Author silicone Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 not far.....................enough! I'm in Dorset lol.
Author silicone Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 i know dorset very well...where to? Poole, let's just say I'm 5 mins away from a very beautiful and rich beach.
weallfalldown Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 ahh no it well.............. perhaps we should get together and do a little and large....recky:lmao:
Author silicone Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 ahh no it well.............. perhaps we should get together and do a little and large....recky:lmao: hehe, perhaps we should
AlexCross Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 If it makes you feel better by online dating standards I am short 5'11''
Author silicone Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 If it makes you feel better by online dating standards I am short 5'11'' this is interdasting Anyway, since I've written this, well, I'm still in this cycle, for a few days, I'll thinking about it, then I'll cry for about a night over it, then I'll go back to normal for a few weeks. Now that I'm working though, I doesn't affect me as much. My counsellors/psych and I met with a multidisciplinary team regarding potential cosmetic surgery, which my psych was trying to push me towards; outcome of which was me saying no. I am currently in a negative phase, but I still don't know how to shut things down, I suppose the aim of the negative phase is to desensitize myself, however, I'm not seeing any new content on the matter (I've gone though thousands of pages on the internet reading etc) and it is becoming frustrating. Regardless of my parents not accepting that I've stopped growing, I'll continue to soldier on.
eden_ca Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I've just started dating a short guy - and am very attracted to him. He's amazingly attractive... I'm really into him. Normally I date taller guys, bigger than me, but this guy really does it for me. Confidence is a huge deal. If you're confident, and feel good about yourself, that is like a magnet for many women. Height means far less than some people make it out to be...
somedude81 Posted October 20, 2012 Posted October 20, 2012 I've just started dating a short guy - and am very attracted to him. He's amazingly attractive... I'm really into him. Normally I date taller guys, bigger than me, but this guy really does it for me. Confidence is a huge deal. If you're confident, and feel good about yourself, that is like a magnet for many women. Height means far less than some people make it out to be... For some guys, it's really difficult to be confident when there are things about yourself that you hate. In addition, if a guy has no prior success with women, it's even harder to be confident.
Author silicone Posted October 20, 2012 Author Posted October 20, 2012 I've just started dating a short guy - and am very attracted to him. He's amazingly attractive... I'm really into him. Normally I date taller guys, bigger than me, but this guy really does it for me. Confidence is a huge deal. If you're confident, and feel good about yourself, that is like a magnet for many women. Height means far less than some people make it out to be... For some guys, it's really difficult to be confident when there are things about yourself that you hate. In addition, if a guy has no prior success with women, it's even harder to be confident. My problem may not necessarily be confidence - I mean, this only affects me really when I'm by myself - when I'm at work, well, I'm a social guy and pretty much everyone in the office knows me as the funny guy who make people laugh, as well as the new IT guy who had the brilliant idea which nearly surged a row of computers The IT crowd, as I call it, well we all have our internal jokes and the coffee jokes lol. I'm sort of writing this on my phone, and I'm out right now. Saw someone who I had some "fun" with, and he can't stop looking at me - he keeps telling me how good I look and bordering on creep but he's a nice guy. I'm in a relationship though and he respects that- though it hasn't kept other guys off me.
Author silicone Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 You're short, get over it. You don't live in my shoes - get over yourself.
bob the brave Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 (edited) I met a girl at work who I thought was wonderfully kind and compasionate. We got along great until she flat out rejected me because of my height and hooked up with a married player who was a complete jerk, mean with no education or skills. I mean this is how important height is to most girls. It actually trumps everything else. Those who are short are out matched physically and women see this. It sucks. Life is not fair. It is no reflection on your personal worth. You are not your height. Your height is simply how tall you are. Does your hair or skin color define who you are? Of course, you know this. Your complaint is why don't others? Becasue people are stupid (really, just watch the news for 5 minutes) and mother nature kicked you in the nuts. So, life if going to be hard. I like to think of it as being on an isolated artic tundra. I am alone and everything is against me. Now what do I do? Are you going to curl up in a fetal position and freeze to death? Or are you going to march onward? It is really up to you. Above all else, you know they are wrong. You can take solace in this. So,respect yourself, no matter what. As an example, for the girl at work, I completely ignore her and the player (both coworkers). I walk right past her cubicle every morning without saying a word. It hurts because we used to have so much fun and I thought we were friends. I know this hurts her too. But she has to learn to respect others even if it costs our friendship. I am just sorry shortness got in the way. It is sad and I feel we both lost something special. Edited October 21, 2012 by bob the brave 1
Author silicone Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 I was born to two short parents, born prematurely, and my body decided not to keep food in when I was a baby. Another thing, premature adrenarche and precocious puberty. As of right now, I think I'm in the first percentile in male height for my age. I was born 2 months early via Cesarian as my growth in my mother's womb had ceased. I wasn't given the option of growth hormones when I was younger. My parents were by no means poor, and they did raise the issue of height with my doctors several times. I'm currently going through my medical history trying to understand what happened. All I know now is that I have a higher range testosterone levels in my blood, which doesn't do anything to help me at all. Most females will require and prefer men taller than them. It's a cheap cop out to say that girls who say that height matters aren't the type is want for a relationship, because its obvious and doesn't detract from the main point. If biologically I am unsound, why am I viable?
