RedRobin Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 Multi-dating! How many people should you be dating at the same time? - Yahoo! Shine she is a monogamy enthusiast but encourages multidating but suggests cutting it off as soon as you find somebody you actually like. Is this a healthy approach? Is it what is usually meant by "multidating"? Is it consistent with non-multidating? Comments appreciated but please read the article first! I disagree with everything in this article except this... In other words, the below paragraph is absolutely the only thing I agree with... "Always be clear and honest with the people that you are dating. Never insinuate that you are dating only one person if you aren't. "Don't ask, don't tell" is a lie. If someone you see a future with wants to be monogamous with you, this should be made clear. If you agree, everyone else should be cut off, effective immediately." Some of us don't need to date multiple people simultaneously to be very precisely clear on what we want.
chphan Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 youre just making an excuse for yourself and want acceptance on your point of view so you feel its ok to multidate. but if you hit it off and youre attracted to them, then thats it. otherwise, tell them you want to be friends and move on. but you have that multidating seed in you looking to come out. do what the hell you want. but its first date. if you hit it off and she gave clear intentions she wants another date (and you do too), then its dating. first date and kissing. gaming is over. Im a mature adult and I dont play games like you seem to do. I see something, I like it, I buy it. bam, done. first date. and if the first date didnt go well then why would there be a 2nd? You making too many assumptions on your part about me but whatever. However I will agree that if I'm interested and she's interested in a second date than that's when I don't window shop. Just hitting it off doesn't cut it because it doesn't mean she see me as more than that especially when it's OLD when you are meeting for the first time just to check out what the other person really is like and if they are like in their pictures. And I don't kiss on the first date.
Emilia Posted August 3, 2012 Posted August 3, 2012 I guess I didn't get the memo. You use OLD though, I put a caveat for that
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