Guys, does this list turn you off

[bobsmith76]

check out this long list of what this woman wants. Let me know if this turns you off because it does me. I only read about 6 of the conditions.

 

 

1. High integrity and morals meaning doesn’t steal, lie, cheat, drink & drive or condone others doing any of these things

2. More conscious of people’s inner workings than their outer appearance

3. Happy without the newest gadgets, i.e. doesn’t need to keep up with the Jones’s or spend money on frivolous things

4. Spends time with family, devotes time to our relationship

5. Approachable and open for communication (even about the relationship), initiates questions and shows interest in me and others

6. Plans ahead of time regularly and using a calendar when necessary

7. Lifelong learner educationally and personally

8. Is not a slave to alcohol when social or needs it to relax

9. Spends money wisely more to make memories than to have “things”

10. Knows when to be serious, but can still make me laugh with his good sense of humor

11. Non-judgmental of my down times and/or others’

12. Consistent with feelings (and can talk about them) and contact

13. Promises of the future because he knows he has some control over his own and wants to spend his future with me

14. Believes in one time life long exclusive marriage

15. Consistently health conscious in both exercise and eating habits

16. Takes care of himself with up to date doctor appointments and when something’s wrong

17. Mellow temperament without surprisingly angry outbursts or jealousy

18. Makes himself available as much as possible with some spontaneous flexibility during my hard times

19. Takes responsible and reliable care of pets and/or family members and friends

20. Affectionate in a nonsexual way too (holding hands, massages, hugs, holds me, cuddles), but also patient for when that time comes

21. Listens well and doesn’t interrupt me when I’m trying to talk or change the subject when I’m trying to be validated

22. Shares in important things like church, gym, learning about my depression, weddings, etc. Willing to take dancing lessons, my gym class, etc.

23. Follows through with kind words and keeps promises consistently

24. Does not curse incessantly in front of me or children

25. Fondly holds memories of our times together and discussions we’ve had

26. Empathetic, kind, and compassionate to those who are sensitive and/or need it

27. More selfless than selfish, but knows where to draw the line in helping others (helps me)

28. Hard worker whose job doesn’t define him, but he likes enough to survive and be happy

29. Well kempt grooming, hair and full body

30. Uses endearing pet names and inside jokes that make us feel closer

31. Will be a part of raising children instead of pawning off on daycare/babysitters

32. Uses kind words with others and me, especially children-doesn’t look down on them or me

33. Good size height and muscles for me so I feel petite with him like he can protect me

34. Complimentative, I want him to think I’m beautiful and tell me so often, holding onto that belief even when I don’t

35. Flirts with me alone and respects me and what’s personal to me (even with the guys)

36. Thoughtful in the way of giving me small tokens of affection and taking actions on my behalf, allowing me to make choices of my own, bringing me flowers

37. Active person with some social connections-I’m not all he has

38. I love blue eyes, but I’ll settle for intriguing, kind eyes of any color

39. Responsible at work, in the relationship and with the future family

40. Must be giving sexually and not hold out from stubbornness or keep score

41. Doesn’t go to bed angry, we talk things out first

42. Nice enough family I can relate with and welcome into my life as my own at some point

43. Keeps a clean, neat, and organized house

44. Makes enough of a living to do more than just survive and not stressed financially

45. Awesomely close friends we can share. Must be willing to know my friends and accept them too

46. Educated to an extent of what I consider to be interesting and pleasurable conversation

47. Must be willing to look inside and be open to constructive criticism or compromising/complementing

48. Not a lot of debt

49. Kids must like this guy and he must smile at them 100% of the time, has to be comfortable around them

50. Past proves strength even if shady

51. Open to explore spirituality with me or beside me, go to church, (appreciate nature) etc.

52. Supportive during my thoughts of suicidal ideation and not entirely freaked out, allows me to talk freely about my depression, but will suggest hospitalization if necessary

53. Easy going and flexible in most ways and not stubborn on trivial matters

54. Allows me to look how I want to and decorate how I want to so that I’m comfortable in my surroundings

55. Likes my naivety and lack of street smarts, considers it a positive trait that I’m idealistic and not pessimistic

56. Can deal with medical problems as they arise like depression, etc...

57. Does not try to adjust my sleep/eat schedule, but takes it in stride since it’s how I take the best care of myself

58. Is okay with my estrangement from certain family members and believes I know best when it comes to them

59. Doesn’t feel personally attacked by my high expectations and can reason with me in a logical way in that case as opposed to an all-out fight

