NYC-BigKat Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 She's so nice & we talked all last night for 2 hours & we plan to go to the museum today 'cause she's off work. Well, I got to the museum at 2pm & she wasn't there . I tried texting & calling & texting & calling & no reply. I didn't know what happened. My heart was racing. I was sweating. A lot of people stared at me so so much. I probably looked freaky . Um, she called me when I was going back home & left a message on my phone. I wrote it down for u exactly as she says it ok? "I'm so so sorry I couldn't get there to see u. I couldn't figure out what to wear lol. I'm sorry really. Things happen so fast. Anyway text me tomorow & we make plans ok bye" Is she trying to play me? I dont know what to do. My confidence went up so high after she says she will meet me but now I feel so low. I really like her alot 'cause she's sounds so nice & most girls I meet aren't very nice. I wanna try again with her but I just dont know if she gonna do something else again .
Pyro Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 She's a flake. It didn't occur to her to call you before the date? The nothing to wear 'excuse' is very lame. I wouldn't waste anymore time with her. 1
ptp Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 She did play you. Nobody at the museum knew why you were there, don't worry about it. She might be a nice girl, but you won't know that until you get to know here better. I would delete her number out of pride, but you know what they say, pride comes before the fall, so what do I know.
proseandpassion Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 She may be 'nice' but she's not polite or kind. Forget about her. It's her issue, not yours.
SmileFace Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Do not contact her. She doesn't even enough to send you a text to cancel. Please do yourself a favor and don't contact her.
Cracker Jack Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Don't even follow up with this girl. Even if she decided to go this time, she'd likely just do it just to do it. No reason to waste anymore time with this one. 1
ascendotum Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 "I'm so so sorry I couldn't get there to see u. I couldn't figure out what to wear lol. This cracked me up. sorry bigkat. Its up to you if you want to txt her, but I wouldn't bother with a no show then such a lame reason. 1
kaylan Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Next. Thats ultimate disrespect. Id give her a piece of my mind and then be done with her. You dont waste someones time like that.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 Don't even follow up with this girl. Even if she decided to go this time, she'd likely just do it just to do it. No reason to waste anymore time with this one. So um, u think she might do it again for no reason?? Thats weird right? Its so hard to date girls & I dont wanna be back to the beginning where I was with nothing again . Cant I just give her another chance to see? If she's really really flakey and not nice she would've ignored all my texts right? Its like she feels bad & wants to try again. Please people dont burn me up .
kaylan Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Have some respect for youself. You sound like you have no options and thats why youre gonna let her get away with this. No she doesnt feel bad...its easy to say sorry, give a weak excuse, and then say "lets reschedule". when its done on voicemail or through text. NEXT! 3
ascendotum Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I get that you find her cute and you hate being single, but what she did was disrespectful. She forgot all about you until you hit her with a bunch of txts + msgs. And her reason, what dipstick has 2 days notice about a date, and still comes up with 'I dont know what to wear'. She didn't call you in advance to say she would not be there but left you hanging around. She hasn't offered an alternative date suggestion to make it up to you, just you contact her again. Its up to you if you are keen/desperate and dont have other options at the moment and really fancy her, you can try and play it out.
Author NYC-BigKat Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 I get that you find her cute and you hate being single, but what she did was disrespectful. She forgot all about you until you hit her with a bunch of txts + msgs. And her reason, what dipstick has 2 days notice about a date, and still comes up with 'I dont know what to wear'. She didn't call you in advance to say she would not be there but left you hanging around. She hasn't offered an alternative date suggestion to make it up to you, just you contact her again. Its up to you if you are keen/desperate and dont have other options at the moment and really fancy her, you can try and play it out. Um yea. Just gonna try to play it out one more time. I hate to give up so fast. Lots of people make mistakes. I surely do . I know what she did to me was bad & I wont forget it but I dont wanna lose out if she does right next time. I'm just plan the movies so in case she dont show up I can just see the movie by myself & not look freaky standing there.
henderson14 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Wow! Sorry man. That sucks. Some advice.....Always have them text you before they are leaving.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Are you kidding me? After she gave you some lame ass excuse you're still contemplating another date? Grow a pair because no respectful man will let himself get played a second time. 4
mortensorchid Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 SHe never showed or contacted you because she could not decide what to wear? That is the most horrible excuse I have ever heard. And she is not the one for you. Move on.
