Just feel so unattractive as a short guy

[oaks]

Wear heels yourself.

 

How much height do your shoes give you?

[silicone]

Wear heels yourself.

 

How much height do your shoes give you?

 

When I go out to formal events or if I happen to be in a suit - this includes flight training where I am in formal dress, I wear my parade shoes which add about an inch to me.

 

Not sure if I want to wear heels That said, I haven't tried.

[silicone]

Actually, do any men wear heels? I feel uncomfortable with platform shoes

[NoCashBack]

I can't say that we've kissed in public, because we haven't had the chance too, being LDR etc. I'm sure she would if she had the chance to. It's just that I know she's going through a hard time. She's a MF trans, and it's hard on her but I can't be supportive if I keep getting locked out

 

The thing is, I'm only starting to see this better side of the coin. I went through 3 years worth rejections through my last years at school, not attending proms etc. Every girl whom I know though, all of whom are in relationships have said that if they weren't in relationships, they would totally into me. The only girl who has made it painfully obvious that she likes me/ into me, outside of my circle, is my cousin.

 

I think William Gibson did have a fair quote:

 

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by *******s.”

 

Why don't you just get a sex change operation? Then you can get lots of men interested in you.

[darkmoon]

i like that my cl*t rubs part of short man's body in a coming way

i like that i can kiss face to face with a short man

[yongyong]

It's funny. All american women say here 'you shouldn't judge people by their looks and should treat them equally' when I talk about Ugly, Fat girls.

Do they have double standards for men or are they just spitting sxit out of their pussy?

[MrCastle]

I am 5'10", I have been with men who were/are shorter in the past, and quite honestly even though they said that it did not bother them, I think deep down they were uncomfortable with it. I also do not like hearing guys around me say that they are taller than they actually are, when they are far shorter. All I do is nod and agree, but I know the truth.

 

I had a great aunt who worked as a nurse in the maternity ward of a hospital. This is a sort of but not really non PC thing to say today, but in her day should they encounter a couple having a baby with a tall man and a short woman (or vice versa), they would literally write on the chart "mismatch".

 

Solution? I would go for small or smaller women. You really don't want to be with an Amazon (like me) or someone who could be bigger than me still. You'd feel more at ease with a smaller woman.

 

You can't help who you're attracted to. I'm short, and if I'm attracted to a taller woman, then it is what it is. This notion of limiting your dating prospects to women in your height range is pretty lame, and negative in my opinion. Definitely won't help him feel any better

[oaks]

Actually, do any men wear heels? I feel uncomfortable with platform shoes

 

Google for 'Nicolas Sarkozy shoes' if you want to see some serious examples.

 

I was curious, so I measured some of my smart shoes. They give me about 1.5 inches. No wonder I keep thinking the girls I'm dating are shorter than they say!

[silicone]

Why don't you just get a sex change operation? Then you can get lots of men interested in you.

 

I can easily get a lot of gay male attention. But alas, that's not what I'm after. I've already been there (towards thinking about a sex change) and it wasn't right for me. The process of sex change is a long one, taking at least 5 years in this country.

 

i like that my cl*t rubs part of short man's body in a coming way

i like that i can kiss face to face with a short man

 

 

You can't help who you're attracted to. I'm short, and if I'm attracted to a taller woman, then it is what it is. This notion of limiting your dating prospects to women in your height range is pretty lame, and negative in my opinion. Definitely won't help him feel any better

 

I agree - in fact, shorter women, who are in demand more than shorter men are more likely to position themselves to be marketable at the men who are higher in demand, taller men - not just that, but a lot of taller men prefer the very short women.

 

Now, if I were a woman, I'd have no problem with the opposite sex. But as it is, I am a guy and I've to deal with the cards I have. It's not easy, but I can only do my best.

[silicone]

Google for 'Nicolas Sarkozy shoes' if you want to see some serious examples.

 

I was curious, so I measured some of my smart shoes. They give me about 1.5 inches. No wonder I keep thinking the girls I'm dating are shorter than they say!

 

Aha - that famous pic of Sarkozy and the Napoleon syndrome [him standing on tip toes].

 

I'll measure mine tomorrow, but I'm sure they provide about 3cm or 1 inch boost.

