tinytrips Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 (edited) We broke up about five weeks ago. After the initial flurry of breakup messages (yes, we did it online), during which I was super nice and didn't say anything mean, I sent him a message that said I was heartbroken and he hurt me very badly. That's it. One line. No response. A week later, I sent him a message that apologized for saying that, and that I'm sorry for bad stuff that happened to both of us. No response. Three weeks go by, I didn't contact him at all, and I got drunk and sent him three drunken texts. One was an attempt at a joke, one was an apology for being mean (it was a mean joke at his expense) and one was pretty unintelligible, but it did say things like "I want to talk to you when I'm not drunk." No response. Three days after the drunk texts, I sent a three line email apologizing for the drunk texts. No response. Three days after THAT, he changes his status to in a relationship. I already knew this. They had went on their first date a week after we broke up. (Rebounnnnnd.) I sent him an email that did sound a bit, tiny bit unhinged, but there were no threats to him or myself, no begging to take me back. Just kind of like, "you're such a jerk, pour salt in my wounds why don't you, I had hoped we could be friends but you're being immature." No response. So the NEXT day, I sent another long email to him about how he is emotionally unavailable, how his promises of a future he knew he couldn't deliver on hurt me, that good people believe things they are told and don't do that to your new girlfriend because it's a recipe for hurting someone else. No response. I haven't made any attempt to call him or see him in person at all. Haven't done anything nuts like contact his new girlfriend, his friends, family or have my friends contact him. This is totally between us and I don't want to drag people into the drama. We are both pretty drama-free individuals. So, given that, 1 semi-crazy email, 1 desperate/hurt email, 2 apologetic emails, a series of drunk text messages and one misc. "I'm done" email over the course of five weeks. Supposing I go from this point forward without ever contacting him, what are the chances I am going to make it into his "Crazy Ex" hall of fame? (I really don't want to, but don't want to delude myself, either. Really just curious.) Edited July 30, 2012 by tinytrips
hopelessromantic29 Posted July 30, 2012 Posted July 30, 2012 STOP... You are getting to a 7-8...Do you really want him and his new gf talking s*** about you and how "desperate" you are? Come on, I'm a woman too, and we need to stand up and stay, F*** you, you're the one who's losing, and move on. It can be that simple. Keep saying it to yourself everyday, and you will start to believe it. I know I do...
Author tinytrips Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 STOP... You are getting to a 7-8...Do you really want him and his new gf talking s*** about you and how "desperate" you are? Come on, I'm a woman too, and we need to stand up and stay, F*** you, you're the one who's losing, and move on. It can be that simple. Keep saying it to yourself everyday, and you will start to believe it. I know I do... No way! I do NOT want people talking **** about me. That's why I've basically told myself "You do not want to be the crazy ex girlfriend!". I know he's only been on two or three dates with this girl, so I kind of doubt he's even told her that he just got out of a relationship, let alone that his ex is kind of losing it. But I don't want to get to a point where she knows about me and my behavior. So I am stopping it, trust me. (And, seriously? 2-3 dates and it's time to change a relationship status? They are 25 and 26, not 15 and 16. Please. Sorry, just getting that off my chest. )
biogirl05 Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I would say a six. The worst thing ever is when people ignore you and pretend like **** didn't hit the fan. When an ex did that to me, and his relationship status changed within a week, then he called me and told me he had done it to make me cry, then after I started chewing him out for trying to manipulate me he denied doing it on purpose. Then I really got angry. When I got off the phone I picked up a plate and smashed it, threw some stuff too, put a hole in the wall... I had quite a few tantrums in parking lots for a while, beat my steering wheel to bits. But then I felt better. I never called him again, and he's never called me. You'll see, it's actually better when they don't call you because they don't have a chance to try to mess with you and hurt you again. Start now with NC. It doesn't matter what you did the past few weeks, he probably deserved it, but he doesn't have to be a part of your life anymore so who cares what he and the rebound are talking about?
steveblack Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 No way! I do NOT want people talking **** about me. That's why I've basically told myself "You do not want to be the crazy ex girlfriend!". I know he's only been on two or three dates with this girl, so I kind of doubt he's even told her that he just got out of a relationship, let alone that his ex is kind of losing it. But I don't want to get to a point where she knows about me and my behavior. So I am stopping it, trust me. (And, seriously? 2-3 dates and it's time to change a relationship status? They are 25 and 26, not 15 and 16. Please. Sorry, just getting that off my chest. ) Might of been seeing each other when you were together? Anyway to the crazy-o-meter I'll go with a 7. Go to NC and heal and get your act together. Got to stop acting irrational and start acting like strong individual. Get going, life is passing you by.
dreamingoftigers Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 I'll say six, but I've seen some really crazy ****.
Author tinytrips Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Thanks guys. I was hoping for a 4-5, but the 6 and 7 is OK. It will drop down since I did commit to NC. Might of been seeing each other when you were together? Uh, kind of. He had been chatting with her on a dating site before we got together, and I know for a fact that he wasn't chatting with her or anyone else for the duration of our relationship, but I think he picked it up with a couple of girls he had let communication drop pretty quickly after the breakup. She was the first one to take the bait. But I also heard through the grapevine he was trying to hookup with some girl in another state (and possibly did; he definitely went to visit her) the week before they made it "facebook official". I think he's just trying to avoid dealing with being alone. He's pretty lonely; part of the reason the relationship was bad is that he's depressive and confused and sent all kinds of mixed signals and made me feel and act crazy. I never took bullcrap from guys before him. And I promised myself I wouldn't anymore!!!
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