pinkyfairy Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 (edited) He finally broke up with me after one month of struggling,he said he still likes me and wants to keep in touch..He's made it so clear that there wouldn't be any possibility for us in the future and that he won't ever fall in love with me again. I tried whatever I could to save our relationship,and said that I wouldnt give him up..He said we could talk about it one week after,we don't contact each other or if we do,we do not talk about it,but don't live with hope.. One week after,he finally contacted me again,but the text message was so simple,just "hi" and a smiley,,I didn't listen to my friends and sent him back a message "hi",and after I was feeling terrible..he texted me back one day after,I think he did it on purpose,and his message was "we text each other one message in one day,that's average"...it sounds ironic..So I just ignored him after. Yesterday,he texted me again and asked if I was going to ignore him,I didnt want to reply,so I was thinking if I should,and he texted again this morning saying something like please text me back,I understand that you dont want to talk to me but please tell me how you are doing,I am worried about you", it pissed me off!!! so I texted back immediately and said "your worried?for what?I am still alive",, then he texted back "you didnt text back,why do you talk like that? you dont want to talk to me anymore?" What the hell he wants from me? to know if I am doing okay when he knows that I am not! and he said it himself that he understood that I dont want to talk to him,but in the second message he asked if I dont want to talk to him anymore, what is the point to text me?to hurt me again?to make sure that I havent got over him yet? I am moving on quickly because of how nasty he was to me at the end of our relationship..honestly,I don't want him back,and I still hate him,but I am just so curious to know what else he is trying to do to me Edited July 22, 2012 by pinkyfairy
zanzi Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 he is just pushing your buttons and messing with your mind. He sounds manipulative. Its sad that he said these things to you and wont give you space to heal from those words. It sounds like you need to tell him to leave you alone, as he broke up with you and is now not respecting your wished for space to heal. I think you are better off without him.
StrangeBehaviors Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 He wants you and doesn't want you at the same time. Tolerate what you want.
Eddie Edirol Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 He is curious about how you are doing, but once you say you are fine, he wont continue the conversation after that. He just wants to satisfy his curiosity, I dont think he is doing it to manipulate you, but he doesnt realize how it hurts you. But from now on, I think you should ignore him. Because if you respond, he knows you still need to engage with him, when you dont, it shows you dont need him.
Author pinkyfairy Posted July 22, 2012 Author Posted July 22, 2012 He is curious about how you are doing, but once you say you are fine, he wont continue the conversation after that. He just wants to satisfy his curiosity, I dont think he is doing it to manipulate you, but he doesnt realize how it hurts you. But from now on, I think you should ignore him. Because if you respond, he knows you still need to engage with him, when you dont, it shows you dont need him. He seems really stupid not to have realized how much it hurts me each time when he texts me,he doesnt know what he wants probably,first he said he understood that I dont want to talk to him,but then he asked if I dont want to talk to him anymore...I just want this to end,we could be friends but not right now,I should maybe just tell him to leave me alone?
Eddie Edirol Posted July 22, 2012 Posted July 22, 2012 He seems really stupid not to have realized how much it hurts me each time when he texts me,he doesnt know what he wants probably,first he said he understood that I dont want to talk to him,but then he asked if I dont want to talk to him anymore...I just want this to end,we could be friends but not right now,I should maybe just tell him to leave me alone? Since he isnt hurting, he might not be thinking about how much it hurts you for him to do this. He knows what he wants, it just isnt you, but he might keep in contact to make sure he finds someone before you do. A lot of dumpers do this when they dont have anything going on. Because some people cant handle it when they dump someone, and the dumpee moves on before the dumper finds someone. So you might have to describe in great detail what happens to you mentally and physically when he contacts you, then tell him you are cutting off all contact with him, including blocking his numbers. You dont give him a choice to contact you or not, you just cut him off.
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