tachan Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I know that everyone has broken up with someone at one point in their lifes. Its a part of life I know. The question I have is: Why is it that a lot of people break up through social media then in person? I have had break ups through everything possible except in person and I find it wrong esp if you spent a lot of time with someone. Just want to hear other peoples opinion..
utterer of lies Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I know that everyone has broken up with someone at one point in their lifes. Its a part of life I know. The question I have is: Why is it that a lot of people break up through social media then in person? I have had break ups through everything possible except in person and I find it wrong esp if you spent a lot of time with someone. Just want to hear other peoples opinion.. Because they are afraid of confrontation, and hide behind the computer. 2
january2011 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Live by the sword, die by the sword. It's, "what the kids do." Unless they're old-fashioned...I still remember the days when it was common to produce a handwritten 5+ page letter to explain the break-up. Personally, I think that in-person breakups are the most respectful. Unfortunately, the dumpee usually has no choice regarding the medium. Therefore, it is best to just focus on what is a choice: your reaction and making your life awesome from now on regardless of how you were dumped.
RiverRunning Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I always break up in person. Unless he's physically abusive, I do my best to do it in person. If it were long-distance, I would call, not text or e-mail (I'm in my 20s). I think it's incredibly inconsiderate to do it on-line. I still remember breaking up with my first ex. I went to his house...thankfully nobody was home, because I knew otherwise I was going to have to lure him from the house to break up with him, then drive him home (he didn't have a car. Terrible circumstances). I couldn't break up with him while everybody's home...they would all be drawn into the drama. I started crying, told him it was over and I couldn't do it anymore. I got all of the typical stuff: "I'll change!" "I'll treat you better!" lol, yeah right. He was a complete jerk but I'm glad I stuck to my principles and gave him the decency of an in-person break-up.
Author tachan Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 I agree that in person breakups are better and most RESPECTFUL then a txt msg or whatever. I find it easy that anyone can write whatever and send it in a msg that most people cant deal with the emotional part when face to face. I find it so cowardly and disrespectful after spending all that time with someone that u get is a txt msg!
Feelin Frisky Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Technology has been enabling cowardice since pen and ink. But it's never been right nor has it done anything for the person who fails to face the discomforts that come with ending a relationship. Granted, some people who are on the losing end of a dumping situation are problematic--there are those who live in "blame world" and always point that finger at someone or something else while seeing themselves as flawless. There are others who are emotionally unsound and show rage and utter self-absorption. I for one can excuse folks whom have found out the hard way that they've engaged with someone unfit for mature expression of their feelings and issues from which an amicable separation can be achieved. But I frankly have no use for someone who can't extend the common decency of allowing both parties to exit with their humility in tact if nothing has happened to cause hatred toward each other. I guess some of them don't even know that this is possible--perhaps they have only had relationships with nuts and tyrants and don't know anything else but to flea. Or maybe the are just way closer to being sociopaths than empaths. But if the chance is there to break with respect and dignity still possible, IMO it's damn near a crime to heartlessly dump someone, learn absolutely nothing, leave your partner bewildered, and set about on your merry way to hurt someone else. "Text", FaceBook, Twatter, are making this an emotionally less developed culture.
udolipixie Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Likely convenience, lack of care for the person, and/or fear of confrontation. I don't find it wrong rather I find it quite understandable as it's pretty easy for me to change a fb status or send a tweet rather than meet up and talk with him. In my opinion either way the end result is the same- I dumped him.
Author tachan Posted August 2, 2012 Author Posted August 2, 2012 I guess its the norm nowadays. I know its an end either way but when you start being with someone there is a risk of ending. I just think its a cowardly way to end it. So you hurt the other person and they get mad but at least u get the respect of ending it right...
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