dannykeyz831 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 Because as heartless, carefree and just nasty as they can be, it isnt about putting them down. It isnt about stooping to their level. As hurt as i am, im not gonna fight with her or this new guy. She found who she wants. And just seems to be happy with him. The whole time she was with me just seems like it was all a lie. Constant letters and pictures from her. Memories, things she d say or do. How commited she seemed to the relationship and crazy about me she seemed. I guess it was just all a lie. She blinded me. Theres nothing i can do about it. Once someone i was with does something with someone else, i dont ever go back. They must notve cared or loved you in the first place if they could do that. Especially that quickly. You just gotta let them be. Thats what im doing. Theses days will be nightmares but shes gone. She has someone else. I gotta come to grips. I'm sorry to hear about that man. You are most certainly not alone. It's amazing how quickly they move on after having just had some of the best times in your life with them..all those places you went together..all those pictures you took together..and all those intimate moments you had together were you both looked at each others eyes and knew there wouldn't be no one else for the both of you. I don't know if you were in love with your girl or not but love is a dangerous thing my friend
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 I'm sorry to hear about that man. You are most certainly not alone. It's amazing how quickly they move on after having just had some of the best times in your life with them..all those places you went together..all those pictures you took together..and all those intimate moments you had together were you both looked at each others eyes and knew there wouldn't be no one else for the both of you. I don't know if you were in love with your girl or not but love is a dangerous thing my friend I was deeply in love with this girl. Still am. Still have the same feelings and am crazy about her. It is real dangerous. I learned that. Cause im back where it started. Theres nothing thatll bring her back. Now that shes done something with someone else and is just with someone now, i just cant forgive her and never want her again.
leoc1973 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 The way it works is usually a girl meets a new guy that she is interested in. She doesn't tell you obviously but plays that "I need space card" She fully intended on sneaking around and seeing if she likes the new guy more than you. Then you freak out tell her you love her and always will and never want another girl. Translation: go ahead and try the other guy out and I will be here wollowing over you till you decide what you wanna do with me.(usually this is why they wanna stay friends so they can keep an eye on you to see if you find another girl) Here is what you do: you go on these forums and read every thing about girls who dumped guys but want them back. You will notice the same pattern over and over. The guy told them to go to hell and started dating another girl. The girl starts to look at the new guy and suddenly he doesn't stack up to you. Why? Because deep down she loves you and with him its all superficial. Maybe he's better looking maybe smarter maybe a better talker but after she sees you REALLY slipping away she looks at him as the reason she is losing a love. The key here is you have to be REALLY slipping away. Not faking it not pretending not making a fake girl on facebook to like all your comments but seriously slipping away. This is your only chance at getting back a girl like her. Not begging or crying or pleading or reasoning or even threatening to kill yourself. The only thing she is going to notice is the potential of you with another girl. NO contact and not only that ignore her like the plague. Until she begs for you back ignore her. Here is your homework go and google "I dumped him but want him back" and read all the girls stories on there. You will see what I am talking about. Good luck man and I didn't know till it was too late either cause my ex played that same I wanna be alone and you should be alone for a while crap with me too. 2
dannykeyz831 Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 I was deeply in love with this girl. Still am. Still have the same feelings and am crazy about her. It is real dangerous. I learned that. Cause im back where it started. Theres nothing thatll bring her back. Now that shes done something with someone else and is just with someone now, i just cant forgive her and never want her again. All we can do now is to initiate nc and go from there. The fact of the matter is both our ex girls have new bfs and there's nothing we can but move on ourselves. It's a difficult situation to be in because we gave a piece of our heart to them..a piece that we may never get back. That's the price that we pay when we fall in love with someone..especially that first love. Do not be discouraged though because if your capable of meeting someone and establishing a strong relationship with them, then your very capable of finding another girl...but one who will love you for who you are. It's not going to happen overnight so in time being, we have to keep ourselves busy and go out and have some fun..join a club, go out dancing..if she's having fun then so should you. She already knows you love her so if she and you are willing to get back together, she will come to you but for now just keep busy and the rest will take care of itself.
KatZee Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 She didnt move on quickly, she moved on months before she broke it off with you. Thats why she was with someone so fast after you, she didnt have to get over you. She was probably with that guy right after she broke it off, but you didnt find out about it until much later. You NEVER believe what they say when they start acting distant towards you. if their actions dont match their words, you dont believe them. You will remember this in your next relationship. People lie to keep you in the dark depending on their agenda, and you found this out the hard way, like pretty much everyone does that has ever been dumped more than once. I'll agree with this. Rarely do girls leave relationships without having something waiting for them on the other side. I did this to one of my exes. I was unhappy with him but I was scared of being alone. It was only when someone else came into my life that I started moving on while in the relationship with him. I finally ended it and was with the new guy "soon" after. All of his friends thought I had cheated on him, or that it was a rebound because it was so soon. But it wasn't soon, I was this new guys friend for months before I officially ended it. It only appeared to happen very quickly from those looking in from the outside.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 I'll agree with this. Rarely do girls leave relationships without having something waiting for them on the other side. I did this to one of my exes. I was unhappy with him but I was scared of being alone. It was only when someone else came into my life that I started moving on while in the relationship with him. I finally ended it and was with the new guy "soon" after. All of his friends thought I had cheated on him, or that it was a rebound because it was so soon. But it wasn't soon, I was this new guys friend for months before I officially ended it. It only appeared to happen very quickly from those looking in from the outside. I just wish i knew the whole time. Wouldve left her alone long ago,saved myself the hurt. But i never knew anything was going on. Cause she covered it up so well the whole time just by lying to me the whole time, constantly confusing me,just giving me false hope and excuses. She just didnt have the heart to tell me what was really going on. It took my brother seeing something to tell me. The constant thought of her with someone kissing/making out and being happy just haunts me now. Who knows what else theyve done or how long its happened. But ill never know. I was blinded the whole time by the person i thought she was. Its like reliving the first day of the breakup all over again. Just worse.
Radu Posted July 21, 2012 Posted July 21, 2012 People, listen to everyone on here when they say what i need space, and other lies an ex feeds you when they leave. Breadcrumbs too. Theyre right. I learned it. You read my stories, You know what i went through. Yet i just couldnt give up. I had hope, trust and waited for her. I learned my lesson tonight. My brother and his wife said they saw my ex downtown at a fireworks festival thing. She was sitting on a guys lap. Kissing him and pretty much making out. I guess he had gauges too. She saw them two i guess and looked scared/nervous and got away from them. Cause she didnt know they were standing near her until she saw them after. She got over me within a month and a half. After messing with my head. Manipulating me after the breakup. Making false promises. Giving false hope and lying about loving me still and what not. I wish i didnt learn this way. I shouldve left. People, stick to no contact. Itll save you. You lucky bastard. What if it had been 1.5yrs instead of 1.5months ? Go out and celebrate ... you got lucky and learned a very good lesson.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 21, 2012 Author Posted July 21, 2012 You lucky bastard. What if it had been 1.5yrs instead of 1.5months ? Go out and celebrate ... you got lucky and learned a very good lesson. I understand where your coming from. But im not lucky at all. I had to get fed lies and false hope the whole time so she could mess with my head completly and blind me. I went along with it until i found out last night. Sad part is, i didnt lose an ounce of feeling for her. The thought of her kissing someone else and being with someone has just been playing in my head. Never understand how someone could be that cruel. I doubt shes ever meant anything she said before.
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