whoknows11 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 After i found out my ex was seeing someone else, i figured i wouldve moved on so much quicker and id just have so much hatred for her for everything shes done after the breakup. Turns out i was wrong.. Ive been doing worse each day. Ive been out late each night usually until 5am and usually not asleep until 8 or 9am. I dont get up until 5 or 6 pm. Sometimes 8pm. Even when im not out my sleep schedules the same. Its unhealthy and horrible. Ive been having dreams about her that feel so real. Hurts to wake up. Ive been talking to other girls, but it just does nothing. I just dont really wanna do it. But the one person i want to hear from more than anything, i never will. Shes happy with another guy. Sharing new moments, giving her heart to and feelings,spending her time and doing everything with. I was doing everything i could to get that after she left. Even before we got together we worked at for months before we got together. It only took a month, about a month and a half for them two to get to that point. I just dont get it. I never will. I wouldve gave anything to of been that guy once again. But she chose someone else. It just seems harder everyday no matter what i do. I just think of her more ans more. Ill admit, i love her so much and it kills me to know shes with someone else. I miss her each day. She found who she wants. And theres nothing i can do about it. I just wish it was a dream..
Author whoknows11 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 I havent moved on. Not an inch. Im just not myself anymore. I havent contacted her though. Theres no point at all.
lil hoodlum Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I don't mean to give you false hope but you don't really know how she feels. You are just assuming she feels that way. I am in the same boat as you. My ex and I split nearly 2 months ago after a 4.5 years together. I have my good days and my bad days. I pray alot and that has given me alot of stregnth. I also used to talk about the BU with my friends alot at first. Now I don't say anything because I sound like a broken record. You really should try to find something to "occupy" your time. I am in summer school and have all the sudden gotten way to busy to think about her all of the time. It helps. Now that you do have more time for yourself, set some goals for yourself. Do some positive things to make you feel better about yourself. I apologize my advice may not help you very much. If you are religous though, know that God does have a plan for you. He does want you to be happy and successful. However, He does things His way and on His time frame. Maybe you can figure out why all of this has happened to you. Is there something that you feel you should learn from this? How will you handle things differently? Aside from the ex, what is it that you want out of life for yourself? Hang in there! I am sure that there are other people who care about you and your situation.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 I don't mean to give you false hope but you don't really know how she feels. You are just assuming she feels that way. I am in the same boat as you. My ex and I split nearly 2 months ago after a 4.5 years together. I have my good days and my bad days. I pray alot and that has given me alot of stregnth. I also used to talk about the BU with my friends alot at first. Now I don't say anything because I sound like a broken record. You really should try to find something to "occupy" your time. I am in summer school and have all the sudden gotten way to busy to think about her all of the time. It helps. Now that you do have more time for yourself, set some goals for yourself. Do some positive things to make you feel better about yourself. I apologize my advice may not help you very much. If you are religous though, know that God does have a plan for you. He does want you to be happy and successful. However, He does things His way and on His time frame. Maybe you can figure out why all of this has happened to you. Is there something that you feel you should learn from this? How will you handle things differently? Aside from the ex, what is it that you want out of life for yourself? Hang in there! I am sure that there are other people who care about you and your situation. I appreciate the help. Theres no false hope. Its clear shes happy with him. The picture i saw on facebook says alot. And shes probobaly in love with him already. Its clear. She hasnt reached out at all. I dont exist to her anymore. I never was a single thought in her mind now. Ive tried occupying myself. I always do. It never works. As for god, no offense at all but i dont believe in him anymore. I lost all my faith in him,question existence. I prayed constantly asking for the same thing. Or just to talk. It just seemed like it got worse each time. And look how it ended up after it all. He just let me suffer the whole time. And watched me grieve each day. As much as i prayed for it, he gave her to someone else. If he existed man, it wouldnt of ended this way, and i wouldnt be this way. Theres no plans at all. I lost. Im completly miserable and its done.
