irc333 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 My female friend of mine dated a guy for a few months. She actually met him online (she wasn't much into her own circle of friends or current male guys that wanted to date her) Imagine that, not into dating men in person, but will go for it online (but that's another story, lol) Anyways, she was telling me she really didn't want to date a guy with young children, as her children are of adult age, but yet they are both around the same age (him and her). So she refused to date him at first, but he talked her into seeing him, he actually made the long distance ride to her area...even rented out a hotel room a few times while in town. She even took the train to see him, which is about a 3 to 4 hour ride. Well, they let this go on for a few months, then recently told me that she broke up with him, the last time he came to see her. He was very upset and she could see he was too upset to drive home, so she let him stay over night. Well, somehow he talked her into giving it another shot....she agreed to it, but waited for him to get home to FINALLY break up with him after he got home. I said, "It sounded like you didn't want to date him in the FIRST place, but you went along with it anyways?" SHe goes, "Yeah I know" The only logical conclusion is that she stayed with him because he was physically attractive. Reason I say this, because she had quite a few local guys practically BEG her ( I used the phrase, "Talked her into it" in lieu of begging), to go out with them, but she seriously refused....one of her "guy friends" said, "Oh, I bet if I made 80K a year you'd consider it, right?" And she said, "Um, nope, I just don't find you physically attractive" So she's been forced into a position by her male peers when drilled with "why don't you want to go out with me??" And sometimes forced her into a position to tell them this. But yet, she'll continue to stay with a guy that somehow succesffully talked her into it...as opposed to her other male interests. So you could say that physical attraction can be SO powerful, it can cause a relationship to be hard to break up?
Emilia Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Reason I say this, because she had quite a few local guys practically BEG her ( I used the phrase, "Talked her into it" in lieu of begging), to go out with them, but she seriously refused....one of her "guy friends" said, "Oh, I bet if I made 80K a year you'd consider it, right?" And she said, "Um, nope, I just don't find you physically attractive" So she's been forced into a position by her male peers when drilled with "why don't you want to go out with me??" And sometimes forced her into a position to tell them this. But yet, she'll continue to stay with a guy that somehow succesffully talked her into it...as opposed to her other male interests. So you could say that physical attraction can be SO powerful, it can cause a relationship to be hard to break up? Yes _____________
Author irc333 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Ironic, eh? Turning down the average Joes, just to date someone she wasn't into in the first place.
yongyong Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 If I throw you a puppy that's not your type of breed at all, would you take it? how about I offer you some cash along with it? I wouldn't. I keep saying here 'If you can't make her pusxy wet, when she meets you, then you are done'
xxoo Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Ironic, eh? Turning down the average Joes, just to date someone she wasn't into in the first place. Ironic how? A lasting romantic relationship requires at least these two things: 1. sexual attraction 2. decent compatibility Strong sexual attraction can make it difficult to judge compatibility--for a while. There are all these hormones swirling, clouding judgment. When they wear off, relationships without compatibility break up. Decent compatibility is not enough to get a relationship started, in the absence of sexual attraction. That's a friendship.
Author irc333 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 If I throw you a puppy that's not your type of breed at all, would you take it? how about I offer you some cash along with it? I wouldn't. I keep saying here 'If you can't make her pusxy wet, when she meets you, then you are done' Which I would think means throwing in sexual connotations or innuendos into a conversation? One guy she was with, he was like, "Hey, we get a long so well, how about we start dating?"
irin Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 guys dont beg girls that they are not attracted to go out with them, it goes both ways.
Emilia Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Ironic, eh? Turning down the average Joes, just to date someone she wasn't into in the first place. I'd rather f*** someone I fancy than someone I don't. That's what it comes down to I'm afraid.
ThaWholigan Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I'd rather f*** someone I fancy than someone I don't. That's what it comes down to I'm afraid. Wouldn't we all Physical attraction will make it hard to give up on anyone. One must have a little strength and perspective to just do it.
EasyHeart Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Men do the same thing all the time (or at least I do!) The hotter a woman is, the more crap I'll put up with and the more excuses I'll make to rationalize her behavior. I'm sure it's the same for women. 1
stillafool Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 OP, I'm surprised that you are surprised that this woman would want to date the man she has the most attraction for. Isn't that how it works for men as well? Do your friends beg barely attractive women for a date also?
counterman Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 That's what happened in my first relationship. I was so extremely attracted to her. Even though she treated me horribly and I wanted to break up with her, I didn't get around to it. In the end, she broke up with me. Now, I've learnt that it's not worth it. Even if I am really attracted to a girl, if there's a reason to break up, I will break up with her.
