SariahCarey Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 Hi, I'm new here, I found this board just looking for a place to get things out, get some advice, or just talk or whatever... Anyway, I kind of have a problem and I wanted to get a fresh take. Its a long story so i'll try to make it as short as possible... Back in November 2011 I met a guy and after our first meeting we spent every single day together. Everything moved super fast which I wasn't used to but I was really starting to fall for him so after about a month, we moved in together. Everything was going great until about January when I started suspecting he was seeing other girls. So long story short, I went through his phone, he found out, got mad and moved out... About two weeks later we decided we could be "friends" until the beginning of February he asked me if he could move back in. I let him, but we never talked about if we were together or not, we were sleeping together and we would do everything together but it was never really clear... About a month later we had another fight over him "flirting" with his ex girlfriend so he moved out, moved in with his ex and that was that... About a month after that we ran into each other, he had broken up with the ex and was living back in our town (the ex lived about 5 hours away) we hung out as "friends with benefits" for about 2 weeks until he asked me if he could move back in. I let him, again. Everything was fine up until a month or so ago and we started fighting a lot, i'll admit alcohol was a factor in the fights... I felt like he was being distant from me, and I felt I guess resentful since he didn't have a job so I paid for everything and I felt like he didn't appreciate me. So one night we had a huge fight and he went to spend the night at his brothers house, the next morning I was at work and he was supposed to meet me so we could talk about it but he never showed up, and when I got home all his stuff was gone & he had moved out without a word. Since then, we have barely spoken, he's been very cold to me and I don't feel like I deserve it. I miss him and I think about getting him back but mostly I just feel pathetic because he has recently got a new girlfriend and i'm still pining over what could have been. I know it's wrong but I can't help but think I could fix things, I know he has a girlfriend now, but no one marries the rebound chick right?? I'm just really confused and upset about everything and it helps a lot to just get it out I guess. Anyway, thanks for reading and commenting. -SariahCarey ; )
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 The guy sounds like a complete monkey and a user. By monkey I mean he swings from branch to branch (girl to girl). I'm going to go out on a limb and assume the relationship was mostly about the attraction to him more than anything else. Even if you don't realize it. It doesn't sound like this guy brought anything positive to the relationship besides being intimate.. You're so much better off, you don't see it now but you will. He won't be changing any time soon..
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