Breaking down. Fighting the urge to cave in and break nc

[AlexanderJames]

I swear my ex is just messaging me to make sure I cant forget about her. Or to keep me thinking about her.. Got another one last night saying that its not funny when she tells one of our inside jokes and no one around her gets it .

 

I swear my situation is so whack.

An ex that acts like she's my gf when she's with me, wont commit to getting back together, but wont stop txting me when I try to leave and ignore her. Yay.

[RogerWallace111]

Man that is wack. And yeah no doubt she's doing that **** just to make sure she stays on your mind... Youre still not responding right ? If you can keep it up I predict soon enough it'll come to a head and she'll say some **** to the effect of "fine, you don't wanna talk to me, have a great life !" or something like that. And then will proceed to actually leave you alone. For at least a spell...

[IST]

I went home to go to bed and when I climbed into bed this anger just hit me out of nowhere. Like a serious anger. I havent been that furious since highschool when my first serious gf slept with a good friend of mine to put things in perspective.

I had clentched fists and couldnt stop tapping my feet and shaking with rage.

Nothing happened to trigger it but it was scary I was borderline trashing stuff and flipping out.

 

Anyone ever had this? Possible it had nothing to do with my ex and I've just been stressed out lately? I didnt go to the gym for the first time in a long time yesterday but I doubt it would cause so much suppressed rage to burst out in bed.

 

 

The only time I've ever been that kind of anger is when my girlfriend's ex physically harassed her. (Chasing her in the street yelling at her, holding her in place so she couldn't walk away) Only reason I didn't fight him then was because once I engaged him my gf basically ran off. So I talked him down and went after her. I was very close to calling the cops on him, but my gf was insistent I didn't. (To the point where if I did, she'd deny anything happened) Ever since then the mention of him makes my blood boil. What really pisses me off is she's talking to him AGAIN. After saying she wouldn't. (for like the third time) Kind of gives me hope that maybe she'd be willing to talk to me again eventually I guess. Also kind of makes me think that she's just replaced my "presence" with him and some other guys so the hole is less empty.

 

 

I do occasionally get angry though. But not to that extent.

[AlexanderJames]

What a mole ><

 

Whatever she's playing at is working haha.

Got me agitated, fidgeting when I try to sleep and thinking about her more.

Not like missing her or wanting her back so much as being cranky that she's acting the way she is.

Like what makes her think she can bug me like this and keep her on my mind while I'm trying to move on. It's like she cant forget about me and doesn't want me forgetting about her.

I've been on edge all week. This week has definitely been worse than the last.

 

But the glass is always half full. I'm not sad, or hurting or sick like I'm going through a breakup. This is different. This is me being on edge cause someone is pushing my buttons.

More of a social problem than a relationship one. Doesn't make it any less unpleasant though. Just gotta keep pushing on and fingers crossed she leaves me alone. At least long enough to ditch this pent up aggression before it gets sent her way

[steveblack]

Dude, next time she contacts you, tell her exactly what YOU WANT. if she can't handle the conversation, or doesn't want to talk about it don't talk to her. Block her number.

 

Seriously she is playing games. Draw the line in the sand, if she wants to be mature and talk about things, fine, if not keep your boundaries. Its making you go nuts.

[AlexanderJames]

I've already done that mate that's the thing.

I've told her myself that I'm going NC and that I need to be on my own for now to let go an recover. I've told her not to contact me and I'm obviously ignoring her.

 

She always says she understands and tells me to do what I need to do and what's best for me but then give it a day or two and she txts me.

I don't think its mind games. If she was playing games she would realise I'm ignoring her and that she's not phasing me and just think "**** it this is boring Im not getting a reaction out of him" and stop messaging me.

Cause you guys on here are the only people that know it's annoying me. As far as she can tell I'm just ignoring her and moving on. It's like she can't bring herself to let me go off on my own.

[steveblack]

Have you blocked her number, email etc?

[AlexanderJames]

Only thing not blocked is her phone number.

Don't email each other. And I never use twitter or that crap. Just fb sometimes which she ever uses anyway.

 

Don't even know how to block her number lol haven't looked into it

[DMS]

Hey man. Hope all is going well for you today. Luckily so far I have not heard from the ex since she moved to Pennsylvania with her new guy. I can only imagine the frustration you are going through. Like your friend said, it can only get better.