Author irc333 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 That's what happened in my first relationship. I was so extremely attracted to her. Even though she treated me horribly and I wanted to break up with her, I didn't get around to it. In the end, she broke up with me. Now, I've learnt that it's not worth it. Even if I am really attracted to a girl, if there's a reason to break up, I will break up with her. Yeah, I mean finding out she actually turned him down in the beginning, and a few times at that for the reasons she's listed....but finally caved, and then regretted it. Unless she's one of those types of people that hate to tell people "No", but she had no problem saying "No" to the local guys no matter what kind of argument they gave.
Emilia Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Yeah, I mean finding out she actually turned him down in the beginning, and a few times at that for the reasons she's listed....but finally caved, and then regretted it. Unless she's one of those types of people that hate to tell people "No", but she had no problem saying "No" to the local guys no matter what kind of argument they gave. Bet she didn't regret the sex. Breaking up isn't great and I dislike it too but bloody hell there is no way I'd turn someone good looking down I found likeable unless he was a complete psycho.
Author irc333 Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Bet she didn't regret the sex. Breaking up isn't great and I dislike it too but bloody hell there is no way I'd turn someone good looking down I found likeable unless he was a complete psycho. I turned down a woman for sex, only because she didn't want to date me exclusively. I told her I don't have sex with women that I don't have as a girlfriend. Basically, I told her we'd need to be dating exclusively in order to it. She was surprised that when she called me to come over to her place one evening, that I turned it down. She said that most men would drop everything to race to her place.
Emilia Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 You didn't like her enough. You have to like the person, not just find them attractive. The two don't always go hand in hand.
carhill Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 The possible irony is that she may have said 'no' in the beginning for the same reason she found it hard to end it.
xxoo Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Yeah, I mean finding out she actually turned him down in the beginning, and a few times at that for the reasons she's listed....but finally caved, and then regretted it. Unless she's one of those types of people that hate to tell people "No", but she had no problem saying "No" to the local guys no matter what kind of argument they gave. Simple answer: she got horny enough.
SouthernDamsel Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 One of my former relationships was with a very classically handsome and charming man. He knew all of the right things to say. Once we were in an established relationship, he started to show his true colors of being a total POS. I do not need that, so I walked, and fast. A pretty outer shell only does so much, and it wasn't enough in my case.
SteveC80 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Theyre's plenty of attratcive people in the world to give up your dignity and take any type of bs from someone because theyre kind of good looking is pathetic imo 1
AD1980 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I see it with my good looking friend whos an arrogant narcisist women willl put up with any of his **** because hes good looking Men get a bad rep for being shallow horndogs but women are probably more controlled by their hormones and controlled by good looking Men imo
SteveC80 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I see it with my good looking friend whos an arrogant narcisist women willl put up with any of his **** because hes good looking Men get a bad rep for being shallow horndogs but women are probably more controlled by their hormones and controlled by good looking Men imo I would agree women can lose their mind when they see a good looking man in person or a entertainer theyre in love with and you see them act like schoolgrils or faint Women are creepy its just goes on the radar becasue theri the weaker sex so Men get the bad rep about how they act around good looking specimens
yongyong Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 No I was just giving you an example. you see two puppies. one is a pug and the other one is a beagle. since they are both equally cute, you think she would choose either one. No, she only likes beagle. it doesn't matter beagle is notorious for being crazy. she will put up with it because her pusxy gets wet when she looks at that thing. Pug??? it doesn't matter if it is easier to train and goes to potty well. In your case, To you those two guys have the looks about the same level. (let's say same job too). your friend is nicer than the other one so you think she should give him a chance. No, she isn't going to spread her legs unless he has that 'beagle effect' For me, it's the same. If a girl doesn't give me the boner, I don't care how smart she is, how rich she is, how nice she is. What am I going to do with a girl I don't want to f-ck the shix out of? Which I would think means throwing in sexual connotations or innuendos into a conversation? One guy she was with, he was like, "Hey, we get a long so well, how about we start dating?"
Leopard Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Oh definitely. Physical attraction goes beyond a nice body. Physical attraction is a chemical romance in your brain, and when you are away from this person, you have withdrawal symptoms. Your brain wants that surge of endorphins again, and it got so used to getting it from your ex that you need to be with/around them to get that fix. Physical chemistry is a drug. That's why it's so hard to end passionate affairs or hot flings. It's the addiction to it.
monkey00 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Probably. I know guys who put up with a lot of crap from their girlfriend because she's more attractive than him or the guy has low self-esteem. I really don't have the patience for this, you can only push my buttons for so long until I blow up in your face. And I'm usually a pretty calm guy too.
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