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Even though a girl might say she is open to dating Asian men, don't assume or expect her or any other girl to actually be open to dating Asian men.

 

Why would you have a conversation like this in the first place? The most annoying thing in my experience of dating non-white men is their emphasis on race. If she gives you her number and goes on a date with you, should be enough. Why on earth it would need to be verbalised like this is beyond me. People who are open minded will see you as another person, not your race

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Why would you have a conversation like this in the first place? The most annoying thing in my experience of dating non-white men is their emphasis on race. If she gives you her number and goes on a date with you, should be enough. Why on earth it would need to be verbalised like this is beyond me. People who are open minded will see you as another person, not your race

 

Of course that would never come into a conversation I have with a girl. When I wrote that, I was thinking more along the lines of some woman on LS randomly saying in some thread, "hey, I'd date an Asian," or "of course women will date Asians." I wouldn't assume the same mentality with any other woman.

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I wouldn't change a thing. Everything happens for a reason and those reasons were lessons that made me not only stronger, but wiser today.

 

If there are more heartbreaks to come, bring it on. The more we hurt, the more we learn and the more we grow.

 

Woot! :bunny:

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Of course that would never come into a conversation I have with a girl. When I wrote that, I was thinking more along the lines of some woman on LS randomly saying in some thread, "hey, I'd date an Asian," or "of course women will date Asians." I wouldn't assume the same mentality with any other woman.

 

Argh, I really wish I could help you get over this silly race insecurity Hokie.

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The first thing I thought when I saw that pic was dark crystal. The movie terrified me in so many good and strange ways

 

Me too! Used to have it on VHS lol. Jim Hensen could be scary especially The Storyteller!

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Some of these are obvious, some not so obvious...

 

1. The dating game is completely different for men and women. Don't expect any of the "perks" that the opposite gender receives

 

2. In general, women are much more sensitive (i.e. fear rejection) than men. If you think you are afraid approaching women and the potential for embarrassment/rejection, trust me...women fear it 100x more. Don't expect how you look or what you wear to have women approaching you. No need to be afraid, they are just as scared of you as you are of them ;)

 

3. Dating is numbers game. If you want a lot of dates, you need to be approaching a lot of women. Unless you are famous, women will not be approaching you. Also, never settle for giving them your number...always take theirs. Got to be proactive and can never expect they will get back to you.

 

4. Women want to be treated like people. They will always enjoy the ego boost of someone telling them they are smart or beautiful, but generally won't give you serious dating consideration based on compliments. Talk to them like you are genuinely interested in what they say.

 

5. Live a healthy and interesting life for yourself. There is nothing more appealing to the opposite sex than knowing what you want and loving yourself. If you are out and doing things that you enjoy, women will be naturally attracted to you.

 

6. Read as much as possible. This is where good conversation begins. Being able to talk knowledgably about many subjects and knowing what is going on in the world. It also helps you get past the fear of "what do i say after I say hello"

 

7. (MOST IMPORTANT). You are never as good as you might seem when things are going well and never as bad as you might seem when things aren't going great. Life is a series of ups and downs. Don't buy into your own hype and don't beat yourself up too much when you are down on your luck. Things tend to balance out. Be consistent and true to your values and you will always feel fulfilled.

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If you start thinking a girl likes you (or might like you), trust me, she doesn't.

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