BlueMonk Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 So I started talking to a girl a couple of months ago. We got introduced by an acquaintance and we are about 7 hours drive away from each other. We chatted on the phone and on IM for like 2 months before we met. We were constantly in touch with each other every couple of days during those 2 months. We had long chats on the phone and had a great rapport. The meeting went great too. We went for a couple of nice dinners and did a small hike and everything went well. Had a nice hug before parting and the good vibe continued the following few days on the phone/IM/Text. Then I started doing the 'too needy' thing and I think that ticked her off. All of a sudden she started taking much longer to respond back to Calls/IMs/Texts. Our last communication was last weekend when she sent me text message late sunday night and I responded back within an hour. Haven't heard back from her since. I wanted to ease up on the needy thing so I haven't contacted her either. I just can't figure out what's going on in her mind. I really like this girl and can't stop thinking about her. This is killing me and I am thinking of either calling her or writing her an email and find out what's going on with her. Which is a better option? call or email? How should I bring this up without looking too eager or without offending her. Please advice you good people!
Author BlueMonk Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Just the correction that the last communication was not last sunday but the one before that. So it's been more than a week since we connected.
dasein Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Call. Best way to get things on the table. Email leaves too much room for misinterpretation in these situations. Good luck.
Author BlueMonk Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 I did ask to meet again and her response was that she is not sure when would be a good time since her parents are visiting her for 2 months. All of these are signs that either she has lost interest or she has met someone else. I just don't know which one it is.
ja123 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 If you were the last one to contact her, then I'd say the ball is in her court. She's not sounding too interested, or perhaps is seeing someone else, or has too many other things going on in her life right now for a relationship. Try meeting women who live close to you. Or, at the very least chat with some random women on the internet just to distract yourself a bit and get some perspective.
Author BlueMonk Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 So I talked to her last night after all and we had a good chat. I am kinda getting ticked off by this passive aggressiveness though. Seems like she wants to keep this thing going but not focus on it entirely. Good advise on getting the distraction and some perspective.
truth_seeker Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 She's still feeling you out. She might be dating someone else, has other options, and is stringing you along until she decides what she wants to do.
Author BlueMonk Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 BTW, I did bring up the topic of contact drop with her and asked her if everything is okay. And she said everything is fine! She does have lots going on with her parents around and pretty demanding work. Although, I think the stringing along thing is still valid... You can never be that busy to not send out text message or have a short call every few days.
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