soinlovewithtwo Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Ive come here a few times, always for advice on situations that are no-win. Anyway. I met a guy who actually seems relatively "normal" compared to the guys I usually date. the first time, we walked around the beach and just chatted. good convos, but no super sparks (he is attractive, but no flirting). So i saw him today, about a week since the 1st time. and I was so nervous that I was pretty hyper. he seemed tired and wasnt talking as much so i was kinda trying to compensate :/ well...at the end, we hugged and he texted me "thanks!". I replied...but he never said anything back. Is this a bad sign? Now for the next situation...I started having sex with a friend of mine about a month ago. prior to that, wed been "cuddle buddies" and hung out like 2-3 times a week. since we slept together about a month ago, ive only hung out with him twice. we ended up having sex again. the thing is, we talk everyday. but now its like, hes hanging out with a bunch of others and doesnt make time for me anymore. even today, i offered to see him tonight and he said he had plans but if they fell through, we could hang out. He believes in open relationships and has liked a girl for 2 years. She doesnt like him back (she personally told one of our mutual friends that). he said he could be in a closed one for "a couple" people but nothing has happened yet. before we had sex, he made some comment while I was giving him a back massage "if this is how every morning of our friendship/relationship/whatever it is starts, this could work out" jokingly. its like when were together, hes very affectionate. but when were not, he texts me good morning and we barely talk or see each other. But for the last month, my feelings for him have been growing. I dont know what to do. i love it when were together, so i dont want to end it. but my feelings are really hurt when were not together. i feel like i dont matter. am i overreacting? ive talked to him (i didnt tell him I like him) and he says he just has a lot of people to see and has a lot to do. but i feel like if I was that important, or he felt the same, he would actually invite me to go to parties or hed make time for me. Thoughts? Thank you for anyone who reads these
Author soinlovewithtwo Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 guy i went out with still didnt text me back. my friend i slept with said good morning and i never replied. dont know the right way to go about anything :/
venusianx13 Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 I'd write off the "date guy". If there were no major sparks, then don't worry too much about it. As for your FWB, I'd stop sleeping with him if I were you. I've been there, and it doesn't get easier if you continue like that. Put distance between yourself and him (as you seem to be doing) and if he doesn't miss you enough to start making time for you, he isn't worth the worry. Do YOU for a while. Meet other men. Build your confidence, and you'll be a knock-out and attract an emotionally (and physically) available man who is more than willing to make time for you. (if only I could go back and tell this to my 10 years younger self!) 1
manup Posted July 26, 2012 Posted July 26, 2012 Ive come here a few times, always for advice on situations that are no-win. Anyway. I met a guy who actually seems relatively "normal" compared to the guys I usually date. the first time, we walked around the beach and just chatted. good convos, but no super sparks (he is attractive, but no flirting). So i saw him today, about a week since the 1st time. and I was so nervous that I was pretty hyper. he seemed tired and wasnt talking as much so i was kinda trying to compensate :/ well...at the end, we hugged and he texted me "thanks!". I replied...but he never said anything back. Is this a bad sign? Now for the next situation...I started having sex with a friend of mine about a month ago. prior to that, wed been "cuddle buddies" and hung out like 2-3 times a week. since we slept together about a month ago, ive only hung out with him twice. we ended up having sex again. the thing is, we talk everyday. but now its like, hes hanging out with a bunch of others and doesnt make time for me anymore. even today, i offered to see him tonight and he said he had plans but if they fell through, we could hang out. He believes in open relationships and has liked a girl for 2 years. She doesnt like him back (she personally told one of our mutual friends that). he said he could be in a closed one for "a couple" people but nothing has happened yet. before we had sex, he made some comment while I was giving him a back massage "if this is how every morning of our friendship/relationship/whatever it is starts, this could work out" jokingly. its like when were together, hes very affectionate. but when were not, he texts me good morning and we barely talk or see each other. But for the last month, my feelings for him have been growing. I dont know what to do. i love it when were together, so i dont want to end it. but my feelings are really hurt when were not together. i feel like i dont matter. am i overreacting? ive talked to him (i didnt tell him I like him) and he says he just has a lot of people to see and has a lot to do. but i feel like if I was that important, or he felt the same, he would actually invite me to go to parties or hed make time for me. Thoughts? Thank you for anyone who reads these Please spare the "normal guy" let him find a nice normal girl.
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