something & I'm gonna get stood up more :(.

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It happened again guys :sick:. I show up at the dentist's office & its closed & I look so stupid. All the people staring at me like a retarded freak. I send a text & a bunch more texts & she replies early this morning before she goes to work to say she had something to do so she left earlier. I ask her how come she forgets to tell me & she says sorry. Now I dont know what to do & what to think. I'm scared to even ask to see her 'cause she might be in a rush or something & I'm gonna get stood up more :(.

Do you listen to anyone's advice?

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Do you listen to anyone's advice?

 

Um...I try to really. My friend says to ignore her now but he didn't say this before so I tried to be with her. I cant help that I like her alot. Um....I feel weird now though 'cause she text me again asking me if I'm mad at her & not to be & she wants to make it up. I dont know if I believe her :o.

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Um...I try to really. My friend says to ignore her now but he didn't say this before so I tried to be with her. I cant help that I like her alot. Um....I feel weird now though 'cause she text me again asking me if I'm mad at her & not to be & she wants to make it up. I dont know if I believe her :o.

 

text her back and tell her: "meet me at my place tonight to show me how much you want to make it up to me."

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Um...I try to really. My friend says to ignore her now but he didn't say this before so I tried to be with her. I cant help that I like her alot. Um....I feel weird now though 'cause she text me again asking me if I'm mad at her & not to be & she wants to make it up. I dont know if I believe her :o.

 

got played papi sorry. like everyone else says in here she liked the attn u gave her. she was probably bored lol.

 

i once did this lame **** to a guy when i was 14. he was like 21-22 and he was all over me but i dragged him along til i got tired of him and then just stopped texting him.

 

he got fed up and started sending hated msgs or w/e. now that i'm going on 18 i dont do that kinda ****. i'm str8 up with guys about how i feel.

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It happened again guys :sick:. I show up at the dentist's office & its closed & I look so stupid. All the people staring at me like a retarded freak. I send a text & a bunch more texts & she replies early this morning before she goes to work to say she had something to do so she left earlier. I ask her how come she forgets to tell me & she says sorry. Now I dont know what to do & what to think. I'm scared to even ask to see her 'cause she might be in a rush or something & I'm gonna get stood up more :(.

 

I'm going to choose to shake my head in dissapointment at you and not to laugh, because it's sad that it took this lady to pull the rug out from under you to start getting the point across. I'm not surprised at all at what she did. So typical of the female game-players and you're the latest victim.

 

But even after this, I'm still not certain you won't try again, especially in that she asked you not to be angry and to let her make it up to you. I'm curious how this is going to play out now and what your next move will be with her. It's quite clear you're still undecided. :rolleyes:

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Find your balls, bro. Either tell her to come to your place, or don't bother texting her at all. If you text her again and continue to get played, it's on you at that point, not her. It really seems like she's not taking you seriously, tho.

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It happened again guys :sick:. I show up at the dentist's office & its closed & I look so stupid. All the people staring at me like a retarded freak. I send a text & a bunch more texts & she replies early this morning before she goes to work to say she had something to do so she left earlier. I ask her how come she forgets to tell me & she says sorry. Now I dont know what to do & what to think. I'm scared to even ask to see her 'cause she might be in a rush or something & I'm gonna get stood up more :(.

Why am I not surprised? :rolleyes:

 

We told you this would happen. When you let people disrespect you once, they will do it again if you let them. This girl doesnt see you as a man...she sees you as some boy whos time doesnt matter to her.

 

You wont get anywhere with women if you give off the vibe that they can just show you up and give you lame excuses. A woman would never do that to me and get away with it.

 

And no, she doesnt really like you...she doesnt like you at all actually. When girls like a guy, they bend over backwards to see him.

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It was not a shock. OP just reading this thread...I get the impression you are quite anxious and very self concious, and that combined with the desperation to get a gf aspect is not going to make the goal any easier. I think you should visit doc/naturopath/counselor and try get that under control and get some mojo, so you wont have to put up with 'I forgot about you, soooorrwi'.

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