[Titanwolf]

Napoleon syndrome

I think you've been reading that crap online for too long. The "Napoleon complex" is a myth, that people often resort to when they see a "short man" with qualities they'd otherwise admire, or at least tolerate in a "tall" man. People who use this phrase are idiotic and ignorant, fact. Research further about Napoleon if you wish.

[silicone]

I think you've been reading that crap online for too long. The "Napoleon complex" is a myth, that people often resort to when they see a "short man" with qualities they'd otherwise admire, or at least tolerate in a "tall" man. People who use this phrase are idiotic and ignorant, fact. Research further about Napoleon if you wish.

 

Trust me on this - it doesn't exist. It's an excuse people throw around just because the guy happens to be short and an *******.

 

Napoleon wasn't even short, he was above average for his time.

[Garfish]

OK two separate things... one, stop obsessing and torturing yourself by reading SOME women's comments about how unattractive short men are. That's like being jealous of someone and reading stories about other people being jealous of someone (in a relationship) and hoping that by reading that stuff you'll feel better. It only makes things worse!!! Remember, Napoleon conquered Europe and James Madison scripted the U.S. Bill of Rights, they didn't let their height keep them down. I had a friend in HS your height and EVERYBODY liked him, guys as a friend, girls thought he was cute. He had a great sense of humor and was very physically strong, in the mosh pit he was a beast. He later joined the Navy.

 

The other thing I wanted to say is, if I understand what you said, your gf is a MF Trans, well I know this is not a PC thing to say but wouldn't she have kind of a M brain regardless? So maybe height would not be important to her?

 

And also there are lots of really cute Mexican girls who are very short, as others have said. Probably some who are Arab, Indian, Indonesian, Thai, etc. A nice assortment of beautiful skin tones if I may say so myself.

[silicone]

OK two separate things... one, stop obsessing and torturing yourself by reading SOME women's comments about how unattractive short men are. That's like being jealous of someone and reading stories about other people being jealous of someone (in a relationship) and hoping that by reading that stuff you'll feel better. It only makes things worse!!! Remember, Napoleon conquered Europe and James Madison scripted the U.S. Bill of Rights, they didn't let their height keep them down. I had a friend in HS your height and EVERYBODY liked him, guys as a friend, girls thought he was cute. He had a great sense of humor and was very physically strong, in the mosh pit he was a beast. He later joined the Navy.

 

The other thing I wanted to say is, if I understand what you said, your gf is a MF Trans, well I know this is not a PC thing to say but wouldn't she have kind of a M brain regardless? So maybe height would not be important to her?

 

And also there are lots of really cute Mexican girls who are very short, as others have said. Probably some who are Arab, Indian, Indonesian, Thai, etc. A nice assortment of beautiful skin tones if I may say so myself.

 

I'm trying to stop looking at them, it works for a while, then I somehow end up in the cycle. It's rather vicious because I'm an emotional roller coaster: one day I'm telling myself how such a great guy I am then the next something tripping me.

 

Girls do think that I'm cute, but I don't get much attention from them where I would have needed it.

 

With regards to my girlfriend, I was thinking the same. Height isn't important to her, but only time will tell if it will be anything at all.

 

I'm on Indo-Mauritian descent, but I am a lighter colour, so I can have my fair share of colours that go with my own skin tone

[crazylove]

My partner is 5'5 and has no problem with it and i'm 5'3. The tallest guy i've been out with was 5'7. My preference is for shorter guys . You shouldn't stress yourself out with what other people think. Your girlfriend i'm sure loves u for who you are and wouldn't be with you if height concerned her. Not all women are bothered by a guys vertical standing lol

[yongyong]

you don't have to look in the mirror and tell your self 'you are great man, you are great man!!' that shows huge insecurity right there.

 

Can you see a guy without any problems telling himself something like that?

 

The goal is just to act normal and don't get discouraged by how other people treat you. there WOULD be some people who will look down on you because of your height.

 

Eg)

Do I get treated the same way as the other white customer by a white cashier?

sometimes, they say 'how are you' and make a small chat with a white person right in front of me. when it's my turn, they just say 'hi' with a poker face. It happens and all I can do is not to be affected by it. I can't change the world.

