Awarth Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 Hey everyone, kinda new here, i just got dumped by my 5yrs gf..twice..in 3 months..so jus need some advice.. anyway, i will try to summarize my story~here goes... so basically both of us had been dating for 5 yrs, talk of having a family after we both graduate and got a job.. Then in around July this yr, she suddenly tell me that she really love this another guy, lets call him guy A, and have lost feelings for me..since she is my first love, i of course make those standard mistakes like begging and crying and being angry..and of course like most cases, she still left me..then i jus go on NC with her for 1 wk plus when she suddenly calls me and says she miss me..we talk for a while and agree to meet on the next day..so we met and talked..she told me that guy "A" is just lying to her and she is really hurt..so i jus gif her a shoulder to cry on..and before long, we were doing things that only couples do and it is lyk as if we are back together again..she will msg me nuw and then to see if i am doing well, take care of me, being nice..i spend more time wif her then usual too and she seems happy about it..but when i ask her to become my gf again, she jus say don't pressure her and gif her time to come back..so i jus let it go..this goes one for around two months.. then, in October, she suddenly call me at night, and ask if i still love her..i say i do..but then, she just tell me "Can u pls let me go, i've been seeing this guy (let's call him guy "B") and when i am wif him, i feel so in love.."..this time i did not beg her to stay, instead i ask her why, in a calm tone.. coz its only a few days ago when she told me that she had loved me again and she regret leaving someone that love her so much..she just answer me "i dont know".. At this point, i am really heart broken..i even forgot to be angry..i just say, (calmly again) "Fine, i let u go..be happy.." then she jus say "i'm sorry" and hang up.. after that night, i gone on NC wif her again for 2 wks..then suddenly, she called again..asking me why i did not call her, and asking me to not ignore her..i jus say i was busy..we talk for a while..never mentioning anything about her relationships..and i say i will call her when i haf the time..i wish her good nitex and then we jus hang up..my heart has lightened a bit as i tot that maybe she will come back again.. then the nxt morning, when i was back in the campus, i saw her walking wif another guy..all the way back to his dorm room..i don't know if that is the guy "B" or what they are doing inside the room..my heart just feel like it shattered again.. i call her a couple of times in the following wk..but she only gives one word answer and seem so distracted that i have to end the call after just a few minutes..i mean, i just don't understand, isn't she the one that want me to call her? Yet she is now acting so cold.. i did call her again on her birthday at the start of November..this time, she replies me in that cute tone that she used to use when she is around with me..but again, she does not seem to want to talk, and so i just hang up after 1 minute..and we have not been in contact till now.. Gosh..i am just so confuse now..i don't think she know what she wants..i still love her..but i just have no idea what she was thinking now.. I've read something about the so-call "Grass is Greener syndrome"...is this what she is having now? Both of us are 22...we gone through so much together..we have never have any big fights and i have been trying to be the perfect BF..treating her like a princess, but giving her lots of space and basically no restriction on who she goes out with...always be there for her..but now she is doing this to me.. So pls, could anyone just tell me what is going on?
flitzanu Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 i stopped reading when i got to "i'm f-king yet another guy". that's guy "A" and now guy "B" she's left you for, and you're going back for more? walk away bro, she's done. she's going to keep talking to you because you're allowing her to sleep with whoever she wants, and you're just sitting at home waiting for her.
RIO5 Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 You came here for advice, so I hope you use it. Look, your ex is playing with you. The feelings of you being confused TELLS YOU that things are not right and you should walk the other way. If you like to be played, then by all means...keep being her door mat. When a girl tells you that they do not want you anymore...dont fight it and simply be a man and walk away. It makes no sense to want someone who doesnt want you! As long as she continues to mingle with other guys...you have your answer to whether or not she wants to be with you. Please do not buy into her B.S. stories about how she misses you. She ONLY misses you when the other guys she likes do not play out the way she wants them. You are her safety net!!! Dont be that!! Isnt it funny she once guy A wasnt working out, she goes back to you? Bottom line: if a girl wants to be with you...she WILL be with you. Dont let your ex have power over you. She's an immature child; try dating a real woman and you will notice the difference. See thru her B.S. and go for something better. A lot of us have been in your shoes before. Good luck
ChelseaLS Posted November 8, 2011 Posted November 8, 2011 You came here for advice, so I hope you use it. Look, your ex is playing with you. The feelings of you being confused TELLS YOU that things are not right and you should walk the other way. If you like to be played, then by all means...keep being her door mat. When a girl tells you that they do not want you anymore...dont fight it and simply be a man and walk away. It makes no sense to want someone who doesnt want you! As long as she continues to mingle with other guys...you have your answer to whether or not she wants to be with you. Please do not buy into her B.S. stories about how she misses you. She ONLY misses you when the other guys she likes do not play out the way she wants them. You are her safety net!!! Dont be that!! Isnt it funny she once guy A wasnt working out, she goes back to you? Bottom line: if a girl wants to be with you...she WILL be with you. Dont let your ex have power over you. She's an immature child; try dating a real woman and you will notice the difference. See thru her B.S. and go for something better. A lot of us have been in your shoes before. Good luck I find her actions to be very worrisome. You need to let go for real, she has some serious stuff she needs to work on or through, or both.
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