Sun Devil Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Are you improving yourself and socializing? I am learning to improve myself and am expanding my social circle. Even though the social circle consists of mostly guys, I plan on doing things where I can find more women. I try to live an active life so that I am not seen as boring. I also plan on using pua material to better communicate with girls. If all this fails and I am still single due to my height, then I will have no choice but to buy a wife or commit suicide.
Author silicone Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 My problem isn't socialising, the girls I know like me, albeit I show no interest in them as I already a sweetheart. It's the feeling inside.
todreaminblue Posted October 21, 2012 Posted October 21, 2012 Hi, I guess I'm trying to increase my self-esteem and self worth, but right now, I'm basically crashing. I'm a short guy (5'2") and I'm quite stocky but muscular. Sort of like a small teddy bear. I deal with my height insecurities whilst I was at school and I was complacent with the fact that I wasn't going to grow any taller. I then spent the next 3 years of my life being rejected by girls for the same reason, that I was too short to date, but them telling me that I was a perfect guy was no help at all. I sort of cooled down after that. I did some gymnastics to help improve my body whilst at school. About 3-4 months later, a girl (now my gf) told me she had a crush on me and things went on from there. I've lost some weight but I'm still a stocky fellow. Earlier this year, I came across a tweet on Twitter by girls about short men. I ended up digging further and further and pretty much read all articles about forums and the such about short men, and their attractiveness and their dating successes as well as success in other aspects. For the record, I'm a student pilot and I've basically gone through hell so far and I'm not going to give up. If anyone reads Florida Today, they probably know about a flight school which has gone bust. Anyway, after digesting the information I garnered from these articles about short men, I found myself in heartbreaking pain. It's causing me to resent myself, my body and my existence; I don't feel like I can control it, but there is definitely an overall negative view and hate on short men by girls. Now I know I shouldn't want girls like that in my life, and I don't, but the mental damage has already been done, and the result is now someone who's heading towards social anxiety, who cannot seek help from anyone. What do I do? How can I feel attractive again? I'm an incredibly determined person and I am strong-willed - that's why my gf fell in love with me, because I am a strong person - I just feel weak You have a gf dont worry what twitter sites say or any other article obviously you are a success story you go against the norm....what is norm anyway....everybody writes articles about what is not acceptable....i want to see more positive geared articles which have some heart in there....a bit of compassion and understanding and acceptance .....freaking acceptance none of us are normal really everybody is different...... height weight mental illness personality.....they used to give people like me labotomies as far as i know ....they didnt give short people holes in the head..the stigma involving mental illness is still isolating to this day....not by the people i know and love or my church buddies....but some people can be cruel. there were probably many articles stating the necessity of making me brain dead earlier in the century......so dotncha worry those articles will change soon and short people will be the flavor of the month.But you have a gf who loves you as i have people who love me.......we are the lucky ones.....short or suffering with mental illness.....we are the norm.....and the more articles that show acceptance and compassion take notice of them...not the bad ones......you know a lot people are accepting....one being who accepts me for who i am is god...and when my friends and family are not able to help me make sense of it....i rely on him not a bias geared article that makes em feel bad about myself....i feel weak a lot......i pray for strength to deal with my shortcomings.......and they are many......ask the voices in my head they will tell you.....;0)....cheer up.....you are special no matter how tall or not you are.i dont have all my answers today is a particularly crap day for me.everybody has them.......keep your chin up as i will too.........hugs.....deb 1
