AnchordHeart Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I dont really know your situation, but if you two are broken up, and she's telling you she no longer has feelings for you, the best thing to do is tell her you RESPECT her feelings, then calmly share yours. If you still love her, you should tell her something like.. 'I understand you no longer share the same feelings I do, and I respect your decision to break up. I won't force you to stay. I honestly hope you find what your looking for.' It makes you look respectable, wile allowing you to share your feelings without loosing dignity. She'll remember you for that.
Author cbplayer Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 I dont really know your situation, but if you two are broken up, and she's telling you she no longer has feelings for you, the best thing to do is tell her you RESPECT her feelings, then calmly share yours. If you still love her, you should tell her something like.. 'I understand you no longer share the same feelings I do, and I respect your decision to break up. I won't force you to stay. I honestly hope you find what your looking for.' It makes you look respectable, wile allowing you to share your feelings without loosing dignity. She'll remember you for that. This is my situation lol my gf of one year told me that she sees me as more of a friend now. The romantic feelings died but not entirely. she broke up with me.She said she has to figure her life out and has a lot of stress. Also I insinuated that I wouldnt be her friend and then she said that she wouldnt rule out us being together when she figures out her feelings. I wanna add that I did plead a little bit but I soon stopped ( the same day of the break up) and told her we'll have things her away. So far I've kept busy but I still have the lingering desire to be with her. I've gone 4 weeks of NC. Can our relationship be salvaged? Has anyone gone through something like this and ended up keeping the girl?
AnchordHeart Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I feel like her telling you she can see herself with you in the future is signaling she either 1) Has mixed feelings about the break 2) (more likely) She wants to be single and go have fun, and if she doesnt enjoy it, she wants to be able to go back to you. Trust me, remain NC for the time being. It will allow you to heal, and once the pain is gone, you can really determine how you feel about her. Also, I suggest showing her how exciting your life can be without her. Realizing you have a life outside of her will spark her interest.
Author cbplayer Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 (edited) I feel like her telling you she can see herself with you in the future is signaling she either 1) Has mixed feelings about the break 2) (more likely) She wants to be single and go have fun, and if she doesnt enjoy it, she wants to be able to go back to you. Trust me, remain NC for the time being. It will allow you to heal, and once the pain is gone, you can really determine how you feel about her. Also, I suggest showing her how exciting your life can be without her. Realizing you have a life outside of her will spark her interest. This confuses me. Often times I get mixed reviews. Like some ppl will say " she lost feelings so the relationship cannot be salvaged" and some ppl will say " be scarce in her life and move on and become more attractive ( new haircut, better body, more indifference towards her, high social status, and success) then re-enter her life and spit game and after a while she'll mostly likely be interested again. So, basically idk what to think. Can you clear things up for me? Edited August 1, 2012 by cbplayer
Ami1uwant Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 Not sure of your ages....if you are younger like 25 or younger it because they still havent learned what love is where they have those feelings when love first started but they fade so she things she doesnt love you anymore. Is it possible you could have something happen in the future...yes...but dont count on it. Look to move on.
LittleTiger Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 I'll clear things up for you but you won't like what I say. If your girlfriend says she doesn't love you anymore, believe her and move on with dignity. The 'dignity' part gives you more chance to win her back if she does change her mind and it is far better for your self respect not to 'beg' - although almost everyone does it to some extent. However, when people tell you to work on yourself, that's actually for your own sake and has nothing to do with getting her back. Once you focus on you and stop thinking about what you have lost, you will almost certainly decide that you are better off without her. Not what you wanted to hear perhaps but that is the truth of your situation.
madjac74 Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 This is my situation lol my gf of one year told me that she sees me as more of a friend now. The romantic feelings died but not entirely. she broke up with me.She said she has to figure her life out and has a lot of stress. Also I insinuated that I wouldnt be her friend and then she said that she wouldnt rule out us being together when she figures out her feelings. I wanna add that I did plead a little bit but I soon stopped ( the same day of the break up) and told her we'll have things her away. So far I've kept busy but I still have the lingering desire to be with her. I've gone 4 weeks of NC. Can our relationship be salvaged? Has anyone gone through something like this and ended up keeping the girl? My wife of almost 10 years told me this. The result is we got a divorce and I moved on. Just be happy you only gave her a year of your life and move on to find someone who will really love you.
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