 

 

I'm trying to stop looking at them, it works for a while, then I somehow end up in the cycle. It's rather vicious because I'm an emotional roller coaster: one day I'm telling myself how such a great guy I am then the next something tripping me.

 

Girls do think that I'm cute, but I don't get much attention from them where I would have needed it.

 

With regards to my girlfriend, I was thinking the same. Height isn't important to her, but only time will tell if it will be anything at all.

 

I'm on Indo-Mauritian descent, but I am a lighter colour, so I can have my fair share of colours that go with my own skin tone

[Failboy]

I think you've been reading that crap online for too long. The "Napoleon complex" is a myth, that people often resort to when they see a "short man" with qualities they'd otherwise admire, or at least tolerate in a "tall" man. People who use this phrase are idiotic and ignorant, fact. Research further about Napoleon if you wish.

 

 

It's a really messed up social construct to just take any air out of a short guy you dislike. Whatever he does or doesn't do, you can attribute that to him somehow reacting and/or compensating for his shortness. Disgusting. So many normal height guys act out of line or undesirable, it's just something that people do from time to time.

 

As for height-enhancing shoes for men, I believe it's something you can do when you have normal height in order to be tall or whatever. As for being really short, that same thing will get you scrutinized beyond compare. You will be looked upon as some heavily troubled - as someone who is not comfortable with who he is.

I always look for shoes who really can't be labeled in that category. I'd be embarrassed as hell if a girl and I were the same height while meeting each other, then suddenly I'm becoming shorter than her when undressing. Could kill everything, depending on how big of a turn-off that would be for her.

[silicone]

My partner is 5'5 and has no problem with it and i'm 5'3. The tallest guy i've been out with was 5'7. My preference is for shorter guys . You shouldn't stress yourself out with what other people think. Your girlfriend i'm sure loves u for who you are and wouldn't be with you if height concerned her. Not all women are bothered by a guys vertical standing lol

 

Thanks It feels great to hear that

[silicone]

you don't have to look in the mirror and tell your self 'you are great man, you are great man!!' that shows huge insecurity right there.

 

Can you see a guy without any problems telling himself something like that?

 

The goal is just to act normal and don't get discouraged by how other people treat you. there WOULD be some people who will look down on you because of your height.

 

Eg)

Do I get treated the same way as the other white customer by a white cashier?

sometimes, they say 'how are you' and make a small chat with a white person right in front of me. when it's my turn, they just say 'hi' with a poker face. It happens and all I can do is not to be affected by it. I can't change the world.

 

 

Everyone has their insecurities - I'm particularly good at hiding them. The fact I need to tell myself that stems from two events, one in which I was constantly put down by people who were most close to me, and second, I've actually had a few cruel women / girls actually say harmful stuff to my face and behind my back. It's put me in a spiral.

 

I've actually seen hate for short men, and what's worse was that I was discriminated against due to my height, they actually said that I didn't "look" like a leader; at the time, I didn't think anything of it.

[oaks]

Aha - that famous pic of Sarkozy and the Napoleon syndrome [him standing on tip toes].

 

Well, you asked if any men wear heels. Don't complain when I give you an example!

 

Let's see... you're unhappy being short, you're uncomfortable with the idea of wearing shoes to make you taller, and you complain when you're shown examples of people doing that.

 

Do you want to do something about it, or just whine about it?

[weallfalldown]

hey silicone, you can borrow my legs if ya like....

[silicone]

Well, you asked if any men wear heels. Don't complain when I give you an example!

 

Let's see... you're unhappy being short, you're uncomfortable with the idea of wearing shoes to make you taller, and you complain when you're shown examples of people doing that.

 

Do you want to do something about it, or just whine about it?

 

Sorry - wasn't meaning to complain - actually made me chuckle a bit. I'm not ashamed of my height, it's not as if it defines me.

 

What I want to do is to feel better about myself, and I really don't know how to.

[silicone]

hey silicone, you can borrow my legs if ya like....

 

hehe Whereabouts in the UK are you?

[weallfalldown]

the arse end of nowhere at the moment...best place for me...

[silicone]

the arse end of nowhere at the moment...best place for me...

 

lmao, for some reason, that just sounds like Penzance or down that area :/