Why does she wantme when she was the 1 who lead me on rejected me an broke my heart

[Theglexpa9000]

*sorry if it is long but i greatly appreciate all those who took the time to read.*

 

ok This girl has put me through hell and back many many times, I tried so hard to get her, texting her calling her and trying to get her to hang out. But nothing worked. I made sure not be a stalker, or creepy or seem too eager I chose my words carefully and tried my best to make her feel loved. She's a little shy in general but is extremely shy only around me. But I dont know if she just felt awkward around me because she doesnt feel the same way or what. Anyways I wouldve done literally anything for this girl and there was no denying it. I tried my best to figure out if she liked me anymore than a friend but she she kept playing games with my head and it would always leave me feeling a little hurt inside. But the final straw came when she decided to break my heart. I went to a party and I saw her grinding really seductively with this guy who I happen to know well. I know she saw me too because she looked right at me for 3 seconds but she kept going at it with this guy and seemed really into it, dry humping and rubbing her butt on his crotch and manhood i was completely shocked at this because I never expected her to be the sort of girl doing that because she was so shy. Furthermore I learned that it wasnt him that asked her to dance (although he did buy her a drink) it was actually her who asked one of her friends to ask him to dance with him. THAT MEANS SHE WANTED HIM. She also spent the entire night with him I know because the guy lives next door to me and he didnt come back til 7AM THE NEXT MORNING! Although the party had finished at 1 am! For the rest of the night all I could think is them them have sex or doing sexual things with each other because I saw him with his arm around her and her friends tagging along and giggling and they went back from the party to her dorm room. I left the party early because of the shock and I could not sleep that thats how i knew exactly when he came back to his room again at 7AM in the morning! I cried the whole night and felt so sick in my stomach i didnt eat much for 3 days. The two of them hung out for about a month but then they stopped after something have happened(Im just speculating) . Anyways i never saw them together again. Thats when she contacted me. Of all the times I had ever talked this girl before NOT ONCE did she ever contact me first so i was surprised. The only reason I had kept talking to her for so long was because she always responded to my texts and flirted with me. I was a really nice guy and she seemed like a really nice girl. But like the old cliche she went for the bad boy. But its not like im some ugly guy nerdy guy either. In fact we both got 8/10 ratings from random girls. And i agree we are both goodlooking guys and i dont think we anything over the other in terms of looks and the girl we like is really beautiful as well. Anyways what this guy has over me is his charm and "swag" and much more confidence and experience with girls. But he his also a player. He will have up to 3 or 4 different girls over his room during the month. Anyways i guess the girl realized they weren't a good match so she came back running to me. Lucky me!

 

But i figured that she only liked me for the attention I gave her. But i still responded to her text asking me how i was doing. I responded to her text politely but I knew it would be my final farewell message to her, I told her I had a lot of fun talking to her over the past months and wished her luck. But then she started playing her games again and she actually took 5 days to respond. She always took long to respond to my messages. But I was already done with her for good and never responded back. When a couple of days passed and she realized I was not responding. She started to post angry messages on facebook talkng about how it rude not to respond to ppls messages. Thats when i responded saying "dueces" and posted chris brown famous song that everyone thinks was about Rihanna. After that she started to post all sort of things on facebook with her at parties, smiling with friends, liking other guys shirtless pictures . But i was noticeably quiet as i was fed up with her games and would have no more of it. After a week of not getting the reaction she was used to getting from me, she wrote something about missing someone she loved, or about her getting unfairly judged by someone she loved. I knew she was probably trying to get a reaction out of me, but I didnt trust her anymore and I felt she was just trying to get back the attention and love I had given her so much of and what she had gotten so used to. So she would go on and off posting pics of her smiling and having fun, but then she would seem to crash again and her pictures and posts looked sadder and she continued to write posts about someone missing in her life and even used quotes from conversations we had had. But I remained resolute because I had seen this all before when I used to pull away when I felt like I wasnt getting anywhere with her and she would always do the strange things to make me come crawling back then she would ignore me again. But this time I had sobered up and spent the remaining months preparing my mind to move on. But for all that time all i could think was her, in fact she was constantly on my mind from the day i met her. It was a bitter recovery some days i was just fine but then the wave of hurt would come back and all I could think of was the two of them at the party simulating sex at the back of the club and the passion hard sex they must of had. But she maintains that she is a innocent virgen as that has been the theme of many of her wall posts on fb. Anyways I continued to struggle and she continued to try to get my attention. Then finally I met another girl and posted the pic privately which means the only way someone could see it is if they went through my profile. So two days after i posted that pic with me and the girl im now seeing. She post this vague message "So I guess its over huh. Im sorry" and changed her profile pic to her on the verge of crying. For the past 5 days she hasnt been on facebook. This is a girl who rarely misses a day on that website. Now i cant help but feel guilty, and wonder if she really did have feelings. Can someone help me Im feeling so bad right now, I mean we werent even together but she feels like a ex that I loved dearly, I still think about her today and wonder if i made the right decision.

[satyr]

Dude.....a pretty big post that was

Anyways ill summarize it up for ya n jus give u a piece of advice

This gal is was jus playin with u and id suggest --don even have an inch of regret for it...personally if it was me in ur boots then i wouldnt even think of tis chick even for a moment

Im sure u hv a great future so jus leave it all behind and move on..ull always find somebody else...trust me

[Darren Steez]

Move on dumbass, you're being played by a girl that likes to mess with nice guys like you who over analyze everything, how long is she taking to text back, she saw me and continued to grind on a man while I went home and cried.

 

These are the lessons of life, you sound young so in time you will realise there are some good girls out there and some bad ones..This one is a user, who will use you and the attention you give her and if another guy takes her fancy she'll be off like a rocket..and you'll probably still be calling being a nice guy.

 

Go find another girl because this one will hurt ya.

 

Good luck

[GLDheart]

Swag guy made her feel used and like $hit. She is now at an ego low and could use a boost from you to get back up to her normal feel good self where she won't need you again.

 

Help her out if you'd like, but you do know how this ends.

[Balzac]

Operative two words "many times" yet you feel compelled to detail the drama. You derive some payoff for the drama. Focus on figuring that out and you'll have actually learned something.

[Theglexpa9000]

Yea you are all right. I just cant believe i've wasted so much time thinking. I guess she was soo good at appearing as the sweet girl who cares about animals and the environment that I just got captivated by her charm. I will not be there to stroke her ego anymore. in fact the last time I did she left me to pick up the pieces. Im so glad i talked to someone this has been on my mind for almost 2 years.

[Theglexpa9000]

yea you are so right man. I do know how it will end and its not gonna be good for me. I just cant believe such a "sweet" girl could be such a monster.

[scatterd]

She went for the bad guy and found out how bad he really was and now she wants your attention. Youwas kind to her and she blew it. She did not run after you when you was hurt. Date a few girls their is plenty of Innocent pretty ones out there and then pick the best one. If she is the one she will come around and tell you.