Gulf-Delta Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 (edited) LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "Im going to sit here and be a good little boy and wait on my ex to go plow many guys and come back to me all used up and depressed" Funny part is your ex wont respect you for doing this What? I guess you hear what you wanna hear dude lol Are you saying dating other people after you breakup is a reason to disown/hate your ex...you sound like a 14 year old. If you can't get over/accept the fact that poeple date other people after a breakup, and you're gonna be bitter about it if the ex tries to talk to you....you may not even be mature enough to be in a relationship at all. And who said anything about the ex's respect...I sure didn't, nor did I insinuate you "quote"...you kinda just pulled that "quote" out of nowhere, and it has nothing to do with my post you quoted. Edited July 25, 2012 by Gulf-Delta
Zammo25 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 While it certainly sucks, it is a reality that happened. People date other people when they break up. You date other people so that automatically means you can never be with your ex again?....that sounds immature. The Ex met someone else before me. Look I have not come here for an argument and think the abuse I am getting is disgraceful especially from wilsonx. You know about 10% of the facts. I made mistakes for sure but was not 100% to blame as no one ever is. She feel out of love with me is the short of it.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 The Ex met someone else before me. Look I have not come here for an argument and think the abuse I am getting is disgraceful especially from wilsonx. You know about 10% of the facts. I made mistakes for sure but was not 100% to blame as no one ever is. She feel out of love with me is the short of it. The post you quoted wasn't directed at you to be insulting, it was directed at poeple who think you can't date your ex if they date someone after you... I'm an optimist in the sense that I believe reconciliation is possible in every breakup, and is even very likely in some of them...I know lots of couples who separate for a little bit, and reunite happily
Zammo25 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 The post you quoted wasn't directed at you to be insulting, it was directed at poeple who think you can't date your ex if they date someone after you... I'm an optimist in the sense that I believe reconciliation is possible in every breakup, and is even very likely in some of them...I know lots of couples who separate for a little bit, and reunite happily The Ex met someone else before me. Look I have not come here for an argument and think the abuse I am getting is disgraceful especially from wilsonx. You know about 10% of the facts. I made mistakes for sure but was not 100% to blame as no one ever is. She feel out of love with me is the short of it. Although it hurts like hell I hope she is happy and the new guy treats her well and does not make my mistakes but overall I was very good to her so do not feel I was a bad or horrible person. Outside factors made things difficult but I think she kust changed and did not see me in the same light as she did for the first few months.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 The Ex met someone else before me. Look I have not come here for an argument and think the abuse I am getting is disgraceful especially from wilsonx. You know about 10% of the facts. I made mistakes for sure but was not 100% to blame as no one ever is. She feel out of love with me is the short of it. Although it hurts like hell I hope she is happy and the new guy treats her well and does not make my mistakes but overall I was very good to her so do not feel I was a bad or horrible person. Outside factors made things difficult but I think she kust changed and did not see me in the same light as she did for the first few months. Well, you sound pretty strong about everything. I hope everything works out how you want, whatever that may be.
Zammo25 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 G-D I hope one day we can be friends again just not now. She is a fabulous woman so I wish her all the happiness in the World.
TheBetterPerson Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I would recommend that you stay away from any places your ex might be! Dont go looking for them, do not contact them! I had to work with my ex, then he started seeing a girl who was supposed to be my friend at my work so i had to leave! iv seen both of them together a couple of times and its killed me its still is killing me! dont do it!
Zammo25 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Well, you sound pretty strong about everything. I hope everything works out how you want, whatever that may be. Not strong at all mate, really struggling losing this Woman but the new guy may be more financially and emotionally secure than me and she needs some stability and safety I feel. It's a great shame as we should be together still but I guess I blew it somehow , however, looking back I think she started to have doubts months before it bit the dust so after only one year a long and happy relationship was probably unlikely. As I said I have so many outside factors going against me it makes a successful relationship pretty much impossible.
Zammo25 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 My apologies to Flitzanu. I understand him now. Respect. 1
Author Mcnulty Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Had my heart broken twice, the first time, when i saw them, it kind of helped me to move on quicker I feel...I see them together still now and i feel nothing...time is a great healer. This one, it's like the last thing to nail into the coffin, I see her car at his, as my friend lives across thr street, yet have never seen them. What I'm saying is, nope, I'm not fully over her, but thought back to my first heartbreak and how it helped to see them together...I won't force it or look on FB, I guess it will happen when it happens...she's codependednt, so will not be letting him go right now anyways.
YorickBrown Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Not strong at all mate, really struggling losing this Woman but the new guy may be more financially and emotionally secure than me and she needs some stability and safety I feel. It's a great shame as we should be together still but I guess I blew it somehow , however, looking back I think she started to have doubts months before it bit the dust so after only one year a long and happy relationship was probably unlikely. As I said I have so many outside factors going against me it makes a successful relationship pretty much impossible. Wow! Unbelievable!!! this is the closest post that is probably very similar to my situation and what I feel for my ex and why she dumped me. I saw her "current" bf not too long btw...not to brag or anything...but I kinda got "insulted" when I did...like wtf, this is the person she exchanged me for??!? WTF!!! In the looks and personality department, simply, no contest...and I'm not even going to take a bath for three days, I'd still "win"...but then I'd just be smelly and bitter But then, I thought about her situation and where she came from (she's poor)...and I just felt sorry for her. I was angry but I somehow understood that she is what is... a sl*tty social climber, I thought I could "change" her (yeah, I know, Im stupid)....she simply wanted the easy and rich life quickly... Understanding her, wanting her to be happy...I guess that's what makes the "accepting" part easier...but still, its soooooo hard, knowing I got "played" and that I can also get "revenge" easily on her and ruin their relationship...
