weallfalldown Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Just for the mere fact he moched the elderly he doesnt deserve a text back. are you gay?
MrCastle Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 That was really rude of him to take off his shoes and expect a massage. Not only was it unsanitary but its disgusting as well ( and I am a nail tech who seen her fair share of feet). The fact you're willing to go on a date with a guy walking to Central Park tells me you got to up your standards a little. Stick with a movie or dinner but never do walks in the parks ( unless the both of u have dogs). Guys who don't make a little effort to impress are lazy and time wasters. A romantic walk in the park is lazy, but sitting down for a movie is not? 1
weallfalldown Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 A romantic walk in the park is lazy, but sitting down for a movie is not? being from the uk, i've never set foot in that park, but it def aint lazy haha
weallfalldown Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 No are you retarded ? I happen to like the elderly. And anyone who mochs someone who uses cane is a no testicle having bully, maybe you and this guy should go on a date. Noooo...you got me all wrong, i was genuinley asking if your gay?...
weallfalldown Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 No I am not. But I am genuinely asking you, are you retarded ? well you've made me laugh, which is a good thing as i've just split up with someone....come on, where's your sense of humor?..must be my british humor?
Shaun-Dro Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Ah that's a loaded question that might require a long answer lol The short of it is that there's all sorts of Capeverdeans...even within the same family you'll find people of all different shades (for instance, within my family you'll find people with dark complexions just as easily as you'll find people with very light skin, green/blue eyes, and light-colored hair), though most people have soft curly hair. I, for instance, am "light-brown" (depends on the time of year lol) because my father is very light skinned (people ask him if he's Hispanic all the time) and my mom is darker. Since not many people I meet know about Cape Verde, they always automatically assume I'm either Hispanic or Brazilian and when I tell them where I'm from they always say "Oh, but you don't look African" and, to this day, I still don't understand what they mean by that... Cape Verde? The culture in itself should be a good conversation starter for any one. It'll certainly work for me. But I'm curious, since your success in online dating hasn't been worthwhile, do you get approached in real life on the streets of NY? I know guys are always checking cute girls out. And if so, how do you take to it?
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 A romantic walk in the park is lazy, but sitting down for a movie is not? Its a lazy form of dating similar to having coffee for a meet and greet. I once went out with a guy on the Staten island ferry, it was the most boring 6 hrs of my life trekking around in heels. When I go on a date I tend to make myself presentable, and usually I would settle for nothing less than him presenting himself in a fashionable manner as well. So far ihaventmet any guy offering to take me to MacDonald's. My advice to the OP is to know what she wants and don't settle for half assed attempts. What I learned from dating is that men will always test you to see what they can get away with.
MrCastle Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Its a lazy form of dating similar to having coffee for a meet and greet. I once went out with a guy on the Staten island ferry, it was the most boring 6 hrs of my life trekking around in heels. When I go on a date I tend to make myself presentable, and usually I would settle for nothing less than him presenting himself in a fashionable manner as well. So far ihaventmet any guy offering to take me to MacDonald's. My advice to the OP is to know what she wants and don't settle for half assed attempts. What I learned from dating is that men will always test you to see what they can get away with. I would argue that a movie date is pretty unoriginal and lazy? You can't even talk during. Bad way to get to know someone. I try to do activity dates especially for a first date. Something that includes walking and talking. I've never had any complaints. Depends on who you're with. If your date is not interesting, talking for 3 hours is going to be brutal. It only works for charmers. 1
weallfalldown Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Its a lazy form of dating similar to having coffee for a meet and greet. I once went out with a guy on the Staten island ferry, it was the most boring 6 hrs of my life trekking around in heels. When I go on a date I tend to make myself presentable, and usually I would settle for nothing less than him presenting himself in a fashionable manner as well. So far ihaventmet any guy offering to take me to MacDonald's. My advice to the OP is to know what she wants and don't settle for half assed attempts. What I learned from dating is that men will always test you to see what they can get away with. well no one seems to be satisfied....what if i gave you a piggy back around the park?....and massaged your feet instead? hehe
