I never broke the NC,but he texted me first,and I dont know what he wants

[pinkyfairy]

He finally broke up with me after one month of struggling

 

Things started when he found out I met some guys friends from internet when traveling for having some information of their cities,after that, he can't trust me anymore.After,we fought so much because of that,he got irritated easily because of that.He said he did much for me but I never did anything much for him in return. he finally got tired of that and that is one of the biggest reason that has changed his feelings.

 

He said he doesn't love me anymore,he just likes to spend time with me,enjoys being with me and is happy when we are together,but that is not love,and he is definitely sure that he doesn't want to spend his life with me...He said he loved me so much before and did all he could to make me happy,but I didn't do enough,which wasnt true.he doesn't want me to waste my time and get more hurt after.so he preferred to stop now but he still wants to stay in touch and know how I am doing,but he doesn't want to know who I hang out with or go on a date with..because it will make him upset.

 

He said we could talk about it one week after,we don't contact each other or if we do,we do not talk about it,but don't live with hope..

 

he finally contacted me again,but the text message was so simple,just "hi" and a smiley, I don't really know if I should reply even if all my friends told me not to,personally,I think he just wanted to make it clear again that it is done between us,and wanted to know if I am okay even if he knows that I am not..

 

I really don't want to be hurt more and one more time especially I am finally moving on...but on the other hand,I don't want him to think that I am rude or don't want to be friends(he should know that I am not ready for that yet)

 

Finally,I didn't listen to my friend and sent him back a message "hi",now I am feeling terrible because I can't wait to think when he will reply and what he will say...it doesn't help at all keeping in touch..he texted me back one day after,I think he did it on purpose,and his message was "we text each other one message in one day,that's average"...it sounds ironic.

 

I knew he said we would talk about it again after one week's separation,but now it seems it doesnt matter anymore anyway,what I dont understand is why is he doing it, because he tried so hard to keep me away and now he contacted me first,but didnt seem like wanting to talk,I really dont know what the hell he has on his mind....I was so in love with him but he was really nasty to me at the end of our relationship,because of how he was to me,I was moving on quickly than expected,but not when he texted me..Cant he leave me in peace as I did for his decision?So should I just ignore his text messages? and calls if he ever calls me?

[dinosaur]

Of course you should ignore him. He's playing with you because he feels you played with him. Obviously he did care about you and tried to deny his feelings for you and give you the could shoulder in revenge because he felt like you betrayed him. He's probably still hurting about that - but he still wants to hold onto you. He's being really immature. Sure, maybe you hurt him, but he should let go. It's not going to help either of you with him playing with your head in revenge. If he asks why you're ignoring him explain you want to move on and it's unfair to hold on if you're not going to be together and that this a break up. Wish him the best and move on.

[pinkyfairy]

Of course you should ignore him. He's playing with you because he feels you played with him. Obviously he did care about you and tried to deny his feelings for you and give you the could shoulder in revenge because he felt like you betrayed him. He's probably still hurting about that - but he still wants to hold onto you. He's being really immature. Sure, maybe you hurt him, but he should let go. It's not going to help either of you with him playing with your head in revenge. If he asks why you're ignoring him explain you want to move on and it's unfair to hold on if you're not going to be together and that this a break up. Wish him the best and move on.

 

He wants to hold onto me? but why is that? he's done all he could last month to hurt me,I think that was more than enough.. yeah,from what he did,everyone says that he is really immature..but he should really understand that does no good for me,and if what he wants from me by texting me? to feel comfort that I am still okay?