Awarth Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Hey everyone, Just an update.. so a couple of nights back, my ex sent me a message at 3am..basically she was asking if i was there and could i accompany her for a while..since i was asleep i did not reply her..anyway, in the morning, i saw the message and just reply her a "wats up?" ..she immediately reply and told me that her boyfriend had just dumped her and she had no idea what to do..then she went on to say that how painful it is for her... a little background story, my ex left me for someone else after we had been together for 5 plus yrs...and it has been almost 10 months since she dumped me...i guess she is starting to reap what she sow.. so what should i do now? i still had feelings for this girl...and i do want to get her back... 1
Tiberius Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Girl like that, will be looking to "trade up" in the future as well. She is not in the relationship to make you happy, she is there to make herself happy. You will constantly have to worry about competition. 1
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 ohhh karma is such a B***H shes only coming to you for emotional support...uhm where the hell has she been when you needed her? no where! so just take care of yourself and karma will keep taking care of her. 6
Sugarkane Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 ohhh karma is such a B***H shes only coming to you for emotional support...uhm where the hell has she been when you needed her? no where! so just take care of yourself and karma will keep taking care of her. I completely agree!!! 1
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Tell her you'll let her know in 10 months. Then block everything where you can't even receive a text, email, call, FB. 3
Stanza Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 If you still want her back then you need to analyse the reasons for your break up with her. If it's stuff she needed to work on, or you.... - I know she went off with someone else but there must be a reason behind her need to do that - so i think you have to go back to basics on what happened and if whatever it is can be fixed / is fixed / needs fixing etc............ then you can start meeting her maybe...but dont get physical etc until you can see if what her agenda is etc.
Soxfaninfl Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 Hey everyone, Just an update.. so a couple of nights back, my ex sent me a message at 3am..basically she was asking if i was there and could i accompany her for a while..since i was asleep i did not reply her..anyway, in the morning, i saw the message and just reply her a "wats up?" ..she immediately reply and told me that her boyfriend had just dumped her and she had no idea what to do..then she went on to say that how painful it is for her... a little background story, my ex left me for someone else after we had been together for 5 plus yrs...and it has been almost 10 months since she dumped me...i guess she is starting to reap what she sow.. so what should i do now? i still had feelings for this girl...and i do want to get her back... WTF is wrong with this chick? Is she is for real? She is coming to you for support after she broke up with you after 5 years of being together for another guy! Like one of the previous posters said karma is a bitch! You take her back, and she will burn you again. Be strong and move on. I know it's hard. My ex left me after 13 years for another man, so I know your pain. 1
Kovalchoke Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 10 months is a long time. Were you in contact with your ex during this time? Or were you two completely ignoring each other? I'd kill to be in your position! What scares me is that you still have feelings for her and want to be with her again, which makes me question my own situation. What you should do is either ignore her, or be a jerk to her like she was to you. 1
Author Awarth Posted July 24, 2012 Author Posted July 24, 2012 10 months is a long time. Were you in contact with your ex during this time? Or were you two completely ignoring each other? I'd kill to be in your position! What scares me is that you still have feelings for her and want to be with her again, which makes me question my own situation. What you should do is either ignore her, or be a jerk to her like she was to you. She will drop me a message maybe like once a month for the 10 months since we have broken up..usually just asking how was i..i will usually just reply a short message to saying "fine" and that's about it..i never call her myself actually..guess this is what they call breadcrumbs i supposed? anyway, now my ex is facing another complicated situation..it seems that the guy she left me for is being wishy-washy now..he seems to not want to let go completely and just want to stay together with my ex and see how things go..LOL..i guess karma is a bitch then..because this i what my ex did to me at first (for those that are interested, you can read my earlier post in Loveshack).. Guess it is just wise to let her be for now..
