that dude Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I was hanging out with my girlfriend when someone messaged her on facebook saying she was hot and wanted to have sex with her. My girlfriend told him she was with me but that didnt stop him from asking again. I trust my girlfrined and know she wouldnt cheat on me but i still feel like i should tell this guy to stay the hell away from her. Girls what do you think? how would you feel if your boyfriend did this. I dont want her to think that i dont care enough about her to do something about this
GLDheart Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 If he's not getting the message, step in and make it clear. 1
Badsingularity Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Join the club. Dudes have been trying to steal my wife since I started dating her years ago. Don't worrying about it. Try to have confidence in yourself and your relationship. You can't control who hits on her.
ThaWholigan Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 You will have to deal with this calmly. Guys are going to want to have sex with your GF. That won't change. If you don't let it phase you, your GF will more than likely be more loyal to you, and continue to block any attempts to steal her away. As Badsingularity said, you can't control it, so don't worry about it, and have confidence.
The Way I Am Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 (edited) Unless your girlfriend asks you to get involved, don't. You said you trust her, so also trust her judgement on how to handle it. As for how I would feel if my boyfriend went after a guy for trying to hit on me, I had that happen in person once. It was embarrassing and a huge turn off. Edited July 23, 2012 by The Way I Am
yongyong Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Sometimes I hit on girls with their BF at the club (they were standing bit far) As soon as she tells me 'my bf is over there', I walk away. I have respect for guys who was observing but didn't care at all. Only pusxy dumb ass bf will come up and say 'can I help you?'
counterman Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Trust her and have confidence in her and your relationship. If it's someone on Facebook, she can block that person easily. If it's someone in person, she would let him know that she's with you. The point is, there will always be guys who are interested in your girlfriend and she can tell them to back off. When I with my ex-girlfriend, there were guys hitting on her all the time. I never stepped in. But, unlike your situation, my ex-girlfriend never stopped it either. She loved the attention and was even flirting back and encouraging more attention. Eventually, she dumped me when is now dating one of my former friends who she use to flirt with when she was with me. If you're girlfriend is not like my ex-girlfriend, then trust her and have faith in her (unless she gives you reason to otherwise).
utterer of lies Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I was hanging out with my girlfriend when someone messaged her on facebook saying she was hot and wanted to have sex with her. My girlfriend told him she was with me but that didnt stop him from asking again. I trust my girlfrined and know she wouldnt cheat on me but i still feel like i should tell this guy to stay the hell away from her. Girls what do you think? how would you feel if your boyfriend did this. I dont want her to think that i dont care enough about her to do something about this If you get involved, you show her that you don't trust her enough. If you have a pretty gf, she will get hit on again and again. That's normal. It's counter-productive for you to care about this, or even act. If she tells you, you can ask "do you need help?", but otherwise, just ignore it.
madjac74 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Not to mention it was on Facebook so you should have just laughed...and then had sex with her to spite him. Facebook sucks. Get off of it
Trimmer Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I was hanging out with my girlfriend when someone messaged her on facebook saying she was hot and wanted to have sex with her. My girlfriend told him she was with me but that didnt stop him from asking again. I trust my girlfrined and know she wouldnt cheat on me but i still feel like i should tell this guy to stay the hell away from her. Girls what do you think? how would you feel if your boyfriend did this. I dont want her to think that i dont care enough about her to do something about this You stepping in and attempting to take control of the situation isn't going to change who she is. In other words, if she is an honorable, faithful girlfriend, she isn't going to do anything with an outside guy anyway, so why would you need to step in. And on the other hand (just to balance the discussion; I'm sure it's not true for your gf) if she's likely to behave somewhere on the spectrum from flirting to outright cheating, then once again: you trying to control this one other guy isn't going to change the outcome in the long run, because that will depend on her, won't it? So ultimately, the solution to you coming out of this OK is not for you to go fighting the battles she should be fighting for herself (i.e. telling an outside guy "no") but for you to understand who she is, and that she's the kind of person who wouldn't do that - the kind of person who will take care of things herself. 1
betterdeal Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Facebook offer advice on how to deal with abuse and harassment: https://www.facebook.com/help/?page=204546626249212#abuse
darkmoon Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 you have every right to to whatever you like to this girlfreind stealer:mad:
TG1 Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 I say you should trust your girlfriend completely because if she made it clear to the other guy that she has you for a boyfriend and that she wouldn't cheat on you, you should take her word for it because if she could cheat on you, she would have already done it with this other guy but she hasn't, but yes make it clear to the other guy to stay away from your girlfriend but if he continues to message your girl, then yes I would step in but for right now I would trust her
Trimmer Posted July 23, 2012 Posted July 23, 2012 Also, think about this: if she was tempted to lead this guy on, or flirt with him, or had even the slightest inclination to do it - or even leave her options open - wouldn't she have kept it hidden from you? Even if she still shut him down, if there were even a little thing in the back of her head saying, "Well, maybe..." then she could have quietly told him "No", and not let you know about it. Her conscience would still be clean, but she would have kept her options open. By letting you know, she seems to demonstrate that it's not even a remote option for her...
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