k100danny Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I do agree with a lot of what people are saying. I have gone NC, I am not trying to prove a point and if i felt the relationship could be saved then i probably wouldn't have gone this way. I didn't straight away because there was a chance it wasn't over. I am not looking for anything from NC at all and if i felt i wanted to contact my ex then I would. I do think that some people say go NC, without knowing all of the facts BUT as most relationships that fail it is for the best you can see why they say this. In reference to seeing your ex with someone i would advise visualization, if you can imagine it thoroughyl and it doesn't hurt then you could probably cope. When i saw my ex's new profile pic all kind of things went through my mind and i had a bit of a panic attack to be honest, I thought wow she is happy so quick, i must have meant nothing, is she doing this for a reaction at seeing my previous ex post on my facebook wall (she used to act out and get jealous) it was kind of the final nail in the coffin though too, it hurt like hell and I hate that image in my head but maybe did make me see that it's over, done, never happening again. I know some people who have reconciled after a break up and even been in relationships and then ende up back together but i personally couldn't do this, I couldn't get back with an ex after her being with someone else ever I on't think and if i did i wouldn't be able to forget it. This doesn't mean I get hostile toward the ex either, I was a bit like OOOOHHHH YOU BITCH!! But then you think logically and realise you don't have the right to feel that way, if someone is happier without you then don't deny them that. I am in no way friends with my ex at the moment, i don't know if i ever will be but I don't hate her and I will always have a place for her in my heart due to what we went through. she carried my child before deciding it wasn't right for us both and that is something that will stay with me for the rest of my life.
Zammo25 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I am seeing someone else now but still think of the ex with love. I am taking it slowly this time around and may never give my heart to anyone again as it has ripped me apart twice in the last 4 years. I don't want to ever be in this state again in the future so I think as I take the splits so badly it is best I do not put myself in that position again for my own sanity. Sad , but that is the way it is. I know for a fact my ex had started to talk to another guy before I had my first date and I even threw out a " missing you like hell " message the day before I met the new date for the first time. If I had got anything back at all I would have cancelled the date but as it was I heard nothing so thought, what the hell. She did e mail me over 2 weeks later asking how I was ?! She has closed the door now for good and I wish her well and happiness I really do. It's a great shame as we could have been good together but she withdrew and eventually disappeared. That is the short version.
Zammo25 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Wow! Unbelievable!!! this is the closest post that is probably very similar to my situation and what I feel for my ex and why she dumped me. I saw her "current" bf not too long btw...not to brag or anything...but I kinda got "insulted" when I did...like wtf, this is the person she exchanged me for??!? WTF!!! In the looks and personality department, simply, no contest...and I'm not even going to take a bath for three days, I'd still "win"...but then I'd just be smelly and bitter But then, I thought about her situation and where she came from (she's poor)...and I just felt sorry for her. I was angry but I somehow understood that she is what is... a sl*tty social climber, I thought I could "change" her (yeah, I know, Im stupid)....she simply wanted the easy and rich life quickly... Understanding her, wanting her to be happy...I guess that's what makes the "accepting" part easier...but still, its soooooo hard, knowing I got "played" and that I can also get "revenge" easily on her and ruin their relationship... I only think of my ex with love but was surprised she moved on so soon. 6 weeks after we last met. Very odd as she does not get the opportunity to meet men so I don't know how it happened but it did and good luck to her. I think one day in the future, maybe she will realise that I was a great guy, ok a bit screwed up due to numerous external factors I have gone through over the last few years but ultimately a genuine and loving guy who always treated her and her daugher well.
YorickBrown Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 I only think of my ex with love but was surprised she moved on so soon. 6 weeks after we last met. Very odd as she does not get the opportunity to meet men so I don't know how it happened but it did and good luck to her. I think one day in the future, maybe she will realise that I was a great guy, ok a bit screwed up due to numerous external factors I have gone through over the last few years but ultimately a genuine and loving guy who always treated her and her daugher well. Ok, I'm not an expert here, and I dunno if any of the LS ladies here would validate this, but, with them, usually...the break-up has all been planned out in advance, she secretly have a "replacement" already and taking you/us by "surprise" is their weird/wicked way of breaking it to us guys as gently as possible (yeah, right!) And quite frankly, and I dont want to sound like an ass...and I've asked this a couple of times at least in different threads...what makes her so special anyway that you seem so forlorn that you seemingly might miss the opportunity to meet other women yourself? 1
Zammo25 Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Ok, I'm not an expert here, and I dunno if any of the LS ladies here would validate this, but, with them, usually...the break-up has all been planned out in advance, she secretly have a "replacement" already and taking you/us by "surprise" is their weird/wicked way of breaking it to us guys as gently as possible (yeah, right!) And quite frankly, and I dont want to sound like an ass...and I've asked this a couple of times at least in different threads...what makes her so special anyway that you seem so forlorn that you seemingly might miss the opportunity to meet other women yourself? I have met another Woman as I am a decent bloke and not bad looking for nearly 50. I suppose we all put them on a pedestal after the break up don't we ?
Author Mcnulty Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Women are like birds. If they want to leave the nest, they don't just get up and leave. They take a twig from the one that they're in and find another tree across town. Then they return for another twig, then another, and another until they have enought to ditch the nest that they're in....I wonder..... 1
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