JayLove8 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 Hey Guys... so my i have kept nc for a month now since my ex always told me not to call or text anymore. now she just told me that the dog we bought together as a puppy (which we kept at her home, so i havent seen the dog either since the break up) has to be euthanized. im really sad about it, but should i answer back? i mean she told me not to contact her the whole time, but since its such a screwed up situation im not sure what to do. maybe some of you have suggestions...
Dblock10 Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 told you not to txt or call yet she can do the same to you... haha tell her to do one. i would say, oh thats a shame, but at least the dog will be as dead as you are to me, adios
weallfalldown Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 ask her if she was feeding it properly, ask her wtf it has to do with you!....
Mike_d Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 the outcome with the dog is known, there is nothing you can do about it even if you were there. I'd suggest keeping nc, hold your own ceremony/rememberance/wake for the dog to honor their presence in your life. dogs are awesome, I'm really sorry for your loss. but breaking nc after so long wouldn't be something I'd want to do, I know about groundhog day from direct personal experience, square 1 is not a pleasant place to be, I'm working my ass off not to go backstepping as well. breathe, take life in 2 hr blocks, reach out here and try to help someone else in order to get your mind off of your own drama (hence my appearance here)
Author JayLove8 Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 i know what you mean.. its just i dont wanna seem heartless and pretend i dont care, because i really cared for the dog since its technically our both pet.. but i think im not gonna text her anything because she told me not to text her.. i mean its over a month that she didnt even talk to me in any kind of way.. isnt that heartless too? i mean i had to go through a lot this last couple weeks and she wasnt showing any sign of life...
Mike_d Posted August 2, 2012 Posted August 2, 2012 you are not heartless, this isn't a time to pile on yourself with additional emotional beatings - you care, clearly. that's enough. one of the things that I still work on is letting go of what other people might think, it doesn't matter. we're not here to impress others. if she told you not to text her then she has given you the message. it isn't heartless that she hasn't txtd you either, she is being congruent with her message to you. you have the message. you just need to keep listening to it. hurts like hell, trust me, I'm in the same boat, check my story from last year, I am Mr Groundhog Day, but ever forward.
Author JayLove8 Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 i dont know what to do now.. she just wrote me like "oh so you dont care, its ok" and "i just thought since it was our both pet you would care" what am i supposed to do. i dont wanna break up nc but its really hard right now
g450 Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 i dont know what to do now.. she just wrote me like "oh so you dont care, its ok" and "i just thought since it was our both pet you would care" what am i supposed to do. i dont wanna break up nc but its really hard right now What she thinks of you doesnt matter. She has no right to assume that anyway. Wish I had a dollar for every time I tell people they should block their ex and they refuse to do it citing all kinds of excuses to stay in contact with them. I would probably be buying myself that Porsche by now. Stay NC. She is using the dogs death as an excuse to take your temp. Block her.
Mike_d Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 What she thinks of you doesnt matter. She has no right to assume that anyway. plus 1 hang in, it's totally tough right now but it will pass. it will pass, just roll with it for awhile as best you can, and if it's not your best then that's ok, but just do your best and stay nc, there is nothing you can do even if you call/contact/break about the situation. write a letter about the situation and the dog and your feelings right now just to get it out if you need to, but don't mail it, stick it in a drawer somewhere so that in 6 months you can look back on it.
Author JayLove8 Posted August 3, 2012 Author Posted August 3, 2012 thanks guys...youre right.. i mean what would be the outcome of me texting back...
Mike_d Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 checking back in, how you doing? (helping others helps me right now, keeps me out of my head, a good thing, so here I am)
Samilia Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 i dont know what to do now.. she just wrote me like "oh so you dont care, its ok" and "i just thought since it was our both pet you would care" what am i supposed to do. i dont wanna break up nc but its really hard right now That's passive aggressive. I would want to know why he has to be put down. People put down their animals for the stupidest reasons, like they don't want to spend money on a urinary tract infection. If the reason is known to you, then I'd tell her to f*ck off, because her text is bullsh*t and so is she. I resent passive aggressive, it's just as low as sarcasms.
EgoJoe Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Respond, "So you're commiting suicide?" J/k Breadcrumbs and bull****.
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