60. Can take me seriously when I need it, but lighten the mood when necessary and point out my skewed view without placing blame during the down times

61. Has passion for something (hobbies or career) and stands up for what he believes (politics?)

62. A variety of tastes in music, movies, and hobbies

63. Can keep himself entertained without television or drinks, not bored easily

64. Handy with tools, cars, house, gardening, etc.

65. Does not live with family members (parents) or like they're still in a fraternity.

Edited July 29, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[MrCastle]

I could definitely see that repelling some guys, including some who fit her extensive list.

 

We all have likes and dislikes right? But to verbalize each and every one of them makes you come across as picky.

 

I still say she'll message back a highly attractive guy who fits none of her criteria before she messages a lesser attractive guy who fits most of it.

[todreaminblue]

I could definitely see that repelling some guys, including some who fit her extensive list.

 

We all have likes and dislikes right? But to verbalize each and every one of them makes you come across as picky.

 

I still say she'll message back a highly attractive guy who fits none of her criteria before she messages a lesser attractive guy who fits most of it.

 

 

that girl would never find happiness.....she would not message any guy.....she has probably already tried.....her fate is set for her to be alone.......sad but a fact......she actually sounds like me but i would never ask for those things i would never expect them there i sno one like me so how could i....i remember i sadi to usm chokie in thread abotu books and covers...i said i would hate to be different for ever he replied you are like everybody else you are no different ...and i replied cool wouldnt want to eb diferent fore4ver....you guys are out to make me upset...why ???????????????????????????????????????????????????

[rocketman122]

That list means nothing. that specific person who is picky will try to find these things, but at the end will settle or just be single. and besides, we as men can also request/demand a crap load of things, but how much of the list do we get in a partner? if we get a third we should say thank you.

 

I am most of those things anyways. woman who are looking for these things are in a dream world. more and more men are the opposite from the list and its the womans fault.

 

bottom line, I wonder what the person who has the above personality traits actually looks like..

[todreaminblue]

That list means nothing. that specific person who is picky will try to find these things, but at the end will settle or just be single. and besides, we as men can also request/demand a crap load of things, but how much of the list do we get in a partner? if we get a third we should say thank you.

 

I am most of those things anyways. woman who are looking for these things are in a dream world. more and more men are the opposite from the list and its the womans fault.

 

bottom line, I wonder what the person who has the above personality traits actually looks like..

 

 

it the list is me......

yes maybe i am a turn offf.....i can see that i alredy know.....i dont date though so im not asking anybody to lik emee....ill catch you guys later im sorry

[thatone]

tempted to make a profile that contains nothing but a list that says...

 

1. not suffering from mental illness

 

and message her with "oops, sorry, wrong person"

[kaylan]

Lists automatically spell entitlement. Id only message such a girl just to troll her.

 

Anyone who cant write a normal profile throws up red flags.

 

Jeezus Christ...considering how unique everyone is, this silly girl needs to realize she wont find a freaking clone of herself.

[OsiStruck]

Whoa, I'm not even a guy and I'm already thinking wtf by the first few I read.... probably why she's still out there ......

[kaylan]

Yeah, besides her being old as **** we're going to have a lot of other problems. Absolute turnoff.

31 is old as ****?

[g450]

Just looking at the sheer number turned me off. Didnt need to actually read them.

 

What ever happended to compromise? You need that in any relationship.

 

She might do well to get herself a few cats.

[SarahRose]

When i read a big laundry list like this and read between the lines, it probably means she has really poor judgement.

 

She would be easily swayed by a fancy car, good looks and good sex.

 

These are the types of things you find out naturally as you date people. She must have really poor judgement in men iow her picker is broken.

 

Is she a single mother with a bunch of kids by different fathers?

[madjac74]

Yeah Im not interested in her either but as least she took the time to be thorough and isn't wasting anyone's time. It's a lot better than everyone saying "I enjoy the outdoors but also enjoy staying in and watching movies" It certainly doesn't warrant you posting her profile for everyone to mock because you are angry you don't meet her criteria. Let's see your profile so we can tell you what's wrong with it.

