blue_jay_bird Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 7 year relationship, 2 months NC. I met a guy on a trip in Europe. He want's me to visit him in America (where he is from). I'm asking if it is a good idea. I think i'm going to do it. I just want to get away, i want to run into the arms of a guy that like's me. People think im a little crazy, for doing this for a guy i have know for a week. But its just a trip. And i'm doing it for myself. Im not crazy about this guy at all. I want to have fun, i want to be wanted.
Lisa_Lisa Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 I know it's tough, but it's probably not the best idea to run into the arms of a stranger. It'll leave you feeling empty in the end. I know this because after one of my ex's left me, I jumped into bed with a couple of guys and I felt dirty and ashamed, and it only made me miss my ex all the more because I was comparing their bodies to his. Go because you truly want to see America, but don't rely completely on this stranger to make the pain go away. You might end up with more.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 I was comparing their bodies to his. Go because you truly want to see America, but don't rely completely on this stranger to make the pain go away. You might end up with more. His body is much better then my ex. hehehe
Lisa_Lisa Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Woo hoo, then at least you know you'll have a good time.
Lisa_Lisa Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 It's good to take chances sometimes. I know this one girl who, after her boyfriend broke up with her and immediately got with someone new, she went to L.A. to stay with a cousin and friends - for 3 months. It was something she needed to do to heal, and sometimes being in a completely different environment does the trick.
Author blue_jay_bird Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 I guess i want to ask, does a rebound help you? I don't want to hurt this guy ether? Do i inform him im not looking for a relationship?
Lisa_Lisa Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I think it's important for the other person to know that you've just gotten out of a long term relationship and want to take things slow. This always perks up the interest of the rebound - I don't know why - but it does. This way if things get hot and heavy at least he knows that you were honest with him from the beginning. I think rebounds are just that - rebounds - nothing more, nothing less. People just coming out of relationships try to make them out to be something more, but it usually never lasts. I think that if this is what you really want to do - go to America, then do it. Hang out with this guy, have fun, laugh, and feel wanted, but be safe. Don't let your emotions run wild. It's always good to go through a change of environment, you're out of your comfort zone, and the memories of your ex (although still with you) don't dominate your whole being.
edelveis Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 if you are sure that this guy is safe then go and have fun!you only live once and crazy things make it better!and you can never know how this thing might end.give it a try
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