Author silicone Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 You have a gf dont worry what twitter sites say or any other article obviously you are a success story you go against the norm....what is norm anyway....everybody writes articles about what is not acceptable....i want to see more positive geared articles which have some heart in there....a bit of compassion and understanding and acceptance .....freaking acceptance none of us are normal really everybody is different...... height weight mental illness personality.....they used to give people like me labotomies as far as i know ....they didnt give short people holes in the head..the stigma involving mental illness is still isolating to this day....not by the people i know and love or my church buddies....but some people can be cruel. there were probably many articles stating the necessity of making me brain dead earlier in the century......so dotncha worry those articles will change soon and short people will be the flavor of the month.But you have a gf who loves you as i have people who love me.......we are the lucky ones.....short or suffering with mental illness.....we are the norm.....and the more articles that show acceptance and compassion take notice of them...not the bad ones......you know a lot people are accepting....one being who accepts me for who i am is god...and when my friends and family are not able to help me make sense of it....i rely on him not a bias geared article that makes em feel bad about myself....i feel weak a lot......i pray for strength to deal with my shortcomings.......and they are many......ask the voices in my head they will tell you.....;0)....cheer up.....you are special no matter how tall or not you are.i dont have all my answers today is a particularly crap day for me.everybody has them.......keep your chin up as i will too.........hugs.....deb I think it's possibly because I know that I am at a disadvantage by default should our relationship fail. I don't want to be attractive to all women, but I want to be attractive to a few.
Author silicone Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 Do you always moan about things you cannot change? No, because it rarely happens that I can't change something, if I'm unhappy about it.
johnwillson953 Posted October 23, 2012 Posted October 23, 2012 Becoming Successful by Building self esteem and Building confidence. Learn to build inner strengths that are necessary to accomplishing success.
Author silicone Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 Becoming Successful by Building self esteem and Building confidence. Learn to build inner strengths that are necessary to accomplishing success. When I say that if you met me you wouldn't know that I'm feeling like this inside, I actually mean it, the few people I've disclosed it to thought I was joking, I'm a completely different person mostly.
ScreamingTrees Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 Wow, I pity you fools. Got 99 problems, but being vertically challenged ain't one. I'm 6'7. When I pass unsuspecting women on the street, I like to play chicken with them and see who moves out of the way faster. Either they move out of the way, or I get a boner that rips through my pants like a lightning bolt and stabs their face because most women are eye-level with my package anyway. Either way, I win. Life is good for me. Sucks for you nerds.
brakco Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 I'm just short of 5'10" and just recently started dating someone shorter than I am (5'4") and I adore him so friggin' much it's ridiculous. I've always dated the tall, dark and handsome but I enjoy my time with this guy more than any of those past bozos and I don't care a lick about how tall he is. All I care about is how happy I am when we are together. In the end, height doesn't matter one bit if someone really loves you. 1
Author silicone Posted October 27, 2012 Author Posted October 27, 2012 Wow, I pity you fools. Got 99 problems, but being vertically challenged ain't one. I'm 6'7. When I pass unsuspecting women on the street, I like to play chicken with them and see who moves out of the way faster. Either they move out of the way, or I get a boner that rips through my pants like a lightning bolt and stabs their face because most women are eye-level with my package anyway. Either way, I win. Life is good for me. Sucks for you nerds. More power to you then, I'm in stable job, earning over £12 over the median for my age group. I'm a likable person, and I'm sort of powerful when it comes to many aspects. I have assets. I also have a girlfriend. I don't pity anyone, and I don't give undue respect and I don't get out the way for anyone but myself and my faculties. I'm just short of 5'10" and just recently started dating someone shorter than I am (5'4") and I adore him so friggin' much it's ridiculous. I've always dated the tall, dark and handsome but I enjoy my time with this guy more than any of those past bozos and I don't care a lick about how tall he is. All I care about is how happy I am when we are together. In the end, height doesn't matter one bit if someone really loves you. Whilst your last statement is true, it doesn't really help the magnitude of pain that I've to endure before getting to the endpoint.
jonndoe Posted October 27, 2012 Posted October 27, 2012 I'm 5"8' and still single and trying out. Of course I wont understand that feeling of yours, but even with height, I think its the confidence to carry urself that matter. The physical stuff are bonus and does have certain advantage.
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