lovehurts5 Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 So this is my story, a little long, i'm sorry... I was in a 4 year relationship and the first 2 years were like a fairytale. We connected right off the bat and were completely in love. I trusted him completely and we had a connection unlike anything I had ever experienced. The last 2 years of our relationship things started to get rocky and we seemed to be growing apart but for no particular reason really. We fought all the time over the silliest things. I would ask him how his day was going and he would come back at me like "what's with the interrogation!?" So we both decided it would be best to break up and had a really mature break-up at the end of April. The whole first week of being broken up he would text/call me telling me he felt like a piece of him was missing and maybe we didn't make the right choice and I completely agreed with him but we decided to stay broken up so he could have his space. Then the second week of being broken up I ran into him and he pretended like he had no idea who I was when I saw him out. That obviously broke my heart because I thought we respected each other more than that and it was a clean break. A few days later he texted me apologizing for the way he acted and that he was so upset when he saw me he didn't know how to react and he didn't mean to hurt me. He continued to tell me how he was messed up in the head and a piece of him was missing. The following week I saw him out AGAIN and we spoke when we were out and things were fine... then things got ugly..... he kissed a girl right in front of me and I recognized her as someone he worked with (who lives over an hour away). I made quite a scene because I had a little too much to drink and he wound up asking her to leave and then when talking to me, he told me she meant nothing and no one could compare to me but he didn't want to be with anyone at all because he needed to figure himself out. I then made the stupidest decision by going home with him that night even after he did that in front of me. We spoke for the following 3 days here and there through text and the last few things he said to me were questions like "are you sure you weren't cheating on me at the end of our relationship?" which I would NEVER in a million years do and I told him that... and then he told me how confused he was and that he needed to move away because his head wasn't right. That made me question whether or not he had been cheating on me at the end. The following week I was told that he was going up to my friends and introducing that same girl from the previous weekend as his girl. That was at the end of May/beginning of June. Being broken hearted by all of his decisions I realized he wasn't the person I thought and I tried to keep as busy as possible with friends. He called me on the last Friday in June at 12:30 in the morning and it took all that I had in me not to answer just because I was so hurt by his actions and I didn't want to cave in. He didn't leave any message and I figured because of the time he called he had only wanted something from me anyway... It is now the end of July and I haven't been contacted by him since that night. Now here's the part that has my brain scrambling and I'm second guessing myself.... we share mutual friends and my friend just told me something today that she had been keeping from me so that I wouldn't get hurt and go running back to him. She told me the night he had called me he had also texted her boyfriend pages worth of information saying how he really didn't mean for things to end the way they did and he was only trying to show me what it would be like without him. He said he had only meant to be broken up with me for 1 month, how he realizes he screwed up, and how he knows I'm a good person and that he guesses he'll just have to let me go. Now that I know this I'm really regretting not picking up the phone that night... I still love him with all my heart even 3 months after our break up and I'm not sure I'd go running back to him after he hurt me so bad. I just feel so lost now that I know he was regretting his choices... I don't know what to think or how to feel. I really do miss him but i'm still so mad at him.
Author lovehurts5 Posted July 28, 2012 Author Posted July 28, 2012 I definitely agree about the lack of maturity in our relationship. we are both 24 but the things we would fight about and things he did after the break up were childish. Ever since I heard about how hes feeling now though i can't help but want to text him. I don't know what that would change but I miss him. I haven't spoken to him since may 26th though.... I wish hed contact me again... This time id definitely answer.
steelgator Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 he probably knows you're mad and hurt and upset so he's waiting for you to come around. Put yourself in his shoes. He's tried reaching out to you but you don't return any attention so he's trying to heal himself. I'd say just reach out but let it be simple like a hey how are you. Start out by being friends so you can trust him since he hurt you and see where it takes you
Jono85 Posted July 28, 2012 Posted July 28, 2012 he probably knows you're mad and hurt and upset so he's waiting for you to come around. Put yourself in his shoes. He's tried reaching out to you but you don't return any attention so he's trying to heal himself. I'd say just reach out but let it be simple like a hey how are you. Start out by being friends so you can trust him since he hurt you and see where it takes you screw this. the way he hurt her, and she's supposed to put herself out there, all because of an unanswered phone call?? please. the guy knows he crushed her. it's not her responsibility to put herself in any more vulnerable positions. that's his job IF he wants her back. which despite the info the OP got from her friend, no one really knows if that's actually what he wants. maybe not even himself.
Author lovehurts5 Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 I'm missing him like crazy tonight its taking everything in my peer not to break NCeven tho its been 2 months....
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