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 I would argue that a movie date is pretty unoriginal and lazy? You can't even talk during. Bad way to get to know someone. I try to do activity dates especially for a first date. Something that includes walking and talking. I've never had any complaints. Depends on who you're with. If your date is not interesting, talking for 3 hours is going to be brutal. It only works for charmers. Its a suggestion not a necessity. I never go on movie dates myself half the time I suggest a restaurant. Call me old fashion but I still like to see that a guy can behave himself while having a meal with company. I can always tell when a guy is serious or not seeing as I always ask relevant questions pertaining to his life. Then we can walk for desserr. But honestly a date where you just walk for nothing except to waste your time with a vulgar person such as the OP has met is unfortunate
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 well no one seems to be satisfied....what if i gave you a piggy back around the park?....and massaged your feet instead? hehe I think id have more fun inside a Tardis.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Its a suggestion not a necessity. I never go on movie dates myself half the time I suggest a restaurant. Call me old fashion but I still like to see that a guy can behave himself while having a meal with company. I can always tell when a guy is serious or not seeing as I always ask relevant questions pertaining to his life. Then we can walk for desserr. But honestly a date where you just walk for nothing except to waste your time with a vulgar person such as the OP has met is unfortunate Oh yea? And how's your dating life these days in wonderful NYC?
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Oh yea? And how's your dating life these days in wonderful NYC? Exciting. I have guys asking me out but I'm not settling. Its called being selective.
weallfalldown Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Exciting. I have guys asking me out but I'm not settling. Its called being selective. surely the old addage it's who'm your with not what your doing or where you are?..........or is everyone that pretentious?
SmileFace Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 You know that there are actually activities to do in central park right? How is going to the movies considered a date? Not every date calls for heels - it isn't about standards it is about different likes.
Shaun-Dro Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 (edited) Exciting. I have guys asking me out but I'm not settling. Its called being selective. So in other words you're dangling yourself like a carrot in front of them. So typical of a NY girl. Edited July 28, 2012 by Shaun-Dro mistake
xpaperxcutx Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 So in other words you're dangling yourself like a carrot in front of them. So typical of a NY girl. So then you're comparing men to packed mules who moves only to dangled carrots? Don't attack me if my dating method is different from yours. I date a certain type of people as do you.
kaylan Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 (edited) Haha, well, online dating for me has been unsuccessful too if that makes you feel better. I think the best way to meet people is in real life. Or web forums. Lolol try harder bro. =P Btw, using web forums to meet people is worse than OLD in my opinion. At least with OLD you can get more pics and info to browse through. Web forums can be more secretive and more anonymous than OLD. OLD is just like any other dating in my view. Theres a variety of people and you only expand your dating pool.So in other words you're dangling yourself like a carrot in front of them. So typical of a NY girl. If you got it, flaunt it. Dont hate the player, hate the game. (Dont blame women because most guys are easy and non-selective) Plenty of dudes can dangle themselves as well. Make yourself appealing and dangle yourself in front of the right audience. Mr Castle stepping up to help out our new friend Rosie. Nice But ten bucks says if they did ever meet and didnt click for whatever reason, shed get slammed for it and called a typical NY woman Edited July 28, 2012 by kaylan 3
Buttercup84 Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 Woha . I would just say thank you it was nice meeting you too and wish him all the best . I was going to say to give him another chance as first dates can be awkward . Then I read your post and ...yeah don't call him .
spiderowl Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 Crikey, the guy sounds genuinely dangerous! He didn't seem to be in his right mind if he had absorbed all those feelings from the medium hall (no offence intended to genuine spiritualists), he talked about killing people and bombs, He was totally inconsiderate and impolite about the trip into MacDonalds. He talked about the people passing by with no empathy for them whatsoever. He has all the ingredients needed for a dangerous psychopath. Please tell me he doesn't have your address! I'd just text him and say it was interesting to meet him but that you aren't right for each other, then not enter into any further correspondence. That way, he's not left dangling and you have closed the situation. I don't think his mental state is very good anyway.
