Gosh Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Hello. Im Gosh! cause...gosh, i dont know what im doing! I met this guy like a month ago and we're flirting. Have to note that he is a barista and by being a barista myself, i did consider the fact of "part of the job" flirting, before i came to the conclusion that its real flirting. Of course, now i kinda doubt my conclusion, or i wouldnt be here I started to have a crush on him, felt like a teenager again tbh, so i did the basics. Ordered coffee from him, smiled, made jokes , laughed at his etc etc.. He seemed interested. He literally laughed at all my jokes, even lame ones. Offered me help on some situations and 3-4 free coffees. I did let him make some kind of "moves" just to figure out if it i was just making this up in my head. Basically, he's a guy-guy, meaning, i dont think he likes women to make the first steps etc. He has shown me some sort of masculine psycology of that, like being offended when i tried to replace something i borrowed from him. Anyways, on to main question. I found it a good idea, at the time, to go to the coffee shop when i saw him alone. So i just sitted and we chatted. I cant say i felt alot of flirting going on , although he did show some kind of interest, but i think it was just cause he had to. :/ Did i scare him, like "darn, i wanted to make this move" or is the whole thing just in my head? and a question easier for you to answer: Is going by for a chat considered "too strong"? or can i just act like a friendly neighbour and "save" it? note: i dont know if he has a girlfriend. thanks for reading!
venusianx13 Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Some people are just naturally flirtatious... some don't know how to draw a line between being friendly and being a flirt (which can be confusing!). I'm not sure about this guy, but why don't you just sit tight for a while and see what happens the next time you see him? He may in fact have a girlfriend, and if he does, then his response to your catching him while he was alone was appropriate.
Author Gosh Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Thanks for your responce! You are right about if he had a gf, his acts were great. Havent found out yet though. Weird thing is that , the same night, he approached me on his own and started talking to me and telling me how i always seem to find him at the worst timing. It seems to be going well , yet its still on an "on/off" thing, which i assume is normal, cause i still only find him while he's working. Im reaaaaally rusty on this stuff:/ I guess i have to wait. Then i think, what if by waiting, it shows im not interested.. aww....it kinda sucks, but on the other hand, its kinda fun too, i guess. Gosh i really like him. I think thats what makes me more anxious :/ Just cant wait till he makes a proper move, if he likes me too. Thanks again for your reply! really needed it!
haribogumsnickers Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 That wasn't too strong. Just go with the flow and ask for his number. You should be able to tell if he's interested by his response. Got nothing to lose so why wait.
Author Gosh Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 Thanks guys so much! @Just_A_Poster you do make some really good points. Yet he confused me when he found me one on one, on his own and was asking about where i live in order to get me home safe, so stayed with me and called a cab. But, as you said, flirt is fun. It still may be just flirting. I just hope its not @Married2kids I am definantly going to find that out soon. I have absolutely no intention on continuing anything if he is not single. I admitt, im too shy to ask directly, but maybe i'll try to bring it around or something. I just feel like im "cornering" him too much and if its just flirting for fun, thats a bad thing to do Its fun, cant deny that. For me, it started out just as you guys say, flirt for fun. Now im having all the classic symptoms of a crush..Gonna have to wait for him to make some kind of move that shows something more then just fun flirting i guess. @haribogumsnickers Oh, now im way to shy to do that with him. As i said, he seems like an old fashion guy and mostly cause , as i said above, i feel like im cornering him too much. So, if he is to do some move, i think ive made it easy for him, if i ask for his phonenumeber, i think i'll make him start running! Thats what i think at least. Thanks so much for the replies! PS I dont live in the US, over here, a girl asking for a phonenumber isnt really popular :/ I dont find it logical, but it just doesnt come as easy over here.
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