relationship thoughts

[Dblock10]

i think i am at a place finally where i dont actually want a relationship. i have no desire to open my heart care for someone to only get let down.

 

single life is so much better and easier.

 

what is the point in committing to someone these days ? is there any benefit.. if there is apart from reg sex then ive missed the point

 

to me thats the only thing having a gf can give you. i have friends they make me laugh, i dont need a woman

[KatZee]

I'm at the same mentality except regarding guys. I'm not quite sure I see the point in trying to be in a committed relationship with anyone.

 

My ex was one of the self-proclaimed "nice guys" and I'm sorry... if that's a nice guy I'm completely and utterly F*CKED.

 

I saw all throughout our relationship how his friend's treated their girlfriends/fiancees. Cheating, lying, disrespect.

 

I also see it all around me on a daily basis. I see older couples all the time where the man is screaming at his wife. Just embarrassing her. Clearly they've been together too long that they just can't stand each other.

 

I don't want this at all. And I'm not some insecure person. I don't NEED a relationship. I'm perfectly fine and happy without one. There's a lot less drama, I'm worried about MYSELF for once, and not strung up on how to keep my boyfriend happy.

 

I had so many gray hairs in my last relationship. I realized I haven't pulled even ONE out since the split. I used to have extreme anxiety and panic. It's gone. I had no self-worth in my last relationshp. Now it's back. I had no confidence. Now I'm whole.

 

Sure, I'm clearly jaded and generalizing and making it out to be that ALL men are terrible, which I'm sure they're not... but I haven't experienecd it. And I'd rather be single and alone, than with someone and unhappy. I do what I want, when I want. I answer to no one. I take up the whole bed at night. I can watching Lifetime Movie Network until my eyes bleed!! I can finally eat whatever the hell I want and buy whatever the hell I want at the supermarket without worrying about my exes stupid "allergies" he claimed to have (but never truly did, it was all in his mind. I did feed him one of the offending vegetables without him knowing and NOTHING happened.)

 

I'm in no rush to date. Maybe one day. But no day soon. I'm in no rush to hate someone for the rest of my life. Or get stuck with a husband and kids only to be left for an office secretary. I'm not in any rush to be dealing with separations or divorce or lawyers. It's all so ugly.

[MCMLXXXIX]

You are correct.

 

Relationships are overrated.

 

Most young people don't understand what commitment means.

 

Go have fun with other people looking for fun.

 

However, be prepared.

 

There's always a chance in a hundred you might find a girl worth caring for.

 

1 in 100.

 

In the meantime, be hard.

[weallfalldown]

you two are not alone, and i see and hear the same all the time.......even though i'd like to be with someone....