Surfer203 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Been dating a lot... met some nice new women. My problem is occasionally I will really like them and I fall SO hard for them. I get a bit obsessed and think about them constantly. Obsess over them texting/not texting back, I dissect their words and think too much. I get strong feelings quickly. How can I not do this? How can I just be cool about things and relax? It's a real problem and it's developing again with a woman I just met recently. I don't want to be a nutjob but it seems inevitable, haha.
rhymes Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 You can never be too emotionally invested in whether some texts, calls back, or what their communication time lines are like. For everyone it's different and you don't want to obsess over when, or if they might text back. Truthfully it's out of your control, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. Personally, I think it starts with being happy just being you. If you are content with your life and who you are, it won't matter whether a girl texts you back or not. Other people shouldn't create your happiness, they should just add to it. You need to know at the end of the day, if you never meet anyone, you'll still be a happy, positive dude. I'm a little jaded from a previous relationship (even though I've healed quite a bit the past few months) but never again will give up my heart so easily to a women. If we're together a year and I can see some marriage prospects, I'll start to let myself fall in love, but until that point, I'll always maintain the attitude that if they were to leave me tomorrow, I'd still be happy. It's maybe not the best way to live, but after getting burnt, it's harder to just give your heart so freely. I want to love again one day, but it's going to take an amazing girl and a special connection for that to happen. I'd say you adopt the attitude that whatever happens, happens and just live day-to-day. You still try and create that connection, but you also can't force anything, so just do your best and if it's meant to work out it will, if not then there a million other girls out there and eventually you'll find the one. 1
Author Surfer203 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Thanks for the response. I have also been burnt, wife cheated on me, left me and tried to come back and work it out. So, I am bit cautious and careful. I do miss the intense loving connection but have gotten over the demise of the marriage. I have dated a few women since we split up. It's really hard to live the way you are speaking of and maybe you are right... maybe I am just not happy alone. That very well could be the problem. Do people actually feel that way?
InJest Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 People feel that way all the time. You should see multiple women at once to avoid falling too hard or too soon.
Author Surfer203 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 I am!!! Currently talking to 4... sleeping with one but we defined that it was not a relationship. I'm just a hopeless romantic maybe. haha
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