Shaun-Dro Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Um yea. Just gonna try to play it out one more time. I hate to give up so fast. Lots of people make mistakes. I surely do . I know what she did to me was bad & I wont forget it but I dont wanna lose out if she does right next time. I'm just plan the movies so in case she dont show up I can just see the movie by myself & not look freaky standing there. Your desperation for a woman is showing like a see-through jacket and it's pathetic. I'm just about positive that this young lady will not do right next time out. In fact, she'll probably come up with another excuse at ditching you, just like last time. Bigkat it's evident that you aren't going to learn by people in these forums giving you advice. You're going to have to experience some more ultimate embarrassments at the hands of phony females until it finally sinks in. 4
DreamerDeceiver Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 (edited) text her "make it up to me" and thats it. let her make the plans, dinner, all that crap. if she misses one lil thing, delete her and move on. the more women know about u in the beginning the less interested they are. women dont know what they want. talking for 2 hrs with a women is ending up in the friendzone. Imperfekt is right on the money here. Never have a 2 hour conversation with a girl on the phone before actually meeting up. Every single one that I have gone through this with, has flaked. I don't spend more than 5 - 10 minutes on the phone when setting up a date with a girl now. Also +1 to what Shaun_Dro said - once a flake always a flake! They never follow through even when you reschedule. I had a girl from OkCupid flake on me two weeks in a row before it finally sank in. One texted me months later to set up another date and she forgot about me the next week. I look at these things as funny now - I've no more desire to get mad over something so insignificant. You don't have to turn into a total ******* towards women, just adjust the way you deal with them. The only way one can do this is putting yourself out there, throwing yourself to the sharks. Don't let the BS of a few bad women get to you - stay strong guys. Edited August 3, 2012 by DreamerDeceiver 3
Author NYC-BigKat Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 wtf? ur heart is racing? what r u a virgin to the games women play? take ur balls out of her purse. text her "make it up to me" and thats it. let her make the plans, dinner, all that crap. if she misses one lil thing, delete her and move on. the more women know about u in the beginning the less interested they are. women dont know what they want. talking for 2 hrs with a women is ending up in the friendzone. if u do see her which i doubt, kiss her right away and see if she lets u play with her clit I really wish I saw this post before I called her last night . I left so many messages before she called me back. I was a dummy about it I'm sorry . I thought maybe things would work better but its not anymore. Anyway, I talked to her & asked her to the movies for tonight when she gets off from the job. She says she dont like movies for 1st dates & laughs. Then I try to make another plan & she cuts me off & says I'm a really nice guy & she thinks I'm really awesome but she dont have a lot of time to do stuff with people & she's so sorry & we can text as friends if I want. I know I know.. I'm getting rejected I know . Its gonna be real awkward at the dentist's office when I go back in for a check up.
FitChick Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 That excuse is almost as bad as this classic (and there are more funny ones on that page.
FitChick Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Its gonna be real awkward at the dentist's office when I go back in for a check up. You should have told her to wear her dental uniform. 3
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 If you really like her, give her another chance. If you don't, or you're indifferent, delete her number and never talk to her again.
Anela Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I really wish I saw this post before I called her last night . I left so many messages before she called me back. I was a dummy about it I'm sorry . I thought maybe things would work better but its not anymore. Anyway, I talked to her & asked her to the movies for tonight when she gets off from the job. She says she dont like movies for 1st dates & laughs. Then I try to make another plan & she cuts me off & says I'm a really nice guy & she thinks I'm really awesome but she dont have a lot of time to do stuff with people & she's so sorry & we can text as friends if I want. I know I know.. I'm getting rejected I know . Its gonna be real awkward at the dentist's office when I go back in for a check up. So she does turn men down, and I'm sure you're not the first. ♥ I know it's difficult, but try not to let this girl get you down - she's just proven that she isn't worth it. I wouldn't text her as a friend, either. Also, you have nothing to apologize for. She's the one who screwed up, and you're learning how to deal with situations like this. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Its gonna be real awkward at the dentist's office when I go back in for a check up. Wait, is she your dentist or the dental assistant? You might want to be extra nice to her, you don't want to end up like this guy. Never ever try to date anyone from a medical facility that you frequent. 1
truth_seeker Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I'm going to go out on a limb and say she got nervous about meeting you and that's why she canceled. I think she realizes you're a nice guy and it scared her. Was her excuse lame? 100%. Her excuse though doesn't come across like someone who was intending to be disrespectful, more so panicking. She sounds inexperienced. That's my 2 cents.
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