KatZee Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Hey everyone, Just an update.. so a couple of nights back, my ex sent me a message at 3am..basically she was asking if i was there and could i accompany her for a while..since i was asleep i did not reply her..anyway, in the morning, i saw the message and just reply her a "wats up?" ..she immediately reply and told me that her boyfriend had just dumped her and she had no idea what to do..then she went on to say that how painful it is for her... a little background story, my ex left me for someone else after we had been together for 5 plus yrs...and it has been almost 10 months since she dumped me...i guess she is starting to reap what she sow.. so what should i do now? i still had feelings for this girl...and i do want to get her back... So sad, too bad. Listen, she left you after FIVE YEARS to go sow her oats with this new person. Karma sucks. Don't play into her little empathy trap. She actually has the nads to come to YOU to tell YOU how much it hurts? It was a 10 month relationship. Move the f*ck on. She was with you FIVE YEARS and stomped on your heart like it was nothing, and went right to the next, and she thinks she has the right to tell you what "hurts" ?? I would tell her to shove it. Stick it where the sun don't shine. Piss off. Please know you're better than this. You DON'T want this chick back. You're nothing but second best. And the second she got back with you, even if she TRIES... not sure if she's looking to get back or just looking for a shoulder to cry on... but she clearly wasn't happy. She'd have her little rose glasses on for a hot second and then she'd realize why she left the first time around. You're no ones back up plan. 3
Follower Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 Yea contact once a month? What a cow, she has been keeping you as backup this whole time what a selfish biatch. Do yourself a favour and tell her to piss right off, hell put her in her place a little while your at it, she has earned it then ignore block and move on. Lucky you man funny how it all works out in the end
Kovalchoke Posted July 24, 2012 Posted July 24, 2012 She will drop me a message maybe like once a month for the 10 months since we have broken up..usually just asking how was i..i will usually just reply a short message to saying "fine" and that's about it..i never call her myself actually..guess this is what they call breadcrumbs i supposed? anyway, now my ex is facing another complicated situation..it seems that the guy she left me for is being wishy-washy now..he seems to not want to let go completely and just want to stay together with my ex and see how things go..LOL..i guess karma is a bitch then..because this i what my ex did to me at first (for those that are interested, you can read my earlier post in Loveshack).. Guess it is just wise to let her be for now.. Im guessing you two had a really bad breakup right? The thing is when my ex dumped me I tried hard to get her back but to no avail. She thought i was obsessive because of that but in reality i just loved her very much. Judging on what happened with your ex, i hope my ex will experience what i did with her new guy (who i heard is a douchebag)
Author Awarth Posted July 25, 2012 Author Posted July 25, 2012 Im guessing you two had a really bad breakup right? The thing is when my ex dumped me I tried hard to get her back but to no avail. She thought i was obsessive because of that but in reality i just loved her very much. Judging on what happened with your ex, i hope my ex will experience what i did with her new guy (who i heard is a douchebag) here's my original post..you can read about it if you are interested... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/305740-dumped-twice-my-5yrs-gf-three-months-need-some
Eddie Edirol Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 This isnt the time for you to try to get back with her. She already would see you as going backwards. She is now heartbroken over this guy and trying to work it out. The only way you gcan get her to look at you is if you already had a girlfreind and bragged about how this gf was doing everything for you. Your ex will not fall into your arms while she is thinking about this guy, so forget her for now. Stop talking her calls and texts.
Kovalchoke Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 here's my original post..you can read about it if you are interested... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/305740-dumped-twice-my-5yrs-gf-three-months-need-some honestly, if my ex was the one responsible for all this hurt, the only way i would take her back is if she showed me she's changed and all the faults she exhibited at the end of the relationship were gone. Doesn't look like your ex has changed at all...plus the fact that she's already with a new guy.
macardent Posted July 25, 2012 Posted July 25, 2012 Really?? Dude she is looking for an emotional band aid again.. screw her.. we all have feelings for our exes.. Just don't show it. And move on. One day you'll not have such feelings. 1
listen_to_me_please Posted July 27, 2012 Posted July 27, 2012 (edited) you were smart enough to play the game with her. what are you going to do now? me personally i kept cussing my ex out so she went nc 2.5 years then resurfaced, i was polite for about 6 or 7 conversations then cussed her out again. a few months later she asked me to send her a $50 hat to "save her some money" and i replied and said "no" Edited July 27, 2012 by listen_to_me_please
Author Awarth Posted August 1, 2012 Author Posted August 1, 2012 hey everyone...so apparently, my ex and her bf is back together again...just found out...so i guess this is what happen when you ignore the advice given here and still check on the ex..cause now i am feeling down once again...sigh..guess it will still be sometime before i can let her go...completely..
AlexfromBoston Posted August 1, 2012 Posted August 1, 2012 If you are looking to break her heart, you could always engage in a cheap sexual tryst and take off immediately after you finish. Then ignore her calls and never speak to her again. Otherwise, I would stay clear of her. She screwed you over once, she WILL do it again. 1
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