usingtheinternet Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 One of my friends is starting to drive me insane with her relationship "drama." Most girls wouldn't be so wrapped up in this situation, but my friend is 22 years old, has never been in a relationship, and is a virgin. She's also got a bunch of insecurity issues with herself (always thinking that she isn't good enough to be loved so she's suspicious of guys who are nice to her). Obviously she's really inexperienced with relationships. She's also REALLY sexually frustrated and impatient to lose her virginity. She rambles on about this guy constantly. She can go on about him for HOURS nonstop (seriously, not exaggerating), and I'm getting SO sick of it. Especially because as I get more and more information about them, I seriously think the dude is playing her. I've been telling her this lately, and she's getting kind of mad at me for being so negative. I'm wondering if you all think I'm crazy or what. This is the deal with their "relationship." She met this guy at a club like three months ago. Great place to meet a future boyfriend, right? Anyway, he supposedly liked her and asked her for her phone number. Through getting to know each other, my friend soon found out that the guy is 32 years old. He's very handsome and in shape, and he looks like he's actually about 25. The age thing made her a little hesitant, but she kept it going. At first, she was trying to push him away and show him that she wasn't going to let him play her. She kept telling him that she knew he was just after sex and that he should just admit it and be open about it. But the guy kept insisting that he thought she was really "interesting" and that he wanted to have a serious relationship with her. He even told her that he "loved" her a few times (that would've been a major red flag for me). She finally agreed to hang out with him and they got together a few times. At one point, she let him know that she's a virgin. He told her that he was eventually going to teach her all she needs to know. So that was during the first couple of weeks that they knew each other. Then this guy had to go to another country for a family vacation. He's been away for the past two months, but he and my friend have been talking on the phone and through skype on a regular basis. Overall, they mostly talk about shallow stuff. Whenever they talk about "relationship" stuff, it's usually my friend constantly telling him that she's not going to let him play her and that she's not an idiot, etc. To me that just seems like it would put a guy on edge. She can't seem to relax. But despite all that, the guy kept insisting that he only wanted her and that he wanted them to be serious. Due to constant obsessing over this guy, my friend has officially "fallen" for him. Unfortunately for her, he seems to have become less excited about her. She's always been the one who's had to initiate contact with him. He can go for days without talking to her. She's the one who always has to seek him out. On top of this, he's been hanging out with a lot of girls (my friend has been checking his facebook). One girl in particular is really into him. The guy is extremely good looking. In my opinion, he's a bit out of my friend's league. To me, he's just looking to get in my friend's pants. I think he enjoys the attention. I also think he was probably amused by how on edge my friend was from the very beginning. He's 32, and he already declares his love for my friend after only a week. That just seems really immature to me. It sounds like the typical things guys say to girls just to flirt, but don't take seriously. I also think he's excited about wanting to be the one to take me friend's virginity. I think he knows he can get any girl he wants, while my friend is really insecure and doesn't know if she can ever find another guy (especially one who's as good looking). My friend is slowly getting more and more paranoid as she sees how he's drifting away from her while she's just trying to latch on to him. He knows he that if he ever wants to sleep with her, it won't be so hard to get back into her life. I don't know. What should I tell her? Do you guys think he's playing her or what? To me it has disaster written all over it.
Author usingtheinternet Posted July 26, 2012 Author Posted July 26, 2012 She had a big fight with the guy today and called him out on spending time with another girl, while avoiding her for a whole week. He denied it but she doesn't believe it. Still, she's going to keep playing along. I really thinks she just wants to lose her v-card as soon as she can.
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