tryingtofindmyway24 Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 I need advice on how to have NC when we still live in the same house. My bf and I broke up about a week ago. I still love him and care for him deeply, but its time for me to move on. He is totally over me well atleast that's how he acts. we have been together for 1.5yrs and lived together the whole time we been in a relationship. This was the first time i have ever lived with a bf before and I think thats what tore us apart. Being together everyday except for work or school. We argued about everything and every little thing. Now we're like roommates, but he completely ignores me and as soon as we broke up he recreatd his facebook page and started talking to alot of girls the same day we broke up. I don't understand how he could just disrespect me by trying to hook up with other people when it was the same day we broke up. We still could have gotten back together considering the fact that we live together. He doesn't see anything wrong with talking to other people because were broken up. I do because we still live together and I don't believe in disrespect him by trying to go out with other guys knowing that he is at home even if we're not together. I cannot just turn off my feelings and act as though we were never together like he does after us living and being together for 1.5yrs. He wants me to kiss his butt and i don't understand why because he is the one that should kiss my butt since I pay all the bill and rent he does nothing, but lives here leeching off of me. I plan on moving out without telling him so that he would be stuck paying the rent on his own (which I know he cannot afford). If i did this it would be mean, but he keeps telling me that he doesn't care if i move out or if he never sees me ever again....what should i do?? Thanks
steveblack Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 First off, think about yourself and not his feelings. You are very hurt, and its time to think about YOU. What I would do is set a plan: 1) set a date, tell him the date, and move out (don't know the lease details) 2)MOVE OUT 3)He doesn't care for you at all (by the way it sounds) and you shouldn't either You been thinking about 2 people for such a long time, now its time to think about what you want in a partner and what you need.
Author tryingtofindmyway24 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Thanks for the reply, I will call the landlord tomorrow and recheck my lease because I think we can move out whenever, but I'm not sure about the security deposit. I think i just keep waiting on him to change so that we can go back to normal. I also think i feel this way because i have gotten comfortable living with him. I have also never lived alone I have always had a roommate, so i am more so afraid of living on my own. I am 24yrs and can totally provide for myself and i am very independent on that part when it comes to finances. He asked me to stay here until he can save up enough money to move out, but my thing is how can I live with someone who won't even speak to me and acts as tough I don't exist. It feels like i live alone in the house so why not be alone officially in my own house?
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