[samsungxoxo]

Not a guy but even I'm spooked out by that list. The more you demand, the less likely that person will appear.

 

For one second I thought it was me with the most list of expectations towards a guy (one time I had around 8 list of deal-breakers) but after reading that woman's list wow!!!!

[haribogumsnickers]

That list is tough...up to 65? I didn't even read the first 5. She's probably a milf or aged 65. Someone who has a list that extensively long and specific is a ninja.

[kaylan]

When i read a big laundry list like this and read between the lines, it probably means she has really poor judgement.

 

She would be easily swayed by a fancy car, good looks and good sex.

 

These are the types of things you find out naturally as you date people. She must have really poor judgement in men iow her picker is broken.

 

Is she a single mother with a bunch of kids by different fathers?

Single with no kids, but wants them.

 

Good luck with that though, because shed be scaring off the decent guys who want kids.

[NoMagicBullet]

Bleah! You think she could have at least left out the references to her depression.

 

And I don't think there's anyone who smiles at children 100% of the time, not even their mothers. I'd think she's looking for a male version of Mary Poppins, but even Mary Poppins wasn't as accomodating as she wants her man to be.

[yongyong]

I don't mind cumming on between her tits lol

(she intentionally put this kind of pics so she deserves to hear such comments from guys)

 

Don't trust what women say. she won't meet the guy and check each item to see if he meets. once she meets her type who can make her pussy wet, she will let him cum on her tits like I want to. (I bet 100% of guys think about this when they see her pictures)

[madjac74]

I don't mind cumming on between her tits lol

(she intentionally put this kind of pics so she deserves to hear such comments from guys)

 

Don't trust what women say. she won't meet the guy and check each item to see if he meets. once she meets her type who can make her pussy wet, she will let him cum on her tits like I want to. (I bet 100% of guys think about this when they see her pictures)

 

I actually didn't have that thought which kills your 100% right there. She is showing a bit of cleavage which I see a hundred times a day. I didn't think it was something to get a boner over. Anyhoo you broke like 30 of her commandments so you will likely just be spooging on yourself tonight

[xpaperxcutx]

She's pretty but this list just made her a troll. Its one thing to be aware of what one's looking for but making alist as extensive as hers is incredibly cuckoo. No one can meet her demands and if they do bother she better be supermodel pretty for them not to balk.

[madjac74]

I dont know. She is pretty and most every guy is like yongyong and wanting to blow his manhood all over her boobs. So why not put a list of 65 million stipulations? It might just weed out the 99% of trash that is on a free dating site. That 1 % might actually notice that she enjoys writing and that most of her requirements are things anyone should expect in a human being

[xpaperxcutx]

I dont know. She is pretty and most every guy is like yongyong and wanting to blow his manhood all over her boobs. So why not put a list of 65 million stipulations? It might just weed out the 99% of trash that is on a free dating site. That 1 % might actually notice that she enjoys writing and that most of her requirements are things anyone should expect in a human being

 

Then she shouldn't bother with online dating. 1% in OLD is practically a death wish. If she's so desirable phhysically she can definitely bag a guy in real life.

[madjac74]

Then she shouldn't bother with online dating. 1% in OLD is practically a death wish. If she's so desirable phhysically she can definitely bag a guy in real life.

 

I can't speak for her but surely someone who is willing to make an extensive wish list isn't looking to just "bag" a guy. I imagine her real life requirements are the same as her online requirements

[Silly_Girl]

That list is mental. So is she.

[Radu]

Not a guy but even I'm spooked out by that list. The more you demand, the less likely that person will appear.

 

For one second I thought it was me with the most list of expectations towards a guy (one time I had around 8 list of deal-breakers) but after reading that woman's list wow!!!!

 

What are your deal-breakers ?

 

WoW ... 65 items on the list, even though some of them are common sense she is looking for basically a caretaker [she's a taker, not a giver] instead of a relationship with compromises

[Eternal Sunshine]

I dunno, she seems like a sweet girl...and I don't think she is asking for that much. *runs and hides*