dannykeyz831 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Like the above poster said, you really have no idea what she is going through her head. She might have just moved on quickly because some women just hate being alone..my ex gf admitted that one time. I believe that women move on very quickly because they are trying to recapture what they once had with you with this new person..they don't really want to start over so they sort of rush things. I also don't want to give you false hope but this sounds like a rebound to me. 4.5 years of being together is quite a long time to just forget about somebody. She may have just gotten bored of you and wanted to try something else. My ex gf has done this too me like 3 times already but its been my fault because I haven't really changed myself and did the mistake of giving her all the power. I would take her back as soon as she would call. What you need to do is go nc regardless if she call you back or not. If she does and you still feel like you want to be with her then make her work for it. She stayed with you for a long time which means she cares about you deeply...just lost attraction for you. Looks isn't everything and neither is money..you need to be the guy who she fell in love with. You might haven't gotten to comfortable in the relationship and that spark that you two once had vanished. You're begging and crying just reassured her that she made the right decision. For now just keep yourself busy and change yourself mentally and physically. If she doesn't come back then she really wasn't the one for you. If she does then there is always hope for a long future together. Regardless of what happens, stay nc because 1, she will either call you up to get back together or 2, you'll be over her. Stay strong buddy
Author whoknows11 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Like the above poster said, you really have no idea what she is going through her head. She might have just moved on quickly because some women just hate being alone..my ex gf admitted that one time. I believe that women move on very quickly because they are trying to recapture what they once had with you with this new person..they don't really want to start over so they sort of rush things. I also don't want to give you false hope but this sounds like a rebound to me. 4.5 years of being together is quite a long time to just forget about somebody. She may have just gotten bored of you and wanted to try something else. My ex gf has done this too me like 3 times already but its been my fault because I haven't really changed myself and did the mistake of giving her all the power. I would take her back as soon as she would call. What you need to do is go nc regardless if she call you back or not. If she does and you still feel like you want to be with her then make her work for it. She stayed with you for a long time which means she cares about you deeply...just lost attraction for you. Looks isn't everything and neither is money..you need to be the guy who she fell in love with. You might haven't gotten to comfortable in the relationship and that spark that you two once had vanished. You're begging and crying just reassured her that she made the right decision. For now just keep yourself busy and change yourself mentally and physically. If she doesn't come back then she really wasn't the one for you. If she does then there is always hope for a long future together. Regardless of what happens, stay nc because 1, she will either call you up to get back together or 2, you'll be over her. Stay strong buddy Thing is, theres no false hope. Its clear she found who she wants. She completly lied about why we had to break up. A fake excuse. Then just continued to give me false hopes, and a promise. I believed it the entire time. I even waited for her, and put my trust in her. Didnt do anything with another girl. Even promised. She did the same. Turns out they were all lies. I was her emotional crutch without knowing. So she can work on things with this guy and end up together like they are now. Something she knew id give anything for. She turned on me like we were never together or i exsisted. She replaced me that easily. I cant do that at all. I havent moved on at all.
dannykeyz831 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 Thing is, theres no false hope. Its clear she found who she wants. She completly lied about why we had to break up. A fake excuse. Then just continued to give me false hopes, and a promise. I believed it the entire time. I even waited for her, and put my trust in her. Didnt do anything with another girl. Even promised. She did the same. Turns out they were all lies. I was her emotional crutch without knowing. So she can work on things with this guy and end up together like they are now. Something she knew id give anything for. She turned on me like we were never together or i exsisted. She replaced me that easily. I cant do that at all. I havent moved on at all. Women do this because they don't want to hurt you further. Would you have wanted her to say, "Hey I found somebody else, move on"? She didn't want you to hate her because she cares about you man so she of course had to lie. Also, you made the mistake of promising her not to talk to another girl. you pretty much gave her all the power right there. That is weakness to a woman. It might have been one of the reasons she left you. She turned on you so quick because she knows that she can come back to you whenever she wants. She just didn't respect you enough to keep her promise. That's your problem.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Women do this because they don't want to hurt you further. Would you have wanted her to say, "Hey I found somebody else, move on"? She didn't want you to hate her because she cares about you man so she of course had to lie. Also, you made the mistake of promising her not to talk to another girl. you pretty much gave her all the power right there. That is weakness to a woman. It might have been one of the reasons she left you. She turned on you so quick because she knows that she can come back to you whenever she wants. She just didn't respect you enough to keep her promise. That's your problem. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/331815-needing-miracle-there-still-hope Thats the poor excuse she made. And yeah i made that promise, i did cause it was supposed to be a " break ". And to show her that im here to work on it all. But theres no power. Now i know theres been someone else. I want nothing to do with her. Im not going to talk to her at all no matter what she says. Reguardless of how i feel about her. She completly ruined it by throwing me away.
dannykeyz831 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/331815-needing-miracle-there-still-hope Thats the poor excuse she made. And yeah i made that promise, i did cause it was supposed to be a " break ". And to show her that im here to work on it all. But theres no power. Now i know theres been someone else. I want nothing to do with her. Im not going to talk to her at all no matter what she says. Reguardless of how i feel about her. She completly ruined it by throwing me away. She's only 18?? well that explains a lot. Ya dude just move on. She's not at the level that a 28 year old would be in when it comes to relationships. Has a lot of maturing to do.
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