Author Rosie88 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Oh wow I've been gone all day, but I'm happy to see that the thread remained active in my absence I've read all your posts and I'm going to try and address the main points in one post instead of quoting each one individually (with a few exceptions) lol 1) For those wondering why I stayed the entire time, I did so because I honestly don't have it in me to be rude to people and I didn't think it would be right to just up and leave... 2) I haven't texted him back and fortunately he hasn't texted me either, which is a relief 3) I never said anywhere on here that no one else will like him. I do hope he realizes that he might have a problem and that he seeks the appropriate help so that he can hopefully stop scaring away potential mates 4) In regards to the whole "where to go on a first date" discussion that came up, I was the one who suggested Central Park since it was the only place in the area I thought would be suitable seeing as our ice cream date fell through, and also because I think that going on a leisurely stroll somewhere nice, especially if you get to be surrounded by nature, is a great way to get to know someone. As someone said on here, it's not about where you go, but who you're with. I'm actually not a fan of dinner and/or movie for a first (or second, or third) date for many reasons, the main one being that I don't want the guy to think that I want him to pay for me and have him feel obligated to do so just because that's what most people would expect. Plus, how much can you really learn about each other at the movies or over dinner where you'll be busy looking over the menu, placing your orders and then eating? I think it's too much too soon for a first date and, like someone else said "unoriginal and lazy." That's my take on that. Thank you all for your feedback thus far
Author Rosie88 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Cape Verde? The culture in itself should be a good conversation starter for any one. It'll certainly work for me. But I'm curious, since your success in online dating hasn't been worthwhile, do you get approached in real life on the streets of NY? I know guys are always checking cute girls out. And if so, how do you take to it? He did ask me about Cape Verde, but he kept making some off-putting comments and also, like I said in a previous post, whenever he asked me something, I had to answer 3-4 different times because he was so easily distracted by our surroundings. Well, I've been on the dating site for about 2 weeks now and that was the first date I went on, so I'm not yet declaring my experience with OLD as unsuccessful. Although, now I will be sure to add additional "filters" - for the lack of a better term - prior to meeting in person. Maybe video chat on Skype to determine whether we'd like to meet in person, so that neither of us is wasting too much of the other person's time? I don't know how to answer your last question without coming off as a goody-two-shoes (I swear I'm not lol) but I have had guys approach me in the streets. It just so happens that they're not the kind of guys I would normally want to date and I guess I just don't like the way they go about it...it's similar to how guys approach girls at bars and clubs and you can usually tell right away that they're really only interested in one thing and one thing only, and that's definitely not what I'm looking for. What works against me the most is that, as I've mentioned before, I don't know how to be rude to people, so they take my niceness to mean that I'm interested...
OsiStruck Posted July 29, 2012 Posted July 29, 2012 If you want to let him down easily just let him know that after consideration you decided that your not ready to date.. lol.. or you can just say you didn't feel a chemistry and therefore see no reason to continue a friendship.
Author Rosie88 Posted July 29, 2012 Author Posted July 29, 2012 Its a lazy form of dating similar to having coffee for a meet and greet. I once went out with a guy on the Staten island ferry, it was the most boring 6 hrs of my life trekking around in heels. When I go on a date I tend to make myself presentable, and usually I would settle for nothing less than him presenting himself in a fashionable manner as well. So far ihaventmet any guy offering to take me to MacDonald's. My advice to the OP is to know what she wants and don't settle for half assed attempts. What I learned from dating is that men will always test you to see what they can get away with. Just to clarify, he didn't offer to take me to McDonald's. Our original plan was to go get ice cream, but on our way there he stopped at a McDonald's and got himself a milkshake. I myself don't see anything wrong with meeting up for coffee as a first date and you can still make yourself look presentable for such a date. I just don't think going out to a fancy dinner is a good idea for a first date...it's a little outdated and unoriginal and I can't help but feel that it adds (more) unnecessary pressure.
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