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(Funny how this thread went completely off topic lol)

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I was born in Cape Verde (a tiny archipelago in the Atlantic - good luck finding it on a map lol), moved to the US when I was 15, went to high school in RI, college in upstate NY (Syracuse, to be more precise) and then lived in Orlando where I did my internships for a combined 2 years (I went there twice). I moved to NYC a little over a month ago.

 

Hmmm, you sound exotic! I'm puerto rican but born and raised in NY and can't speak spanish.

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I just really want to meet some decent, nice guys who are capable of having a normal conversation and won't make me want to run in the opposite direction lol

 

Ah...NY dating :love:. Good. We need more crazies like your date and douches on OLD to make guys like me look good :)

 

But I don't know if your post was necessary. I think the more you do online dating, it's not uncommon to run across weird people like that. You just have to weed/screen out certain people until you come across the right one.

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(Funny how this thread went completely off topic lol)

 

It's only off topic if you stop posting.

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(Funny how this thread went completely off topic lol)

 

Yeah. I have that effect on threads. ;)

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Hmmm, you sound exotic! I'm puerto rican but born and raised in NY and can't speak spanish.

 

Hey, I'm not even Hispanic and Spanish is not one of the languages spoken back home and yet I'm fluent in it...shame, shame (just kidding)

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Hey, I'm not even Hispanic and Spanish is not one of the languages spoken back home and yet I'm fluent in it...shame, shame (just kidding)

 

Yeah yeah, shame on me. I speak english in America.

 

Now what does a Cape Verdean look like exactly?

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Ah...NY dating :love:. Good. We need more crazies like your date and douches on OLD to make guys like me look good :)

 

But I don't know if your post was necessary. I think the more you do online dating, it's not uncommon to run across weird people like that. You just have to weed/screen out certain people until you come across the right one.

 

I guess you're right...I just wasn't sure what the etiquette was for staying in touch (or not, in this case) with the person after the first date and I didn't want to be rude.

 

And yes, after this guy I'm feeling compelled to apologize to people I used to think were weird lol

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I guess you're right...I just wasn't sure what the etiquette was for staying in touch (or not, in this case) with the person after the first date and I didn't want to be rude.

 

And yes, after this guy I'm feeling compelled to apologize to people I used to think were weird lol

 

The proper etiquette is to be upfront if he is persistent on making plans. Otherwise you can take his text with a grain of salt and don't respond. No need to be overly dramatic.

 

I've been on first dates where we hug and both parties saying it was nice meeting you and not seeing each other again after that.

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Yeah yeah, shame on me. I speak english in America.

 

Now what does a Cape Verdean look like exactly?

 

Ah that's a loaded question that might require a long answer lol The short of it is that there's all sorts of Capeverdeans...even within the same family you'll find people of all different shades (for instance, within my family you'll find people with dark complexions just as easily as you'll find people with very light skin, green/blue eyes, and light-colored hair), though most people have soft curly hair. I, for instance, am "light-brown" (depends on the time of year lol) because my father is very light skinned (people ask him if he's Hispanic all the time) and my mom is darker. Since not many people I meet know about Cape Verde, they always automatically assume I'm either Hispanic or Brazilian and when I tell them where I'm from they always say "Oh, but you don't look African" and, to this day, I still don't understand what they mean by that...

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The proper etiquette is to be upfront if he is persistent on making plans. Otherwise you can take his text with a grain of salt and don't respond. No need to be overly dramatic.

 

I've been on first dates where we hug and both parties saying it was nice meeting you and not seeing each other again after that.

 

Cool, thanks for the info :)

And yes, that's exactly what happened: we hugged and said "it was nice meeting you."

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Ah that's a loaded question that might require a long answer lol The short of it is that there's all sorts of Capeverdeans...even within the same family you'll find people of all different shades (for instance, within my family you'll find people with dark complexions just as easily as you'll find people with very light skin, green/blue eyes, and light-colored hair), though most people have soft curly hair. I, for instance, am "light-brown" (depends on the time of year lol) because my father is very light skinned (people ask him if he's Hispanic all the time) and my mom is darker. Since not many people I meet know about Cape Verde, they always automatically assume I'm either Hispanic or Brazilian and when I tell them where I'm from they always say "Oh, but you don't look African" and, to this day, I still don't understand what they mean by that...

 

Haha, that is strange. People almost never guess my ethnicity. I guess I look pretty ambiguous. I'm light skinned and I don't think you could look at me and say for certain I'm puerto rican. It's all apart of my mysterious nature :cool:

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Haha, that is strange. People almost never guess my ethnicity. I guess I look pretty ambiguous. I'm light skinned and I don't think you could look at me and say for certain I'm puerto rican. It's all apart of my mysterious nature :cool:

 

Haha yea usually people have a hard time pinpointing my ethnicity so they just go with Hispanic and when they find out that I speak Portuguese they switch to thinking that I'm Brazilian lol

 

Mysterious, huh? Interesting...:cool:

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Haha yea usually people have a hard time pinpointing my ethnicity so they just go with Hispanic and when they find out that I speak Portuguese they switch to thinking that I'm Brazilian lol

 

Mysterious, huh? Interesting...:cool:

 

Oh yes, very. I think the timeless dance commonly referred to as "dating" needs to be more theatrical. I think being mysterious is sexy and increases the tension and passion. Always keep them guessing. That might just be the latin scorpio in me talking, but either way..

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Oh yes, very. I think the timeless dance commonly referred to as "dating" needs to be more theatrical. I think being mysterious is sexy and increases the tension and passion. Always keep them guessing. That might just be the latin scorpio in me talking, but either way..

 

I couldn't agree more!

 

But anyway, it's been great chatting with you but I must call it a night now because I have to be up in just a little over 1 hour :sick: Have a good night/morning and hopefully we'll chat again soon :) Tootles!

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I couldn't agree more!

 

But anyway, it's been great chatting with you but I must call it a night now because I have to be up in just a little over 1 hour :sick: Have a good night/morning and hopefully we'll chat again soon :) Tootles!

 

Awesome, same to you! See you around Rosie :D

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That does indeed sound horrible. Why did you stay for so long? Hours with this guy must have been a torture...

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You are better than me. I would have ran at the Time Square comment -

I am from NYC and any bomb jokes while in Manhattan will have me running to the Brooklyn bridge quick. Don't text him. If he text/calls asks for a next date then just let him you don't see it going anywhere and wish him good luck.

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And I thought my dates were bad :eek:

 

But otherwise, love is the air, or in this thread :love:

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And I thought my dates were bad :eek:

 

But otherwise, love is the air, or in this thread :love:

 

:laugh: Mr Castle stepping up to help out our new friend Rosie. Nice :love:

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:laugh: Mr Castle stepping up to help out our new friend Rosie. Nice :love:

 

I can be a charmer when duty calls for it. :o

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sounds like the guy was just being himself.......just because you don't like the guy, doesn't mean someone else won't....sorry, but true.

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sounds like the guy was just being himself.......just because you don't like the guy, doesn't mean someone else won't....sorry, but true.

 

 

Where did she say that no one else would like him?

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ok...just a bit of an arrogant opinion......so what, you didn't get on with him, move on to the next lol.

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That was really rude of him to take off his shoes and expect a massage. Not only was it unsanitary but its disgusting as well ( and I am a nail tech who seen her fair share of feet). The fact you're willing to go on a date with a guy walking to Central Park tells me you got to up your standards a little. Stick with a movie or dinner but never do walks in the parks ( unless the both of u have dogs). Guys who don't make a little effort to impress are lazy and time wasters.

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